San Francisco resident Sebastian Stadil is purported to be 'the' most unlucky man on the dating app site, Tinder. Stadil, a software engineer, decided that rather than swipe right himself on potential dates, he would create a bot which would swipe right for him based on the qualifications he was looking for. The bot did so for some 200,000 women. It booked and scheduled the dates. As a result he received some 10,000 messages, went on 150 first dates, 50 second dates, 17 third dates, and spent a whopping $6,000...in just four months!
If the women did not respond to his or his bots swipes, the bot would automatically send them as much as seven automated messages hoping for a response. Stadil didn't think the automated messages would work, but he found whether he or the bot sent out messages, the response return rate was about the same. Some sample messages were: "1)Bonjour ! Care to meet over coffee some time next week? 2)Perhaps I can tempt you with some pastries instead? I know of place with fruit tarts, chocolate pies, and macaroons. :) 3)Can I interest you in a chai latte then? Better than coffee, and we can still get the pastries! Stadil says that 4/150 of the women had real potential, but that they didn't work out in the long run, and that Asian women tended to swipe right on him more than any other type of woman.
I'm sure to a lot of people, that might sound awesome, having a machine do the work of picking, scheduling dates, responding, and all the pre-date stuff, but there is something so unbelievably unappealing about the thought of being on the receiving end of that process. It's the same way I feel about people who do those Bachelor shows...it's like you're just part of this bunch of nameless animals to be herded about in the name of trying to find love. It's impersonal and I don't think men or women would find it endearing to learn that previous to you meeting this person, they would have only dealt with some robotic version of the person. I mean, sure if all one is looking for is sex, then whatever, but this guy wasn't looking for that and says ironically the best date of the 150 was one that he didn't even get using the app bot.
One of Stadils main problems, and I agree, is that he was attempting to engineer a love match. He said he would see all these matches and think, I must go out with all of them just to see if the next one or the next one is the one rather than actually put in the serious quality with the women he was currently on dates with. To be fair, many of the women he says he dated, according to him were a waste of time and weren't all that serious as any person normally dating would find when hunting for a serious relationship on a dating app. Plus can we talk about the money....6 grand for dates in 4 months?!? That is insane!
So what do you think? Is this man, who to date (pun intended) has not even remotely found "the one" despite he and his bots hard work and money spent, a genius, or an idiot for wasting his time? And how would you feel, man or woman, if you found out the engineering behind the date you were on? Would you be okay with that or completely weirded out?