If your girlfriend went through your phone would you be upset?

[Anonymous]

If your girlfriend went through your phone and found sexy pictures of your baby momma, would you be upset with her for deleting them out. You say there is nothing going on between you and her but she keeps sending you pictures and you save them in your phone. Why? My boyfriend got extremely mad at me because I went through his phone and deleted a picture of his baby momma. He says its a privacy issue but I don't believe that at all. If there is nothing going on then why get so angry that you want to fight. He says he can't trust me now so he now locks his phone in his safe. I want to trust him but he is always hiding his phone from me. This is the first time I have ever went through his phone, only because he gave me reason too. I didn't know what else to do. When I try to talk to him about it he says its nothing between them, then why the pictures. I need answers, would you be that upset with your girlfriend if you say you love her.

[authentic]

"This is the first time I have ever went through his phone, only because he gave me reason too." "He says he can't trust me now so he now locks his phone in his safe."

You don't trust him, and he doesn't trust you (anymore). Where there is no trust, there is no love. Think of someone you don't trust, the feeling you get --- is that a feeling of love? No.

When there is no trust in a private relationship, that is the time to end it. Who wants to be around a betrayer of trust, i.e. who cannot be trusted any further? Even thieves, if they find among themselves a betrayer of trust, would immediately "do him/her in". That's how serious a breach of trust is. Trust, once broken, is often for life.

[germanotaku]

Well, I have nothing to hide so it's not a big deal.

HOWEVER going through my personal space is an invasion of privacy so I would be pretty mad! TO ME this has nothing to do with hiding something or not, it's an issue of trust and this needs to get worked out.

However going by your story your boyfriend needs to get his mind cleared out... why the hell is he saving another girls sexy pictures on his phone? Is it his plan B? He's a jerk for keeping them and for letting this girl send him such pictures.

Sorry to say, but your trust issues are in the right place :ß

[Asker]

Thank you for understanding, I just want him to respect me when it comes to his baby momma. I have over looked these incidents for a long time and even if I told him that I deleted the pictures and want to talk about it he still would have been p*ssed at me. He has went through my things and I don't get mad because I have nothing to hide.

[germanotaku]

But you should be mad... why does he go through your stuff when he's the one doing things behind your back?

I advice following article > https://www.girlsaskguys.com/Articles/Relationships/Whats-the-rush.html

Though of course you're a little older but things stay the same. There just is no need clinging to someone who's not worth it, apparently.... As hard as this sounds, but why are you staying with him if it appears both of you got trust issues, at least on one side for good reasons?

[Asker]

I don't really know, I keep asking myself the same question. I do love him and I guess I just put myself in this situation and slipped without realizing that I was falling weak and trying to be there for him and not for myself. Thanks for the advice.

[Anonymous]

YES I would be. Everybody deserves privacy and it doesn't matter that you and he are in a relationship. If you trust him like you say you do, then why didn't you just ask him if you could look through his phone? Is it because your looking for something? If so, what? It is wrong to violate somebody' s privacy by going through their phone like that. You would be mad as hell if you knew the U.S. Government was going thru yours without you knowing about first right? Well, enough said.

[Anonymous]

haha I know how you feel I were you think I did the same thing, which is we are using more on emotional. like when you saw the pic in his hp you are socked and sad and ur heart feels like crying cause thers another gal in his hp other than urs, I will be thinking something fishy and I will ask him and probably deleted. I understand ur feelings, but I think if that really happends than you have to leave him and move on good luck girl.

[the_black_mask]

yeah the pictures are a little greasy but I don't think you have reason to be jealous. There may not be anything between him and her but he might still have a few feelings for her. it doesn't mean he's likely to cheat.

If I was in his place though, I might be a little p*ssed too. searching though his stuff was enough of a **** move but to delete them from his phone is something you had absolutely no right to do. If you objected to the phone pics that much you should have just gotten p*ssed at him and possibly threatened to dump him, or better yet ACTUALLY dumped him. but you didnt. you just deleted the pictures, without warning and got p*ssed at him. So anyway to be fair he may have been in the wrong but you are just about equally in the wrong. I bet you didn't even talk to him about it or ask him for the full story. Yeah I'd be p*ssed too. I don;t blame him.

[Asker]

He has went through my things and I don't get mad because I have nothing to hide. when you are in a relationship for three years with someone and you never guestion them about anything they do, for example, he gets off of work before I do but he doesn't come straight home. If I get off and doesn't come straight home he gets an attitude with me. and even if I talked to him about it he is stil going to be p*ssed. I just want respect it wasn't personal.

[the_black_mask]

Well then he's a dick who uses double standards. If you can't talk it out I say dump his ass. You can do better.

[Asker]

I agree I do need to dump his ass but my feelings for him are hard to shake right now but I'm working on them. I have been faithful to him for three years and all I ever wanted from him was the love and respect I deserved.I have got to make myself strong again. I spent too much time devoted to him that I have negelected myself in the relationship.

[Il_Fonz]

It's not healthy to have trust issues along with double standards in a relationship. You must ask yourself if this guy is a reasonable man who can demonstrate change. If not, I think you know what to do.

[admles]

She would no longer be my girlfriend.