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Father's often try to instill on their daughters negative trait of men to avoid and stare toward a guy that will treat them right in relationship. Father's will even go full on protection and intimidate a girl's boyfriend/husband to make sure he does not hurt her emotionally and physically.

Yet many mother don't seem to give their son the same advice to avoid being in relationship with manipulative women. Many mother still give their son blue pill advice like working hard and marrying a woman in her 30's. Many mother still try to teach their son to be chivalrous white knights who give girls gifts/presents without asking for anything in return. Many often try to shape their husband to be gentlemen who take girls out on dates (which he pays for).

Do you think mother's betray their sons when it comes to arming them against dating the opposite sex?

My friend group is big on us dating and marrying women that are our type. I am the only one in the group who doesn't really have a type. I'll date any race and skin color. It doesn't matter to me. My friends think I'm struggling to get into a long term relationship because I am "not focused" and "don't know my type". They'll sometimes corner me and hound me asking, "What's your type? What's your type?"

The longest relationship I've been in was for 2 years, but that was long-distance with a white girl I met online. My other 2 relationships have been short, like 2-3 months, and they were with lightskin black girls. So by their logic, I have 2 types, white and lightskin black. Whenever I go for a white girl, they think I'm copying another guy in the friend group because he likes white girls, but he wound up marrying a darkskin black woman. Then if I go for a lightskin black girl, they think she's ugly. If I go for a darkskin black girl, they say that I need to elevate my "level of blackness" to get with her. If I go for an Asian girl, they'll say Asian girls smell bad and throw out a racist Asian meme in our group text.

All of the other guys in the group are either in long-term relationships or married. 3 of them are married to darkskin black women, 1 of them is dating a darkskin black woman, and the other 1 is dating a lightskin black woman. I think these guys are just insecure. Clearly 1 didn't marry his type, I can't tell if he's happy or not. I think they just hate me for whatever reason.

Even the white girl I dated online said that her usual type is brown hair, white, tall, and conservative. I just saw on Facebook that she married a guy who matched her type 3 months ago. By looking through her profile, she seems happy and posts him or stories about him all the time.

Should I lock-in on my type which seems to be white and lightskin black? Or should I still date all races and ignore these guys? What has your experience been if you're married? Should type matter?