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I’ve been dating my girlfriend Lucy for a year. Lucy has a lot of good values. She’s smart with her money and has no debt. We’re thinking about getting married in the new year. I’m 33 and she’s 43, so there’s no time waste. But 90% of her friends are male, so only has 3 female friends. Which is kind of strange to me. She’s not a tomboy, these dudes aren’t gay, so why would she be so close to other men? She has a guy friend Alex that she texts a lot. Every time Alex has a girlfriend she doesn’t like his relationship with Lucy. Also, Alex doesn’t text Lucy as often when he’s dating, and Lucy gets pissed that he’s neglected. I wrote about this in another question.

We’ve had arguments about her male friends and she told me that I’m “too jealous”, and that she’ll stop hanging around men for our relationship. She showed me her texts to prove there’s nothing going on with the guys, but I’m still uncomfortable.

On the flip side she hates that my best friend is a 69 year old woman whom I FaceTime once awhile. So how can I accept her guy friends and she doesn’t like me being friends with an elderly woman? She also got mad at me for going a girls apartment with a crowd.

My ideal girl is somebody who is really independent, smart, extremely sexy, and not judgmental. Also I want her to have her own goals in life, I have tons of goals and aspiration I want to achieve in life, I kinda want to find a girl who also has her own dreams she wants to aim.

A few years ago I was in between jobs and had a lot of free time. I talked a lot to a girl on Tumblr until she decided to start working on a cam site. I followed her there, but after she left the site I stayed. I ended up meeting another girl who was working on the site to pay for college. We decided to end the sexual component quickly as it was making things awkward. A year passed and we became very close. We talked for hours almost every day on the site, in messages, and in Skype calls. She left the cam site just before graduation and I left with her. She trusted me enough to eventually give me all of her personal info. It's now been 3.5 years and we are still Skyping 2-3 time per week and talking a lot in texts. We know everything about each other. She is basically the girl of my dreams. She's more beautiful than any girl iv'e ever met, smart, funny, courageous, I can go on and on. The problem is, she has over 50 recorded sex videos online. Her name was exposed by a guy that harassed her in the past. If you search her full name, you can find everything. I know most of these videos will never disappear, and it's already been found by many of her friends, sister, and mother. I come from a very conservative family and they would never accept her past. As the years pass, more and more videos are posted. Every new video kills me a little more inside. I worry how this would impact our future. We don't live in the same country, so a real relationship will require complete investment. When i'm in doubt, we see each other in Skype and all the doubts disappear. She makes me more happy than anyone else ever has, and she understands me like nobody ever has. I'm not really thinking of ending things with her, I'm just curious what others think. Any input, experiences, or advice would be helpful. Thanks.

So my question is:
Would you date someone who previously worked on a cam site, if they were basically the girl/guy of your dreams?