Men, would you stay with your girlfriend if she asked to look through your phone?

[Anonymous]

[NathanDavis]

depends...

I would ask her if she is capable to trust me, and forget about going through my phone...

if she said "okay, yes, I can trust you and I don't have to go through your phone"

but if she said "if you have nothing to hide..." or whatever version of that and she just can't trust me, then we just cannot be in a relationship

[Asker]

Would you still show her your phone if she said she trusts you?

[NathanDavis]

yes...

[NathanDavis]

but I would have to see if she was genuine or just being tricky like that... lol

[Asker]

My fiance has a female coworker who he texts when we are together. He's been her designated driver, she is open to him about her dating life, and she calls him to ask for favors. How can I ask my fiance about seeing their messages without sounding controlling?

[NathanDavis]

you will sound controlling and insecure no matter what...

if you cannot trust this man, then just don't marry him

[Asker]

I want to marry him but I don't know how deep the connection is with his coworker. He was upset one time when he found out she direct messaged me on instagram

[NathanDavis]

you don't trust him to be loyal to you... and that is wrong

you don't trust him to be able to communicate your concerns to him and for him to be understanding about it... so that is even more wrong

so, marrying this person would be just wrong... it is just setting up yourself for failure, sooner or later

[OlderAndWiser]

She can ask, but the answer is "no." I use my cell phone extensively for work, I am an attorney, and I have an obligation to maintain confidentiality of my communications with my clients. So she is never looking at my phone. Accept it, get over it, or move on.

[IAteTwoFullHams]

Sure, but I'd also tell her: thank you for asking, but no. My phone is private. You have your own phone. Don't look through mine.

Ball's in her court now.

[slatyb]

No, I would tell her that if she can't trust me then she should see someone else.

[Asker]

You would break up?

[slatyb]

My answer: “I don’t think this is going to work. Best wishes.”

[Passing_by]

She's gonna have to be very trustable and open herself for that. I could do that once but not again. Trust needs to be there. Being checked all the time could get suffocating and beat the purpose of the relationship

[EricWeston]

There's nothing on my phone, she can do whatever she wants with it.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Ah heeHEEhee ahhahahaaa

And yes I would

[Phoenix98]

If she wants to 🤷‍♂️ All I use it for is surfing the web.

[BarryLiverstone]

Sure if I can look through hers also. By that point I assume our trust is at a high level.

[Asker]

Trust is at a high level? What do you mean?

[BarryLiverstone]

I mean if we really trust each other

[Asker]

My fiance has a female coworker who he texts when we are together. He's been her designated driver and she calls him for favors. How can I ask my fiance about seeing their messages?

[BarryLiverstone]

“Babe I wanna say that I love and trust you and am ready to spend my life with you which includes sharing everything. I’ve been recently curious about the messages you exchange with ______. I know you love me but it would help my sense of security if you could share those phone messages even if we read them together. And fair is fair so any messages you want to read on my phone lemme know.

[Asker]

This is so helpful. Thank you!

[BarryLiverstone]

You are welcome. Lemme know how it goes or follow me if you had more questions what he’s thinking

[Asker]

Thank you! Would you still marry her after she asked to look through your phone?

[Googlemyahoo]

Nothing to see on mine anyways so look through it all you want.

[MikeInHawaii]

No. Trust is the most important part of a relationship and it obviously isn’t there.

[Luckycharms12]

She can ask to but not happening. One part my life that's private and for me

[Asker]

What if its only the messages with your female coworker?

[Luckycharms12]

I work with mostly all girls . Got to trust him if you don't then maybe you shouldn't be together

[sirderpsalot123]

No. She can have trust issues and be insecure with another dude.

[finesxed_j]

yeah i ain't got shit to hide

[Wubs3000]

yes I have nothing to hide

[Anonymous]

I would have to ask her WHY?

[Jamie05rhs]

Of course!