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How do I deal with a father in law who I can't stand to be around?

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I know I'm going to sound like a terrible person but a lot of people do not understand the realities of living with someone with dementia and not lose there temper at all.

I'm just gonna say it how it is and everyone in the family secretly thinks it too. My father in law is incredibly selfish, my mother in law is such sweet, kind, caring lady and over time she's become a second mother to me. Me and my boyfriend are currently living with his parents whilst waiting to move into are first house together.

My father in law has got vascular dementia which was brought on by being a acholic with a poor diet. Because of this it's left my boyfriend with a lot of emotional turma that he tries to hide from until recently when he told me sometimes when his dad was drunk hed whipp the bottom of boyfriends feet with his belt which is the most unforgivable thing I find.

My mother in law also has two elderly parents who she and my boyfriend have to care for and a downs brother/ uncle. My mother in law has also battles cancer on and off through her life and in my eyes I see my farther in law to be sooo selfish because now she also has to care for him because of his own selfish life choices and all she gets from him is verbal and emotional abuse in return.

She's too good of a woman and she doesn't ever get anything out of it. Me and my boyfriend try to cheer her up by taking her out and buying her flowers etc.

He also never listens and thinks he knows better. He's only got a few years left but the doctors have said if he lives a healthier life style he could have more so what does he do steals people's food and sits at home all day watching shit TV whilst calling everyone else lazy and making fun out of them.

He's starting trying to play games with me now. He thinks I won't say anything if I see him doing something he shouldn't and talks down to me as if I'm a idoit because he knows I won't say anything back.

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He tries to steal my alcohol because he thinks I'm turning into a alcoholic because I have one drink a week nothing to do with the fact he's trying to steal it for himself.

He has zero respect for privacy too and pretty much walks in on people when we are shouting stop don't come in and then throws a pity party because he got shouted at.

My stister in law takes after him and is a massive narcissist too. She doesn't help out at all but loves to play hero
How do I deal with a father in law who I can't stand to be around?
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