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So my sister has this issue.. she's always saying how I'm wrong and always sides with the other person. It's as if she's never on my side or agrees with me, she's a flying monkey and especially sides with my mom and then there's my mom who treats me like a child, ignores me, says mean things and bullies me. She's more like an older sister/friend than a mother at times.

So today I was showing her this trailer for this movie I want to see. She goes "Omg why do you always gotta show me stuff on your phone?" this was in front of everyone in the living room. I just gave her a dirty look and was like "I'm just trying to show you a movie I wanted to see." then later on I was trying to have a conversation with her which she never engages. She always just demands me do stuff for her. We never talk. She always talks to other people but with me. It's just demanding. So I go and talk to her but she's not really talking back. So I'm following her while she's walking away. Then my mom goes and says "oh look she's following me" in front of everyone once again including my sister's friend. My sister's friend smirks and everyone smiles and my sister starts saying something about it. I go and say "why do you always set people up to bully me?" cause it seems like she does cause she always makes remarks like that to me in front of everyone. She never talks to my siblings this way. Then my sister gets stern with me and is like "shh stop trying to argue" this isn't the first time she jumps in and says how I'm trying to argue this has happened a million times. I have developed anger issues and have changed cause of the way they treat me. I just find it annoying cause it's obvious I'm being treated unfair but they ignore everything and act as if it's okay. Did it sound like I was trying to fight or was this a normal reaction? I ask cause I don't know who I am anymore. I find I overreact and I've been invalidated so much that I just don't know.

My mom believes a woman should cook and clean for her man. My brother grew up doing nothing and had everything handed to him. He's 29 and doesn't even know how to cook for himself or set up his plate. I know he knows he just doesn't want to do it cause he's entitled and knows he'll get it handed to him and served. Being a daughter my mom made me do motherly things for my siblings even though they were all adults. I am the oldest daughter and she'd make me cook and clean up after them. My brother is 5 years older than me and he never did a thing for me. He's actually quite rude, has no manners, and acts like a spoiled brat that hates women. In my opinion I hate gender roles and I dislike them and if I ever were to raise my family I'd want everyone to help out not just me cause I'm a woman. It pisses me off. She also would tell me that I'm a lady and should always shave and look nice.. I could care less about appearance I'd believe if someone really loved me they'd accept me for who I was without having to try to look nice. Was anyone else raised this way and are you going to stick to these roles or are you going to change things up when you have kids and a family of your own?