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I can't feel sorry for people who continue to be with someone that cheats repeatedly and expects someone to change. If they know you will take them back they will continue to cheat. Cheaters come back because you let them, not because you have special powers over them if that were the case you could get them to stop.

There's a guy in my workplace that I've been hanging out with. He told me that he likes me and yeah I can feel it because of his efforts and sweet words. He always visit me in my house after work and on his lunch break. Then one day he seems to be cold and not texting me and not visiting me again. I asked him why and he told me that he is just busy. We kept distance to each other for about 1 week. And then I texted him again asking him to hang out with me and my friends. He told me he's tired but he will try next time. While i'm working, one of our common friend told me the reason why he stopped hanging out with me, it's bcs he's living with a girl right now in his dorm. He went to my house that day without knowing that I already knew about him cheating on his GIRLFRIEND. I'm just pretending that i didn't know but the next day he went to hang out with me, i asked him and he said that the girl is just her room mate. and he's not dating that girl. And yeah I'm so stupid cos i believed that bullshit. On my last day of staying in that city, we spent all day together because thats the last time. :( he told me that he likes me but doesn't want to rush a relationship. And now i'm here in a different city, I checked his facebook and found out that he'a really in a relationship with his room mate. I know i don't have the right to act like this but he cheated on that girl and on me! He played with my feelings. Do you think I should confront him?

I got into a huge fight with my boyfriend a few months ago over one of his female coworkers he seemed to be getting a little too close to. He swore she was just a friend and that there was nothing inappropriate between the two despite her wanting too know if he was dating anyone.

He gave me his facebook password recently after acknowledging he has a problem when it comes to interacting with other girls so we could make things transparent and talk about how to fix things. Low and behold I see a message from his friend asking if he knew the female coworker and he was all "Yeah, she`s trying to get me in trouble with my girl x)" "dat assssssssssssssssssss, she`s cool as hell though". This was months before I confronted him but despite knowing her intent he still interacted with her until I told him to stop.

I found several messages over the years during our relationship about him making comments like these about other girls and about how he`d "hit it" if he was single. Some of them were really vulgar and there was proof that he`d been flirting around and entertaining whatever attention came his way but he`s never physically cheated as far as I know. I want to rebuild with him but finding out those things is making me wonder if it`s even a good idea at all.

At the time we met I had just got rid of a cheater and he took care of me after admitting he just got out of a relationship with a girl he regretted cheating on so he knew how fragile things were. Knowing about his past, I knew he was a risk but just asked him to be completely honest about everything so that I could at least respect him for that and decide if the relationship should be more flexible/open for us both to explore. I`m not mad about the girls, I`m mad that he said he wanted to be exclusive, acted single then continued to lie when I asked him about certain things I felt were going on despite me giving him several chances to be truthful for years.

Should I just leave him alone?