Guys, do you go through your girl’s phones? Why/why not?

[Pinay_ako]

Ladies, do you mind if he goes through your phone?

oh he’d be entertained 🤣

[rgii55447]

Well, obviously if you truly are in a deep relationship with one another, then you wouldn't want to keep secrets from eachother, there is no reason to hide what's on your phone, but at the same time, there is no reason to hide that you're going through heir phone. Open communication is the key here.

[ProbablyClueless]

Nope. I never have and I can't think of any reason that I'd want to. My thinking is that, if I've gotten to the point of even wanting to go through her phone, our relationship is already over because there's no way I'd really be satisfied by what I found lol.

[MrOracle]

No. There's no point.

If a girl wants to be with me, that's great, but I have certain standards. I can't MAKE her do anything or make her NOT do anything - all I can do is control whether or not the relationship continues. She has to choose ME over other things that are deal-breakers to me - and it's completely up to her to make that choice. Obviously that means I have to be able to deliver enough value to her to make it worth it, so it's not like I don't have any responsibility in the matter. But I'm not going to try to micro-manage her - if I felt I had to do that, I'd just end it, because I don't have that kind of time or energy, and I don't want to be with that kind of person.

And if she wanted to go through my phone, she could - on the condition that SHE responds to all of the customer texts and emails that have come in that hour. SHE can deal with the customer who is upset that their "WiFi" isn't working despite the cable company working down the street to fix a broken line, or why the smart timer didn't turn their lights on that night at sunset as it always does, and, oh, did I mention that the power was out around that time? LOL. She'll never want to look at my phone again!

[Taurusmoon]

Today, people communicate with each other mostly through social medias. So nobody knows whom the other person is talking to. Hence people are more prone to cheat if they have bad intentions towards their partner. So I think both girlfriend and boyfriend going through each other's phone every once in a while (if they start showing some suspicious behavior) is normal.

Even if the relationship is going normally and happily checking phone is normal thing unless we try to do it daily ( like it's an insecurity thing) . Not everyone but mostly those who are hiding sth will get defensive or not let their partner touch their phone. And those who have nothing to hide will just hand over their phone.

But we don't have right to ask them or know about their bank details or emails or other credentials about their work related things ( that's too muchh) but yeah checking phone sometimes is not a bad thing. Even if you are not hiding sth what's the problem with checking. Anyways that's just my opinion 😄.

[Taurusmoon]

If checking phone is invasion of privacy then what about having sex where you are naked in front of each other😅😅 what about privacy? I mean if you have shared your body with your partner whats the problem with sharing phone locks😜😜

[Juxtapose]

Your phone is like your diary, your mailbox and all of your library searches all In one plus more. You are absolutely insane if you share your phone and also you are sharing very private things other people tell you by sharing your phone.

[Pistolshrimp]

I leave my phone out and unlocked on purpose for them to look into it because im not hiding anything. i can only imagine a girl would keep her phone locked and secret because she has something to hide. thats not healthy in a relationship. now would i intentionally go and unlock it to look. NO. but i would also break off the relationship if i found out her phone was consistantly locked and that she had a trust issue like that. how can i trust you to have a stable relationship, kids, marriage, if you can't even share whats on your phone.

[Taurusmoon]

Exactly 💯

[Juxtapose]

Do you ask to see people's diaries? Do you ask to look through their mail? Do you ask to see what they have researched in a library? Do you ask to see the darkest secrets their friends have ever told them?

Because that's what's going to be on a phone.

[Taurusmoon]

@Juxtapose I'm not talking about seeing their mails or library or sth. I'm particularly talking about going through the messages to see if they are talking inappropriately to the opposite sex whom I don't know about or if there are any dating apps installed. That's it

[Juxtapose]

That is incredibly insecure, paranoid and uncalled for. I would never let anybody go through my messages because I have had people tell me very private things through there, such as how they were fucking raped.

[Pistolshrimp]

@Juxtapose so i dont know new novel concept here. delete the message after you read it. do you need the message to be on your phone forever to have a memory of their rape stored digitally for you or something?

[Juxtapose]

You can't delete messages other people send you on the vast majority of messaging applications lol.

[Pistolshrimp]

@Juxtapose exactly my point. you are sitting here trying to act like your phone is a written document like a diary or a personal note meanwhile your phone is fully capable of not holding onto the information presented. you shouldn't have other members of the opposite sex that aren't just friends on your cell phone, you shouldn't keep personal information on your cell phone, and you shouldn't need to keep your cell phone a secret as if you were being honest with your SO then they would know who is on your phone and why to begin with.

[Juxtapose]

My phone is private, very private. Nobody has any business looking into it and it's password protected for every unlock.

[Pistolshrimp]

@Juxtapose and you say everyone else has trust issues sheesh.

[Juxtapose]

Yeah, looking into my phone means you don't trust me. It's my business, boundaries are important.

[Pistolshrimp]

@Juxtapose keeping it locked means you dont trust them. Which is huge red flags and makes your SO want to know what you are hiding and if it's that much just on the phone who knows what skeletons are in the closet.

[Juxtapose]

I haven't had that problem because I don't date insecure women. I'm not going to check their phone and they're not going to check my phone. I have private conversations there, phone numbers, password information, what I owe or who owes me money, etc. My life is on here.

[Juxtapose]

Boundaries exist and are a healthy thing to have.

[Pistolshrimp]

@Juxtapose boundaries and hiding secrets are two different things. I suggest you spend some time reading about it and contemplate just how incredulous you're statement is.

[ObscuredBeyond]

Don't have a phone. But if it were you, and you wanted me going through it for whatever strange reason, define "entertained." It's you were talking about, so I'd give just about any of it a chance. But are we talking entertained as in construction videos, cat videos, you jilling off with one hand and taking pics of it with the other? Chats that turned to drama way too fast? Pinoy soaps? I'm totally lost on what you mean. I'd want to make you happy, but I have to know what I'm dealing with.

And I'd probably rather just load up my phone to show you my works in progress, than go through yours. Again, you'd have to give me special invitation to snoop around on it.

If we were together and some random Brad or Charlie booty called you, that'd be one thing. Otherwise, I usually care a lot about privacy.

[ObscuredBeyond]

* I wouldn't go through your phone.

* we're talking about

Wow. My phone's autocorrect is failing. And I was way too tired to notice.

[Sonorous]

If I were in a relationship, I'd want it to be one where we don't need to go through each others phones. Ones where we're got nothing to hide. One where she could say, my phone broke, I need to borrow yours. And I could immediately do so without feeling like I have to delete anything. And I'd expect her to be the same way.

[rigmarole]

I don't even want to use my phone, you think I want to use yours? If you're a turd I'll notice it long before I even know what kind of phone you use. You might think I've been going through your phone, your emails, doing background checks on you, etc. but that's just because I'm observant and inquisitive. I lead people to telling me things they don't remember telling me, but I remember everything, connect the dots, and read between the lines.

[Juxtapose]

No, it's incredibly invasive. Your phone is your diary, your mail correspondences, your library research history and likely something that houses the deepest secrets some of your friends have ever told you.

People who insist on seeing your phone really have not thought about this and have no boundaries.

[AviatorTom]

Never have, never will. Her phone (any other electronic devices too) is her private property. It would be an invasion of her privacy... and totally wrong.

Sometimes, she shows me something soon her phone, and that's fine.

[richardcory]

Never have never will. I trust her. If I went through her phone, or she went through mine, that would mean there was no trust. In that case we would be free to do anything as long as we didn't get caught. You can trust, or you can verify - you can't do both

[SnowedIn]

F no never. That's her business. She can do what she wants and I don't need to be going through that.

[BoopBoopBeep]

It's rude. I have no interest in what's in there.

[Kacka]

no never did it in my life. didn't even had that idea in minds :D and why not. see no reason for it. it won't change anything. childish actions it is. nothing more.

[BlackJeep]

No. We know each others passwords if we want to go through each others phone but she's never given me any reason to be suspicious.

[MysticDevice]

Not unless someone was about to die and the lifesaving info was in her phone.

[jwmiller95]

Never have i ever but lately I have thought about it to get on her Facebook and join the "are we dating the same guy" page to see if my name popped up anywhere

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

No and never will. I just don't feel the need to plus I think its disrespectful if you didn't even ask.

[dolemite58]

no womens phones are just a box of other potential dicks in her future 🤣

[TooHot2Care]

Why would I need to do that?

I can read people's minds, I don't need to go onto your phone.

[Andres77]

I only did once, when I was trading our cellphones in for upgrades years ago.

she's done it to me numerous times.

[andreasderjuengere]

I don't.

There's nothing in it that could catch my interest - sad as it is.