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A lot of people who are bitter because they don't have sex, can get a partner, get rejected... I find that it's usually themselves, or at least to a degree. They usually lack incredibly in the confidence area and don't take the time to build on it or they expect it to happen overnight. Or that it isn't their fault they don't have any, like it's something you're just born with, no, you develop it. They're entitled, no one HAS to say 'yes' to you. They don't give a reason, other than being nice, being nice doesn't mean that someone should want you. They let their bitterness get in the way of chances that someone MIGHT say yes, if you have an attitude that no one is gonna like you, that effects your results. They blame it on someone being shallow and just liking douchebags/badboys/sluts/bitches/etc. Like, don't people realize that a lot of these go back to self worth? Are some people actually self centered and shallow? Yes, a lot of people are assholes and don't give other's a chance, that's true. But if you blame people for not dating you cause "you're ugly" that goes back to how you view yourself.

self worth is not equal to entitlement. One is knowing your value, the other is THINKING you deserve something for simply existing. (I swear to God, if one of y'all pulls out a literal definition.)

Also, it's okay to feel bad about your love life, but being bitter is a whole 'nother thing.
This is men and women with this mindset. If you get pissy, well, if the shoe fits.

I'm 23 and never had a boyfriend. The search is unsuccessful. In hs, I wasn't really noticed much. I was very reserved and lacked confidence. Still do. Didn't get asked out till my senior year through a friend of a friend. And then another one did. But I was too scared and didn't want to go through with it.

In college, I was taking courses primarily online. In my lecture courses, guys didn't really pay me any mind. I'm still taking my Bachelors degree online. And I've never really had many friends. I'm alone and feel pathetic/inexperienced.

I've lost weight to feel better about myself and attract a good looking guy. But either I'm not their type/don't show interest. I place so much emphasis on finding a boyfriend because I'm so insecure about myself and feel a relationship validates one attractiveness. As unhealthy as that sounds. Is that normal?

I don't think I come across as desperate. I'm very quiet and don't talk much. I am not abrasive by any means. I've tried online and it usually goes no where. They either want sex or it fizzles out. I feel I am going to end up alone. It's not so easy to just put yourself out there though.

If they say loves finds you, why hasn't it found me and everyone else's I know in my age group? I don't try anymore.