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Hi everyone,

I talk quite often with a guy (19) who was sort of a sexfriend a year ago. I truly love him, not just a crush or lust. Things to know : he often tries to make me jealous, he's completely attracted by me, I suspect him to like me more than he says, it's been a year we hang around each other, and he's the confident-proud guy, wants to have control of everything and he's afraid of commitment.

While we were talking last day, he was flirting with me a lot, and we had a stupid talk about regular sex and official relationships. He told me "find a boyfriend" and suddenly with no reason "and you know he's not me".
It's not the first time he says things like that, with absolutely no reason, like "I don't have feelings" etc, I've never speak about being official with him though, he doesn't even know my feelings for him, but obviously he thought about "us" many times.

Why does he do that? Trying to convince himself he doesn't like me? To push me away?

How can I persuade him to let me a chance to build something with him?

(For more details, I've ever talked about my story with this guy in older posts, I might seem annoying with that, sorry) Don't tell me to move on, that's not going to answer my questions. Thanks a lot for your help !