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I've been dating someone on and off for over a year and a half, we've dated other people intermittently in this time, but we always seem to fallback to each other. I've always known that my feelings for him were stronger than what he feels for me, which is partially why we've never really worked out long term. Its just crazy to me that after all this time & after dating other people we always come back to eachother. Our relationship has been rocky, passionate, and complicated to say the least. We're both single and have been "hooking up" very far and few in between for months (since he and his last girlfriend broke up in august).

I recently bought him an expensive item of clothing from his fave brand for Christmas, but im having second thoughts on giving it to him based on the fact that he hasn't been there for me lately. Things are reasonably good between us ( we saw eachother a couple of days ago and had an amazing sleepover & great sex) however i've been going through some hard times and he just hasn't been there for me or put in much of an effort outside of when we're together in Person. I even vocalised that I needed him at this time, & he really hasn't been putting in much effort to contact me or even ask how im doing. Do you think I should give him the gift I bought? I know he would probably really appreciate it and possibly even see me in a different light because despite our differences I thought of him enough to pick out exactly what he likes.. On the other hand I dont want to be looked at as a doormat who will go out of my way for him with nothing in return. If you were in his shoes how would you react to recieving a gift like that? and Secondly should I give him the gift ultimately or not? Is it weird to give someone you're not officially dating a gift like that, I do consider him a friend? I just dont even know.