Search Results: having things in common

Let me first state, I am not posting this to offend anyone. I actually want to get some feedback from both trans and non-trans people. So if you're an asshole, leave. I'm trying to learn something.

Is our society becoming "gender neutral", or going into "gender denial"?

There are certain qualities that men/women generally excel in due to biology (brain development, hormone levels, etc); however I feel it is okay for those who go against the grain to embrace their unique qualities, without identifying as another sex, i. e. "a woman that is physically capable of passing the men's military PT should be allowed to join the military as a woman" or "a very nurturing father should be allowed to be a stay-at-home-dad, instead of being called "Mr. Mom". I don't feel it is necessary to change one's "gender identity" just because they have qualities belonging to the opposite sex. Males and females can have things in common.

I don't understand how a man can feel like a woman, if the primary purpose of having opposite sexes is for copulation. If that is true, then a man cannot feel like a woman, ever. It would have to be identification in more superficial societal norms. Isn't saying "I'm a femme guy" easier than saying "On the outside I'm a guy, but on the inside I am a girl. My body is a mistake, and I plan to get surgery to remedy that". I don't think surgery can ever remedy that, because a transperson can never reproduce again. Ever.
Wouldn't it just be easier to let guys be pretty and girls be butch, rather than to force them to see themselves differently just because society doesn't like their appearance, or find their behavior unrelatable?

Neither my partner nor I are trans, but we are androgynous as a unit. He's kind of feminine, and I'm kind of masculine. But we both accept that about each other, and know who we are. I bought him a pretty pashmina coat for Christmas, and he helps me gun shop to find one right for my needs.

Why isn't this ^ more of a thing?