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So i have learned a lot about something called Attachment theory and i may write a mytake on it sometime. so what the Anxious attachment style is specifically is im the type where when i feel like the other person might be pulling away from me i tend to pursue them even harder because of my anxiety over them possible leaving me. and unfortunately this in turn tends to push them away even more because anxiety tends to kill the other persons attraction in my experience. I'm not acting like my authentic self and instead reacting to my own anxiety. the other person can usually pick up on those vibes easily.

Anyone else the anxious attachment types? or can at least relate to these issues

Here are the Symptoms of anxious attachment style as an adult
"- Adults with an anxious/preoccupied attachment style might think highly of others but often suffer from low self-esteem.

- These individuals are sensitive and attuned to their partners’ needs, but are often insecure and anxious about their own worth in a relationship.

- If the loved one rejects them or fails to respond to their needs, they might blame themselves or label themselves as not being worthy of love.

- Generally, adults with anxious attachment need constant reassurance that they are loved, worthy, and good enough.

- The strong fear of abandonment might often cause anxious adults to be intensely jealous or suspicious of their partners.

- This fear might also lead them to become desperate, clingy, and preoccupied with their relationships. Adults with an anxious attachment style are often afraid of or even incapable of being alone.

- They seek intimacy and closeness and are highly emotional and dependent on others. The presence of the loved one appears to be a remedy for their strong emotional needs."

Here's a good picture that demonstrates it well

So im trying to find ways of overcoming my anxiety now that i learned this about myself and become more secure.

Is this what I must do? Work so hard God is proud of me and blesses me.

I must hit the gym hard and develop physicality, I must get as rich as possible, I must become as confident, charismatic and charming as possible, I must get cool interests, I must develop high social status. I must develop good style and groom myself so well.

I need to be the BEST competitor to secure a beautiful girl for a long married life.
A girl just needs to be pretty and sweet, a man must have so much more. I need work so hard. It might take 6-12 years but it’s worth it.
Don’t forget:

• Only 40% of men in human history procreated whereas 80% of women did.
• Social media has created an ultra hyper competitive environment where super high up men message 1000s of pretty women each in random villages. She’ll feel like a queen when she’s 20 and not done anything with her life. Women get endless attention, a girl can be rude and still get a guy. This is true.

Are women nurtured to find shorter (not too long) hair on men more attractive? For example, bald, military cut, buzz cut, boy cut (hair no longer than ear length), etc.

Are men nurtured to find longer (not too short) hair on women more attractive? For example, pig tails, pony tails, buns, knots, dress left, dress right, bob style, girl cut (hair no shorter than ear length), etc.

I must add that it seems that girls and women are allowed to have similar hairstyles throughout her life, whereas for boys and men? The same cannot and will not be said. So are women more attractive than men because of this? Or is it the same?