Girls, how would you feel about having a guy as a friend who is somewhat feminine?

[shessoheavy]

I am not Mr. Mascy Masculine man, not at all. There are not really any nice words to refer to men like this. Most of the words that are used are homophobic; the best one i guess is sissy but that also implies that you cross dress. I consider myself like the opposite of a tomboy, a tomgirl if you will. I am not straight, but I am not gay either; I am asexual and aromantic meaning I am not sexually or romantically attracted to anyone. I feel more comfortable around women as I can sort let my guard down and just be myself. The problem that I am having is it seems like most girls still think of me as just a guy. I do not want to be a boyfriend, a guy friend, or "just friends" I want to be a girl friend who just happens to be a guy. Kind of the stereotypical straight girl/ gay guy relationship. I am not talking about the accessorized GBF crap, I am talking about deep emotionally intimate friendships. Although I would be interest in doing traditional girly thing together like shopping (I have a huge interest in fashion). Girls, could you see yourself with a friend like this? How can I portray that I want this kind of relationship when I am still treated like I am just another guy? Thanks :)

[CelticaAvery]

Hey, I'm a feminine guy and most of my girl friends like me cos I understand their wardrobe struggles and help them if they need guy advice.
The truth is, the nice girls LOVE feminine guys, it's only the bitches that hate us (and I'd love to shove one of my high heeled feet up their butts tbh!)
What I suggest is trying to fit in by dressing more feminine and learning how to apply makeup and nail polish. Youtube tutorials don't judge.
Take it in steps to be accepted as one of them, it may take a while but be genuine, laugh hysterically if they say something funny and gossip. Girls love hearing gossip from feminine guys, especially if it's about other girls you both hate. Also, say 'OMG' or 'Oh my gosh' a lot, but don't exaggerate it to the point of shouting. If you voice hurts, lower it slightly.
Also, tell them straight up what your orientation is so they won't label you as 'gay' (unless you are, but that's okay.)
Feel free to be 'touchy', just don't touch their butts or boobs. If they say 'get off me' though, do it. But most of them won't mind if you touch them the way they touch each other (I don't mean this in a dirty way!)
If you like one of them, spend time with her and then tell her after some time. She'll be more likely to respond nicely, especially if you blush while telling her.
I hope this helps. Go for it!

[ScreamingSalad]

There is a group at my school that I belong to with a whole mixture of different people: gays and bisexuals and asexuals and blacks and whites and Muslims and Christians and Athiests. A guy belonging to the group - Euan - is asexual, though most people think he's gay. He takes no notice of them and allows them to think what they will, which is the beauty of all the people in the group: we just don't care.

Whenever the girls and I go shopping or just go out to Starbucks to gossip, he comes along with us as just another person. He is treated like the rest of the girls.

I think he just got into our group by being honest and funny and having that particular don't-care attitude that we love. He treats us like everyone else and in return we treat him like everyone else. There's really nothing to it but show everybody you're one of them.

[shessoheavy]

Part of my problem I think, is that I am not that "fabulous". I dress very down to earth (not really trying to attract anyone) and carry myself more like a guy. I don't know, I have only known that I am Ace and Aro for 10 months. Before then I was really insecure about my masculinity and really tried to come across as macho. Maybe I just need to be more patient with my female friends, they have seen me change a lot lately.

[shessoheavy]

I must say I am highly jealous of Euan, he must love ya'll!

[ScreamingSalad]

Neither is Euan. He just laughs and blends into the group as one of us. (: He tends to wear skinny jeans and anything on top when we go out, and trainers or converse.

I think it's best to just let them get used to it. :P Message me if you want to say anything without everyone else seeing, I'll try to message back.

[Peanut127]

Wanna chat? :D 8 have or dated a male who then went trans female after we didn't work out. I saw him as a her once, little awkward but I'd think a guy like u would be more like a sensative easy going and easy to talk to. I'm in a wheelchair now. But if ur nice, u can push me and my therapy dog in my pic through the mall and get coffee if like lol :)

[MindYourEyes]

I use to have a friend like that! He was my hairstylist too haha. well from what you've said you just gotta keep being yourself and eventually you find the ones that see it that way too and will understand how you want to be seen (*˘︶˘*)

[SakuraChii]

I would love that, I have this one friend who cooks and sews yet I feel bad for him because he told me that he has trouble making guy friends but he has a girlfriend so it's all good for him

[ClearSea]

I love them