Woke up and saw my boyfriend going through my phone. Do you go through your girlfriends phone? If so, why?

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Is it because I caught him looking up a young girl from his work on Facebook?
Is he trying to find dirt on me so he has an excuse to cheat. I don't know. That’s all I can think of because he didn’t find anything cause I’m loyal.
I don't know what he was looking for? Do you go through your girlfriends phone and if so why

glennos89 · Accepted Answer

My girlfriend is allowed to go through my phone whenever she wants as long as she isn't going to make problems about unnecessary things she finds in there. I have nothing to hide so she is free to look in my phone if that comforts her mind. I do demand this goes both ways.

In your case it seems that you caught him doing something fishy and it might be his way of hoping to find you doing something wrong aswell. I find that behaviour very immature but I don't see the problem in him going through your phone unless you have something to hide from him.

If I where you.. I definitely would see his action as a warning sign because I think you caught him doing something fishy and perhaps he isn't as loyal as you might hope. I would find it suspicious to say the least

RavVid · Accepted Answer

I don't. We tend to project I think. As I say a lot, it does not occur to the honest man that others will be dishonest. So if someone tells you they are honest the hairs on the back of your neck should stand up. The cheater will think their partner is likely to cheat.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

as someone who has been online dating and meeting people over the internet for almost 10 years. I have met my fair share of married men looking to cheat. I might get a lot of negativity for saying this but... the most effective way to check if your spouse is cheating are SURPRISE checks of his or her phone. Do not let them delete whatever app before you check. Check all their messages.

But even if their phone is free from cheating messages, it does not entirely mean they still aren't cheating on you.

there is no fool proof way to know if your spouse is cheating on you.

I have SEEN IT ALL.

PeachyPie93 · Accepted Answer

Yes I have gone through my exes phone and didn't care if he caught me.. If he is acting different or not sleeping with me I will look. He never told me his password but I figured it out on the 3rd night and he wasn't doing anything noticeable. He had no messages beside group chats but he was giving a girl and guy from work lifts home after, he never told me about it. I thought is was sus but never mentioned it to him. I don't think he cheated on me tho so I left it at that.

genericname85 · Answer

so first of all: i don't think it's ok to to through anyones phone without permission. but secondly: why is he even able to get in your phone? don't you have passwords? and if you do have passwords, why the fuck does he know them? I don't know if that needs to be said but unless you've been married for like 10 years, your partners don't get your password. are you mad? xD do you understand how much they can fuck you up with that? that's not a "romantic" risk to take. it's plain dumb.

MrChinaski · Answer

1. Lock your phone. 2. That's a big red flag

Lliam · Answer

That's sneaky and dishonest. A major invasion of privacy that indicates distrust. It's like ransacking your purse or bedroom when you are not around. I wouldn't trust someone like that.

Kaneki05 · Answer

Have before but only because we both allowed each other to do so as we had nothing to hide.

To go through without permission I would need to be certain she is cheating but then I would of told her I know.

hirew72673 · Answer

I'm a huge privacy fan, and I think, everyone is entitled to it.
A relationship should be based on trust, never on control, in my opinion.
If you ask me, you should bring it up, set healthy boundaries to have the type of relationship you want to have, and if he is still to insecure to trust you, consider if you want to be in that relationship.

MrOracle · Answer

If my girlfriend wants to go through my phone, she is responsible for dealing with the customers and issues that come in while she does so. I would love the break.

ohsheeT · Answer

It probably could be depending on what you both want this is probably the down hill slide all he had to do was be honest now this is where drama starts

Whitewulf · Answer

At least you are open enough to leave it where it’s accessible. Mine will not let me go through it she sleeps on it takes it everywhere. Ever since then I’ve lost all respect for her.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Nope, and I wouldn't even ask for it. Unless she, unprompted, has given me specific permission to pick up her phone and go through it; what's on her phone is none of my business.

Nikki1989 · Answer

And so? Do you have something to hide? Anyone is free to go through my phone any time they like.

spartan55 · Answer

If you are at the point of going through each other's phones then you have no business being together.

Finchie40 · Answer

He suspects you might be cheating on him , tell him to let You go through his phone , if he says No , then he is cheating on you

JohnnyB123321 · Answer

I do not go through phones at all. Mine is private and I would not want that done. It’s not that there is anything bad in there. But there could be some stuff I’d have to explain. Like my internet history. lol

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Typically when people do this, they are guilty of doing something wrong. It’s their sub conscious telling them to see if you to are doing the wrong thing.

strateguy632 · Answer

I can't because she locks it. But you suspect him so dump him.

Shiprex · Answer

I don't and wouldn't because I trust her and allow her privacy. It's not a sign of trust in the slightest.

slatyb · Answer

Why does he have access to your phone? My wife and I don't share phones

WhitneySnow · Answer

That’s a terrible invasion of privacy and I agree with you

Anonymous · Answer

If you have nothing to hide why are you acting so insecure aaaah

WonderingManII · Answer

I don't have a girlfriend, but if I did, I think I would stay away from her phone.

DrPepper12 · Answer

Nope. No passcodes either. We both don't care.

Ironic_Method · Answer

Nope. And to my knowledge she has never gone through mine. Been together for about 10 years.

Yohenis · Answer

Unless and until you have anything to hide what's the harm in that? Completely normal in relationships.

Sam1133 · Answer

He surprised by seeing your loyalty towards him.. Deep inside he knows he don't deserve you so just checking are playing him. Lol

Filthy_Immigrant · Answer

I think its time for someone to switch to Apple

chocolatetwopointo · Answer

he's searching to see if ur cheating, not that hard to understand.

In_Trance · Answer

Grounds for divorce. Walk away and don't ever look back

Godihateyou · Answer

Yes i go through my wifes phone. She keeps sending my dic pics to her friends and coworkers.

Miristheiss · Answer

Trust... but verify.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

Is this the same guy you suspect was cheating?

bowenw · Answer

Only he knows, but he may be insecure.

Jay-_- · Answer

Are you sure he was going through it?

Jerre · Answer

I would NEVER do that

StevenMcGarrett · Answer

I don't go through anyone's phone that isn't mine.

Anonymous · Answer

Major invasion of privacy.

Anonymous · Answer

No. Because that's her privacy.

Anonymous · Answer

I wish i could

jahaims · Answer

He cheats

BarryLiverstone · Answer

He’s curious

Pterodon · Answer

Never.

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