Would you let your boyfriend or girlfriend go through your phone?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

My grandma is very old school and one time my boyfriend tried grabbing my phone out of my hands while I was reading something and he was like " let me see lol" But he didn't make it seem demanding it was more like playing around but at the same time it was demanding if that makes sense. It's odd because he really isn't that type of person but for some reason he wanted to see my phone and I didn't let him and it was so awkward because this was in front of my grandma. My grandma didn't say anything until the next day and told my mom about it and then spoke with me about how I should never let a guy treat me like that because that's an early sign of an abusive relationship or that he could be demanding. She told me a guy and a girl both deserve some privacy. I assurred her she has nothing to worry about. I do have stuff to hide though such as embarassing photos of my belly because I was trying to lose weight so I took before pictures for my eyes only and don't want him to see me looking all fat lol I also had embarassing stuff I search like politics that he's against, searching things like medical personal stuff that I may be dealing with so stuff like that. But if his phone dies and needs to use mine then that's fine.

Prettygurl12 · Accepted Answer

If he thought I was cheating then I'd be pissed and his going through my phone would likely end the relationship regardless of the outcome.

My phone literally just died yesterday - need a new one, the battery is messed up or something - and we've been sharing his phone for our various phone needs until I can get a new one (we're on our honeymoon right now so it'll have to wait another week). So... I've had access to his information and stuff but haven't gone snooping. I guess, in the interest of fairness, he now deserves access to my new phone lol

EpicDweeb · Accepted Answer

In theory yes... but I would not give her my phone simply because she demanded it unless I was at the point of trusting her completely. She is not entitled to my privacy. If she's concerned about something I'll do my best to show that there is no need to worry about me being loyal or anything like that, but I do not owe her my privacy. I have close friends who have trusted me with their secrets and have put their trust in me by sharing stuff about their struggles with me. I have nothing to hide, but that doesn't mean my friends don't. If I could trust my girlfriend wholly to respect the privacy of my friends then I'd let her look through my phone in a heartbeat. As far as I'm aware I have nothing to hide though... the youtube videos I watch may make me look a bit childish and that would be somewhat embarrassing. At any rate...

ImSoSquishy · Accepted Answer

if possible i really don't want to, because not only is it my own privacy, it is also the privacy between me and my friends and family. the private things we talk about, which anyone would expect to us to keep it to ourselves because there's that unspoken trust between us as friends or best friends. i doubt she would want other people to read the things we talk about in our text messages, too.

i don't need them to read through my text messages, read some embarrassing things my friend told me in the past that he only wants me to know. then one day they meet and she starts bringing it up and my friend gets angry and possibly thinks i make fun of him behind his back or something and a huge drama starts to erupt between me and my friend. i don't want some shit like this ever happen.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I would tell my girlfriend that I have nothing to hide and she can search through my phone. I would also tell her that if she feels the need to search my phone, it means that she does not trust me and no relationship can survive without trust.

CherryRoseChampange · Answer

Nope because he's like a superhuman with technology so he can hack it instead. He has to work to find nothing but playlists, pictures, and shopping orders if he doesn't trust me.

Logorithim · Answer

Mine wanted to, which I didn't like, but women in her Country think Western guys are Players and they are very jealous, so I went along with it.

Angelina25 · Answer

I've nothing to hide but at the same time it is like he doesn't trust me, and intruding NY privacy.

PinkChampagne · Answer

Of course always, there is no problem

fauchelevent · Answer

Nope. He uses my phone all the time because, although he has his own now, it's just a really simple phone that has no extra functions on it, so he uses mine to use the internet or to play games or take pictures or whatever. I have absolutely no problem with that, I'm more than happy for him to use it because I trust he's just doing what he says, not spying on me. However, if he asked if he could go through it and read my stuff to see what I'm doing, I'd refuse and take away access to the phone, I just see that as too invasive and creepy. Using my phone is fine, going through it isn't.

MagDuff · Answer

I would let my girlfriend go through my phone since I do believe I deserve to have that privacy but I wouldn't want her to get nervous if I didn't let her. I would never ask my girlfriend if I could look in her phone since I trust her and respect her privacy (like it should be in any relationship). Although, if you suspect your boyfriend/girlfriend of cheating I don't think there is any shame in asking to see their phone and if your partner cares about you enough they will let you see so that you sleep better at night.

Moonchild714 · Answer

No I wouldn't let my man go through my phone. There is always a possibility that there is something he may not like. Not hiding anything but the chances that a person is going to not find something wrong on your phone is extremely slim. Ignorance is Bliss!!!

johnmspaghetti · Answer

I don't have shit to hide. What're you worried about them finding? Got a porn folder on your phone? Been taking candid pictures of women's feet? You thirsty on PoF maybe? Been texting someone way too strongly? If you're not doing something you shouldn't be doing, there shouldn't be a problem.

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GuyWhatRunsThePlace · Answer

I always let my ex see my phone when she wanted because I never used it for anything. I used Google Maps, Facebook, and took pictures. She got so bored with it she stopped asking after a year or two. Maybe I should have looked at her phone too, probably was sexting or something across all the social media shit she had on there.

FMJ_Guy · Answer

Why should he? Why should she go through a guy's phone?
If your relationship is SOOOOOOOO lacking in TRUST, that you want to look through their phone, then you are done, as a couple!
I would NEVER look through a Girlfriend's phone, even if she left it, as a 'test' to see if I would. If I cannot trust my partner, how can we have a relationship that works?

Arzie · Answer

I think it's a matter of personal privacy. I mean that just because you trust your significant other and vice versa it doesn't mean that they should be let into everything you do. Even if I know that she wouldn't find anything on my phone that would she would find concerning I still value my privacy and that is to be respected!

Cheers

MsLoli · Answer

If it were a requirement or demand, as is the case with controlling, abusive relationships, no. But that isn't the case, and I really don't care if he touches my phone because I have nothing to hide and I know he isn't looking through everything trying to find something that isn't there.

brendon76 · Answer

Not that I have anything in my phone that she can’t see but it’s more out of principle that I’d say no. I would like her to trust me and not feel the need or desire to go through my phone. If she was concerned about something or wanted to to know an answer I’d rather her ask me directly. Even if it’s asking me to show her something in my phone.

TripleAce · Answer

ya why not... just make sure to delete anything suspicious before hand lol... I even do that know when I meet friends and bring my iPad to show them stuff
I have to clean out all the sexy girls and dirty pics... take away anything suspicious so its presentable 😂

Ayer93 · Answer

I would always. Relationships are about trust. I have nothing to hide. I would also appreiciate my partner letting me know who she's talking to until I feel I trust her easily. Trust needa time to build and can easily be ruined. I would hate if I asked her "Hey, who ya texting?" and she replies "Why do you need to know?" or "Oh just a friend." I wouldn't say it's a deal breaker, but it's suspicious and cloak and dagger like.

jeremythedrummer · Answer

I dont like it but if she asks, i will. My ex and i decided to use the same password for both our phones but we trusted each other enough that I've never unlocked her phone and neither has she unlocked mine.

But I was forced by my parents to break up. So our bond was broken not by distrust but by my folks.

Anonymous · Answer

Mmmmm, maybe... maybe not. There are some personal messages I have between friends that maybe I wouldn’t want him to see. Other than that, I don’t really see any problem with him going through my phone - all of what I have can be explained (i rarely delete photos/texts).

Pinknpouty · Answer

I dont know. I would have to be allowed to go onto his phone too if that was the case. But there should be a mutual trust in the relationship and we shouldn't have to feel the need to go onto each others phones. Phones are a very personal thing and sometimes one talks to their friends or family membors about something private or sometimes you have to google something awkward haha

Juxtapose · Answer

No! She either trusts me or she doesn't. If she's so paranoid that she needs to look through my phone (which also has my friend's private information) then she can go date some capitulating loser who lets her put his balls in her purse.

People like that would look through your diary if you kept one.

Philyouup · Answer

FUCK NO it is my private place. the last place in the world where I don't need to let anyone in.. If you insist that you need to be in there, you can just go home.. If you want to invade my privacy , Walk in on me while I am dropping a deuce, At least I can laugh at the face you make.

JulieXO · Answer

No. I'm not hiding anything, but I like to keep a certain level of privacy. I get nervous when somebody else is using my phone or computer, it doesn't matter whether it's friends, family or significant other.

JohnFrost · Answer

I wouldn't give it if she asked. Specialy if its to check if i dont message other women. Because that is just a lack of trust. But by the time i trust her enough she could get my code but only use it on moments i said it was oke. And i wouldn't hide what im doing on my phone from her. If she reads over my shoulder thats fine.

MrOracle · Answer

Sure... but I've literally never had a girl ask. I don't make my girlfriends feel insecure, so there's no reason for them to feel the need.

LittleSally · Answer

No... because it would mean they don't trust me, and if they don't trust me what are we doing in the first place?
Even though I have nothing to hide... it would feel as though we're just not meant to be if they'd feel compelled to do such a thing.

achezc · Answer

She wouldn't need to go through it since I'd show her everything if I had one…, and actually the last couple of gfs I had I did let them use my phone and check whatever they want, there's no reason to hide something,

Astoriana · Answer

There’s nothing to find, but no. I am not down with that kind of manipulative behaviour. If you don’t trust me, then just break up with me. I don’t have time for that nonsense.

dmgstarfleet · Answer

I don't have anything to hide but it bespeaks an insecurity of the one demanding to inspect the phone. You cannot patrol someone in a healthy relationship

marijajr · Answer

I see this as a lack of space and that is one of the worst things ever. I'd let him do that, when he'd see there was nothing to worry about, I would go and continue with my life without him. There's no happiness without trust.

PondyPand · Answer

The only time he isn't is when I ban him from certain apps if I've bought gifts. Other than that, why not? We don't go through each others phones because the fact we can means we don't need to.

madhatters4 · Answer

sure i've got nothing to hide. but i'd be very concerned about trust issues

Kayla45 · Answer

If he has that much trust issues with me cheating then we aren't meant for each other.

aicarg · Answer

I don't have anything to hide, so yeah. But havi g hun fo though my family and friend chats as he just dissects through them would eventually feel evasive.

amarahorrorstory · Answer

yeah, but i wouldn't want them too. i'm not hiding anything but I have notes and things that have a lot of emotion on them and I'd want to keep it to myself, like a diary.

justsweet83 · Answer

Me and my gal are polyamorus. So there is nothing to hide. Don't get mad if you see something that you don't want to see though. And that's why I would never look in her phone. I know that she dates other guys and gals. But I don't want to see the stuff that they talk about. You're entitled to your privacy, but don't hide stuff from your SO.

Malita55 · Answer

No, even though i have nothing to hide, they should be able to trust me and not feel the need to go through my phone

Blunique · Answer

Yeah I'm dating you but I need my privacy. I don't want you to see my search history. Let's... Just not go there...

Bubblebrain · Answer

Can't see my secret porn stash. Just kidding haha. I don't like anyone going through my phone whether you're a boyfriend or my grandma.

God_of_Thunder · Answer

Sure, if she wanted to. The only she's going to find are the nude pictures that she sent to me, lol. Everything else is boring/uninteresting.

ShawnK521 · Answer

I would now... i would not with my ex. It's complicated. She was highly manipulative so would use anything against me. I have nothing to hide. I don't care now.

bubble_tea · Answer

Yes, but with a purpose.. like finding a certain pic I took. Going through my phone just to find something to fight about is a no no.

AnberlinCanucks · Answer

Neither of us need to. We are built on trust. But if either of us ever wanted to, neither would have an issue with it. We have nothing to hide

ReachingNirvana · Answer

Well, I guess if he wants to. He's just going to find receipts for white sage and pictures of bunnies though...

genericname85 · Answer

heck no. i'm not a mashochists who loves giving their girlfriend hour long explanations on why i have certain images on my phone and texts sent to certain people...

Zefram · Answer

Yes. I'd be kind of offended that'd she'd even feel like she has to but I'm not hiding anything so fuck it.

Arbus · Answer

Lol no. It has nothing to do with "having nothing to hide" it's a matter of principle. I like my privacy.

Byakugan · Answer

Yes. i have nothing hide. All she will find is her pics, and many many many pics of Lana Del Rey, Amy Winehouse, And Female Anime characters lmao

Drumlin2001 · Answer

When I'm with someone yes. I have nothing to hide, and would have deleted anything incriminating anyhow!

pakkotestaa · Answer

I respect the people that have told me secrets via phone and those are no ones business.

Backbiter · Answer

Yes. I dont mind my SO going through my phone because I have nothing to hide. But what I do hate is nosiness, like reading texts over my shoulder etc.

witherwing · Answer

I'd be a bit pissed if they felt the need to go through my phone, but I would still let them.

Maebo · Answer

Nope, I often ventilate to my friends about him. He probably does too with his friends. I love him but I need this kind of privacy too. It would cause unnessecary problems

Dominique1990 · Answer

Yes, but they wouldn't find anything except for interior and sewing inspiration ideas. Other than that, I wouldn't feel insecure about him going through my phone or going through his.

HornetsFanAllDay · Answer

my phone is nothng but skyline and sports seat shots, logos, hats, old minor league baseball photos, games, music games, and social media about hats, and buy / sell apps

go ahead and go through my phone

I don't have anything to hide

LittleRedKat · Answer

Yes. I'm a very open and honest person. My man knows everything about me and all my secrets and I'm very open with him.

musical_kittycat · Answer

Why not? I have nothing to hide, and that's a level of intimacy a relationship should have.

Suteiibun · Answer

I dont really have nothing to hide , she would probadly just find some dumb photos with my friends.

Anonymous · Answer

Someone I know is in a relationship with a guy who is a really jealous type. She had to delete all her friends (boys) and social media’s to please him. In my opinion I think the main thing a relationship should have is trust. I understand it’s to make sure their not cheating but that’s just crossing the line.

HungLikeAHorsefly · Answer

Hahahaha my wife is another person, and I don't let other people go through my stuff. End of story.

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