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DISCLAIMER!!!
I have NO problem with homosexuality, I think people should have whatever type of relationship they want as long as it's between consenting adults. If the rights of homosexuals were ever invoked I'd be one of the first people to stand up for them.
Also I;m an Atheist so there will me no talk of religious beliefs in my statement.


I don't think homosexuality is natural. One of my very unpopular opinions, so unpopular that I can't wait to read all the hate comments from people who read the title to only skip the details and just go on assumption, but you're alright since you've read this far at least.
So I don't think homosexuality is natural because nature (and biology) has given all of the species of this planet 2 genders (there are only 2), the reason we have intimacy and sexual organs is to reproduce and populate the Earth with more of our species. One of each gender is required to reproduce, but in the case of homosexuality there isn't that key factor and you're basically going against nature (not in a big way though). It's unnatural since they practice mating rituals with each other (go ahead and laugh, I did) but there are no possible way that they're going to reproduce and make their own offspring.
But they can do whatever, I'm just glad that they're happy, and yes I think they should have the right to marriage and child adoption, they should be able to live their lives the same way as anyone else would, their relationship is none of my business or anyone else's.

And before any religious right wing nutjob uses this to push their anti gay narrative by saying "being gay is wrong because it's unnatural," well using computers and cellphones is unnatural too and what are you using right now? Also cars, planes, electricity, internet, processed food are all unnatural too and you use them in your daily lives, so don't be hypocritical.

I was both

Here's a quick rundown. I was a fat socially awkward kid with ADD and Tourettes, wore glasses and loved Star Wars. Perfect recipe for fuck with him soup. Now for the details.

In Elementary school the kids would call me names like fatty, idiot, f****t, fat so, gay, stupid, etc. They would group up and kick my ass at recess, and when the teachers broke it up and sent us to the principal, they would all lie and say that I was the main aggressor and since there were more of them than me and the low IQ principal used a democratic system, I always got in trouble and the staff thought I was a bad kid.
It wasn't just the kids at school, it was also the kids in my neighborhood. They did the same thing, call me names, group up and beat me with sticks and toys, their parents joined in on the name calling. They would kick me out of having fun with them but always invite my nephew.
The reason I never told my mom was because of fear that it'll just get worse because I would be snitching, and I would lie about the bruises.
When I started middle school I was going to a new school where nobody knew me. Since my old school was the only world I knew, starting fresh into this new school I thought it was bully or get bullied, so I became a bully.
Within the first couple of months I slammed a kid into the bleachers at gym class and got detention. For 2 years I called people names and sometimes even hit and pushed them. I did it because I was scared and insecure with myself.
After realizing that there were no bullies in this small town school and I was the only cunt, I became really quiet and withdrawn.
By the end of 8th grade I started coming out of my shell more by joining track & feild. In high school I talked to the people who I bullied and told them about my past and why I wad a bully, and we all became friends, 2 of them being my best friends throughout high school.

I can tell you from personal experience that being a bully feel just as bad a being bullied.

I'm a straight single man but I don't really ever check girls out, flirt with them, or ask them out. I just always avoided love for most of my life. (21) however my first relationship happened at 18 and ended 2.5 years later. I didn't really want to ask her out (not because I didn't like her or want her but because as I was saying, I just don't like to be the one to approach women) I'm still single 6 months later while she dated someone less than 2 months after dumping me (family says she probably had this guy behind my back for awhile but I have no proof for that I give her the benefit of the doubt) I just don't know why but whenever I even consider it, I freeze up and quickly have to think of something else instead of continuing. My family thinks I'm weird and the other night my brother's friends and I were downstairs (its an apartment where they live downstairs and we live upstairs) one girl says you don't if I use the bathroom while you are in here and before I could respond the other friend said he's gay so it's fine. I replied with "No, I'm not gay. I'm straight" They were surprised for some reason. I don't dress like it or talk about men. I have only talked about females and how I want a girlfriend. So I had to explain to them my situation. Its just been on my mind nonstop that people think I'm gay or weird because I don't flirt or hit on girls and I don't make moves to ask them out and that im good friends with tons of girls but won't date them. I just don't like being rejected and I feel like it could and most likely will end with that result.(I've been working on building my self esteem up higher and confidence but rejection hurts the self esteem in a way that's hard to really avoid. You can't quite avoid being told "If you were the last man on earth, I'd be a lesbian" or "You're not my type" the last one sounds nice but when you hear it from 80% of the attempts you've tried in the past it makes you wonder if you are anyone's type at all)