Why some people decide to be unhappy, and see the world as a dark depressing place?

[Red-Blaze]

This was too adorable not to use 😅

I mean sometimes you talk to someone and they just talk how everything sucks, and how trying is pointless as its just going to be worst

Like they actively lowering them self, putting on shades to see the world as a darker place, and I just don't get it

[VanillaSalt]

Counter argument… What if the world really is a dark place and optimists are blind to the bad shit?


I’ve asked many women would you rather a hurtful truth or a pretty lie and they always say the hurtful truth. Then we get this question by a woman… why do you focus on the bad and not the good?


I remember an episode of house where the patient couldn’t forget anything so their decisions took into account everything. So if 100 good things happened and 101 bad things happened then it was bad…


Negativity is easy to focus on and that’s why the news pushes it for ratings. You can do everything right for years but the first time you fuck up everyone will call you out for it.


So here’s a question for you. A person who’s life is average that they have been trying to improve and yet their failing… is their life bad or boring? What if they think it is and any attempt they have made to correct it has failed? So if they see the world as dark and you see the world as light whose wrong?

[Red-Blaze]

Because the world is not bad or good, its not interesting or boring
Its not even dark or light
The world is the world, and its the view of humans that make it so or so

The "darker" easier it is to find a light
If all you could have for a day is 3 boiled eggs, that sounds pretty bad, but someone that only get to eat water down soup and grass in most days that could be the best meal they had in ages, it may even mark it as the beat day of there entire year

That is why I say decide to be unhappy, some are born with there brain sending them unhappyness they don't have a choice
Most how ever do, and pick to see the worst in stuff
You can be unhappy sitting in a golden chair staring your golden swimming pool eating food made by your private chef
You can be unhappy at home under a roof in a rainy day, eating a takeout
You can be happy in a cardboard box in the same rain eating a can of warm soup

Its not easy being happy, at least till you make it something you make a habit
But for so many there world is only dark because they turn there head away from the sun and only look at there own shadow, and I don't get it

I got a friend, and I think his like that, his almost always sad, but he has so much potential, his stuck in a crapy place, crapy time, but his always looking at the wrost of stuff over all, and then assume things are just going to get worst, and honestly I want to help them, but anything that helped me, dose not seem to help them, and I want to see if maybe someone got an idea why, so I can try to find a way to help them out of it (that is to why I ask this)

To answer what you asked
There both right as each has there own eyes to see the world as they decide to see it

[VanillaSalt]

My god you actually thought that answer through… yes I can see you argument and I think I agree… but let me ask you a specific…

Look. Your problems aren’t the same as mine. Our goals are different and even if their the same our struggles aren’t the same. A man that sets his eyes on having children will be in hell compared to the ease a woman would have for example. I don’t think it’s acceptable to tell him to brighten up especially if he feels he’s doing his best to reach his goal. Everyone is so quick to say brighten up but their never as quick to help brighten peoples day.

Your basically telling people to get over their troubles and be happy. Often that comes with an “or else I won’t talk to you and that’s another person ostracizing you.”

Failure is a downward slope. Once you fail once you lose the mindset to succeed. It’s like a man rejected by a woman. The more he gets rejected the more he shows his rejection and the harder it is to find a partner.

There’s a trend right now of women saying they want men to be emotionally intelligent meanwhile your brushing off the feelings of others because their undesirable.

[VanillaSalt]

A person that feels alone can’t pull themselves out of loneliness alone. I don't know what your friends dark place is but we men don’t have the support you women have. Maybe if you try and fill the role he’s lacking he will change overtime.

[Red-Blaze]

Just saying stop being sad be happy is completely an ass move, its not easy I know its hard
I do try to help, but to really help need to deal with the root not the branches
I will apprisiate if you take what I say, and not apply beyond that, if something is unclear ask

I got this friend for a few years now, I only meet him ever online, and I just really want to help them, that is all
I am there to support them, but I keep seeing how they self sabotage stuff because they keep seeing things as bad, keep going with that mind set of "I am going to fail" and "Everything is bad"
And I mean, they got an apartment, they got a PC, they got internet, and they got potential for doing better
They should be happier, as it will help them, but over and over they pick the path of self sabotage and being sad
There not the only one I know, but there a good example

[AngryCarl]

No one "decides" to be unhappy. Unhappiness is genetic.

[Red-Blaze]

In some cases yes, but I really don't believe its all of them

[Sour-rose]

Tch, their choice honestly. We are all to our own and if one mother f**qer wanna be unhappy and thing the world is a waste of their time... so be it. While I'll be the opposite and keep gaining new acquaintances.

[lalaloveee]

I think they are patients who are happy with their unhappiness.

[Red-Blaze]

Happy with unhappiness is interesting one

[Jennz6]

I don’t understand that either

[panamared1]

Happy or comfortable?

[VanillaSalt]

They like to play the victim seems to be what she’s saying. Oh you said something I disagree with so I get to argue yay!

[Red-Blaze]

@VanillaSalt
Where you get that idea?

[Anonymous]

The environment they grew up in has a lot to do with that.

[Red-Blaze]

That make sense as its a big part on who someone is.. but why.. what kind of stuff get them to that point?

[Opinion Owner]

Abuse, both physical and mental. And an unstable family

[Jennz6]

Ok, I think that’s possible

[Opinion Owner]

@Jennz6 Yeah, it’s just so sad.

[Jennz6]

I know, I have been there too

[Opinion Owner]

@Jennz6 Very sorry to hear that Jenn.

[Jccowen77]

I work with few people like that. For them the glass is always half empty. They are really irritating.

[Jennz6]

I have been to some dark places, but it’s not always that way

[SplatoonFan2]

The environment is one thing ths that nake people upset and unhappy and other time about having bad experience with some people.

[DizzyDesii]

I distance myself from them

[Andres77]

They're carrying their past

[panamared1]

Key word is decide