Guy doesn't want to be in relationship: He likes me too much or too little?

[sadgirl7]

I met this guy. He asked me to go on a date with him the first night I met him, and contacted me the next day asking me to go on a date with him. We went out for the first time a couple days later. For the first month of our relationship, he asked me out multiple times per week and we stayed in constant contact (texting pretty much all day everyday). Things seemed to be going really well and we started sleeping together. He was always very sweet and would tell me things like "I miss you" if I hadn't seen him in awhile. It felt like a relationship with relationship sex followed by cuddling. Then over the next three months, I started to see him and talk to him less frequently. We didn't fight but he started only calling me once a week while intoxicated because he wanted to cuddle" meaning have sex. He was still very sweet and even asked me to be his girlfriend and told me he was falling in love with me (but he had been drinking). I don't know if he ever liked me or just wanted to get into my pants. He told me that he was really busy with work and had family problems and that was why he was being more distant and hadn't taken me on a date in some time. One of his best friends told me that she thought that he really liked me because he never took girls back to his house to have sex but was always inviting me over to his house and cuddling with me. But why would he stop talking to me if he liked me? She also told me that he was a commitment phobe. So did he not like me at all and just wanted sex? or did he like me too much and he freaked out because he didn't want to be in a relationship? Is that he doesn't want me anymore or he doesn't want any girl? Should I give up hope? I really liked him? Does he just need some space? Please help. I'm heartbroken

[malekoniky]

Why do you girls get physical with this people? He liked you. But then you slept with you. Do You even have idea how strong that is? What treasure you gave up more or less for free? Do you expect anybody to be that strong to not start using you? But of course he want to have sex. Hello! He is a man! That does not mean that he should get any.

No he is not bad man. But when you started to "cuddle" he lost his mind. He started using you! But it is your fault!

Do you HEAR me girls? IT IS YOUR FAULT THAT YOU LET THEM USE YOU!

[MS875]

I'm in a very similar situation. I feel that some guys out tehre are like girls and get emotional with sex. I personally feel that in my situation, the fact that we connected so strongly scared him off. I've done things to him that he has never experenced in his life. Guess it can be intimidating... I would def give him his space if you really care about him

[Anorexia]

It sounds like he's just using you for sex. I'd get out and find someone who's actually going to care for you.