Which gender do you think is generally more likely to receive harsher judgements about being overweight?

[Anonymous]

Women or men

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This is a fact. You may or may not like it but whatever you feel doesn’t change what is written below is an actual fact.

Males and females are biologically different and it is generally easier and faster for males to lose weight than females.

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Since males have higher testosterone levels than females it makes it easier and faster for them to burn fat and gain muscle

[Makeushiver]

I'm afraid it's more than likely women who get harsher judgements passed on them, Not that there are more women who get overweight but because some guys are assholes and will make sure it happens. I do think it's a matter of respect to maintain the basic body condition or better that you were when you decided to make relationship permanent. Sometimes it can't be helped. Most women carry extra weight after child bearing but I think if either party simply lets themselves go because they eat junk food or stop exercising, its a lack of respect to the partner who hasn't. If it was something we discussed and it persisted I don't think I would be too worried about having an affair

[OfDeath]

From their friends probably men but from society as a whole, women.

[lil_will_12]

tbh, im not sure🤷‍♂️ however, in womens defense for being fat or overweight, women genetically have more fat on them for potential pregnancy and childbirth. So that in my opinion, is a pretty valid excuse (ofc, im not gonna deny there are some really badly overweight women who dont have much of an excuse)

but men have basically no excuse for being overweight💀 unless being larger just runs in the family🤷‍♂️ which can also be used as an excuse for women.

I honestly dont have a lot of experience, so i can't exactly answer the question. But i would say that in general, i think it would depend more on the individual, rather than the gender

[alice55]

Women by a long go, so many obese men mocking overweight women it's crazy and I've seen it all my life.

I'm skinny but eveyrtime I drink a hot chocolate I get my men family member mocking me telling me I'm gonna end up fat if i continue drinking hot chocolate...(only one of my uncle and my father never made any comment like this, just defended me saying it was great i was eating as it meant I was healthy) but my other uncle and my grandfather both loved to shame me while both of them are overweight nearly obese and I'm skinny...

So even as a skinny girl you can get shamed just for the fact you like to eat and may in the futur get bigger though if I told them they were fat they acted as if I hurted their feeling or responded violently...

[HawkPerception]

Women definitely. But honestly I'm sick of hearing excuses from overweight/obese women about sometimes you can't lose the weight no matter how much you try. Those are the same women that eat shit foods or think that changing their diet alone is going to fix their body weight. They also eat based on when they crave something and not when they're actually hungry or eat when they're stressed.

I've seen and dealt with those women so many times in my life. They refuse to go on hikes and make excuses to avoid going to the gym. The most they'll do is eat less and hope that works.

Well I have news for all women in that boat. It doesn't generally work to just diet. You need to workout to change your metabolism. Get a lot of physical activity in. Not just walking. Your body needs to be activated. Do high intensity workouts. Look at HIIT or Tabata style workouts.

If you pair that with a healthy diet, you'll naturally lose weight.

Stop the excuses.

[Puppystarfish23]

Women for sure. My best friend is a big girl but has an amazing heart and is the kindest friend I've ever had.

She gets treated like dirt by men and she just thinks it's what she deserves when she is so beautiful inside and out I wish she could see what I see.

Men treat her as if she's easy and up for anything just becomes she's a big girl. Constantly take advantage of her kindness and then talk badly about her behind her back and make fun of her weight.

Yet if a lad is seen as big, he still has a chance to meet a decent girl and gets treated like a legend

[blueonblack22]

“ She gets treated like dirt by men”

I am not going to claim she has never been mistreated. But the vast majority of men know damn well that insulting a woman about her weight is extremely insulting. Hence most men don’t ever do that.

But judging men just for not feeling physically attracted to big women is a different story. And most big women are primarily upset, depressed and angry because of just that and that only. So they come up with “fat acceptance” bs or worse they self justify being loud, rude, bullying and aggressive towards people since they are poor “victims” themselves.

The nastiest unprovoked insults I have ever taken from in my life from women have been ALWAYS without fail from big women. Every single time. They try their best to seek out insecurities in attractive and/or athletic and/or skinny people. Many of want of them want other people to be miserable because they are is miserable. Misery loves company.

Not all women are like this. Not saying your friend is like this. But a lot of big women really do compensate by being nasty to other people just to feel better.

[Puppystarfish23]

@blueonblack22 she's has boys throw themselves at her and when she rejects them they tell her she should be flattered but there interested and be grateful she's getting any attention at all just for having some self respect

[blueonblack22]

I am not saying she hasn’t even encountered any disrespect.

But again I’ve met several big girls who think it’s okay to be loud, rude and bullying towards other peor because they are angry and depressed about not getting enough attention. Again some of the nastiest (unprovoked) insults I’ve ever taken from women in my life were almost always from big girls. I still remember my “large Marge” former female roommate saying “oh you must get shoved into the friend zone a lot” when I got dinner with her and her (attractive) friend.

The funny irony about that one was a year later I got a steady girlfriend who my big girl roommate was extremely jealous of. She once slammed the door on the place when she came home to see my then girlfriend and I sitting on the sofa and watching a movie together.

[blueonblack22]

Women do. Definitely. Because their appearance is judged more harshly (but not out loud nowadays) by both men and other women.

But other women will usually tell big girls feel good lies (e. g. oh your beautiful). Men are more likely to tell other men like it is (e. g. you need get off your ass fat boy).

Personally I will never judge an overweight person unless I see them bullying other people. One thing I notice is overweight people to be loud and aggressive to compensate for being unattractive which is complete bullshit. Some of the nastiest unprovoked insults I’ve ever gotten from women were almost always from fat girls.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

It's hard to say really. I feel like it's about equal. And sure, a guy can lose weight quicker, but the problem is that they can gain back all of that weight again. Guys have this problem of having this high & fast metabolism but then it slows down as they age, making it hard to keep themselves at a healthy weight. Women get judged harshly for being overweight even if they have a mom body because society thinks they need to have this perfect magazine cover body. The reality here is no one's body is perfect, and you'll rarely encounter someone with a 1000% healthy diet. Everyone eats good food & fun foods in life.

[Anonymous]

Women and men face this name calling, belittling, and harassment for being overweight / flabby though I would say women face a lot of negative attention when it comes to their weight especially actresses, singers, celebrities in general tbh.

Yes being a bit on the weight side is unhealthy, though that doesn’t justify bullying them into submission & agreement. That won’t solve anything on anyone’s part.

Stop the name calling, stop the harassment, stop treating people like less than who they are, a person with feelings who is dealing with a lot.

[HighValue]

It is faster for a man that exercises to lose weight than for a lazy woman that hardly exercises at all. If they exercise the same, it isn't easier, but women are so used to things being handed to them in life unearned that they think it is more difficult when they actually need to put in equal effort.

[Asker]

I don’t think that’s true what you wrote. Because men naturally have higher testosterone levels than women that means they have a higher metabolic rate so it is easier for them to lose weight and burn fat faster even if both an overweight man and woman took the same exercise classes or diet you would probably see the man burning fat at a quicker rate despite equal work. Their higher levels of testosterone makes it easier for them to burn fat

[HighValue]

Even if two people of the same gender intake the same amount of calories and do the same amount of exercise, they still don't lose weight at the same rate. It is more based on their genetics.

[Asker]

Genetics may have some input to it but when it comes to males and females it is still generally true men are still more likely to lose it faster because of their higher testosterone levels. Their higher testosterone levels makes it easier for them to burn fat and gain muscle.

[FoxnEagle]

I'd say fat guys get joked about more often and it's taboo to do the same to women.
Yet women are judged more on their weight than men are.

If a fat guy accepts it and just "rolls" with the punches, he'll have a much better time than a woman.

[josepppiiii]

Yea I have plenty of fat guy friends and they will be like I’m fat and laugh but if u mention a girls weight she dies. I’d say people mention weight on females less but it’s definitely noticed the same as it was when I was younger it’s just in peoples heads to pretend they are a skinny girl now

[love_conquers_lust]

I hear guys riff on fat chicks often. Fat is unhealthy and has never been attractive to most men.

[josepppiiii]

Not anywhere here in America

[love_conquers_lust]

@josepppiiii Who are you talking to?

[josepppiiii]

I dunno

[BlackRose97]

Women receive harsher judgement, but men receive harsher treatment. Like, women get judged way more but are less likely to be randomly called fat. Men get called fat all the time, but no one really seems to care that they're fat. They only care about women being fat because of sexual preferences.

[BlackRose97]

It's not a fact that any group loses weight faster than any other group. Calorie deficits cause weight loss. It doesn't matter what sex you are. Or race or age. Happy to debate this with anyone, but the only counterpoints will be data showing that makes and younger people do a better job of sticking to calorie deficits.

[GOLDFISH_smile]

Women. We are still judged more harshly for appearance in general.

Men may be judged more for actual health issues like if he was disabled, but if it's mainly just an appearance "issue" like being overweight then women will get the harsher judgement.

Obviously it's all stupid and nobody should be judged harshly just for how they look or for having a health issue.

[ohsheeT]

Well that's none of my business so I would have to say the question might have said who do you think mentally is harder on themselves men or women

Because for me you are who you are you are who you want to be otherwise you would change and I acknowledge that and I accept that with myself and other people so I don't look at them on what they look like I look at them they are on the inside

[Gwendoline]

Men absolutely. Women largely get a pass probably because there are so many overweight women compared to men. Women naturally put on weight as they hit their 30s in all the places guys like and it's generally very easy for women not to have a far stomach.

In America I see fat girls all the time with hot guys they'd never get with in a million years back in the UK or Europe.

[love_conquers_lust]

No you don’t. The men are fat, too.

[Gwendoline]

@love_conquers_lust not the men I see.

[love_conquers_lust]

How would you know? You don’t live here.

Stories in the news or media are cherry picked representations of America and neglects the much larger, major demographic of America.

By the way, not all of America is the same. Making that assumption is about as bad as saying there’s no difference between Germany and France.

[Gwendoline]

@love_conquers_lust I live in America. I know what I see every day.

[love_conquers_lust]

I don’t really care whether you do or not as it pertains to this topic. Your profile makes no indication of such and ultimately, it doesn’t matter because your statement is NOT correct about the majority of men in America. 60% of our country is overweight or obese, gender is irrelevant which means you can split that demographic between male and female.

[love_conquers_lust]

So, this crap about women getting some pass is bull shit. NO doctor would agree with that statement whether it applied to males or females. Making it sound like the whole country is filled with fat women as if it’s an acceptable expectation, which you’re trying to push, is bull shit as well.

[Gwendoline]

@love_conquers_lust I can only for by the men i see under 30.

[love_conquers_lust]

I don’t fully understand your last response.

This pretty much confirms what I see here in the middle of the country every day:

www.cdc.gov/nchs/products/databriefs/db288.htm

These are just obesity rates, which is unhealthily fat. If you include people who are overweight, that number jumps to over 60%. For men under 30, 1 in every 3 will be obese, not just overweight but obese. That’s why I don’t believe you when you say American men aren’t skinny with fat girlfriends, even guys under 30. They absolutely are. Over half our country is out of shape. You may see skinny guys with fat girls every day, but that isn’t the most common pairing.

[Joshydavid25]

I would say both, it's just that people don't really care as much about men being judged as oppose to women.. Or I would at least say that women are judged more harshly mostly by women.. I remember a girl in school who was constantly getting made fun of by other other girls.. But guys get joked about just as much at least..

[ihateTaylorSwift]

Women because guys like their Chicks Thick
Not Blow tf up

They like Boobs and Butts
Without extra fat around it
Getting in the way of Grabbing

Because extra fat is disgusting and distracting

In porn and In general It matters

All lives expect for plus size

[MannMitAntworten]

Probably women. In my experience most men will keep the comments between themselves while the women will shamelessly speak their minds to said woman just as they do everywhere. I mean, women are hugely the most critical of other women -viciously so- by leaps and bounds than men ever have been of women or even other men. Moms especially it seems towards other girls/women who are friends of their kids or the girlfriend or wife of their sons.

[Hellraiser1984]

Men. It's unacceptable for men. Other guys will treat you like crap because of it. They Grab your man boobs all the time. vall you fat ass and women will destroy your self esteem. You do not want to be a fat guy ever. Im overweight and am bulimic. Because I got bullied by people even my own parents about something I can't control.

[Anonymous]

Being overweight definitely damages a woman's "dateability" score more than a man's. However, it's now almost unacceptable to criticize a woman publicly for ANYTHING, and especially not for anything physical, so it will be more likely to hear men publicly judged for being overweight.

[Chthou95]

In modern times, men. Go look at any fat/overweight woman on social media and you'll see men giving them attention and validation, wanting to also date and sleep with them. Fat men don't get this kind of attention. Fat men get laughed at. There's no body positivity for men

[RavVid]

It is that slender women are more rewarded rather than judged. After a point both men and women are judged about the same for being blobs.

In between nobody wants to say you could lose some weight to a woman and nobody cares about a man.

[Kingofkings1992]

100 percent men. Men are treated harsher in every aspect of life. However, most people don’t get grief about being overweight. Plenty of people can still look great overweight. It’s when people get into the morbidly obese category, they begin to get looked down on.

[Friendlybro79]

Prob women because people are judgmental with everything not just this. That said so what? Part of not giving a shit what other people think of you or judge you for is way healthier than empowering judgmental hypocritical assholes.

[PeachyPie93]

Woman.. because we don't usually go around calling guys fat for no reason like men do to woman..

[Stevepro68]

I think women get bashed more than men when they are slightly overweight. The really big people get judged equally.

[Anonymous]

someone let me know when the body positivity movement includes fat men

until then, fat women are seen as plus sized models and fat men are seen as lazy pieces of shit

[Potteplante]

It includes men.

There you go.

[Opinion Owner]

@Potteplante where are the male representatives? because I see Lizzo and Tess Holiday and other female representatives but no male representatives

[CuriousMoonFox]

Openly or secretly? Women. Men aren't expected to be beautiful.

[Pale_rider]

Obesity is gross on either gender. Fat isn't beautiful. On men it looks weak and lame, and therefore unattractive to women.

On women it's aesthetically gross and tell's me she is as lazy as a fat man. And therefore unappealing to men.

[BarryLiverstone]

Women are more likely to be harshly judged.. by other women

[Vegasrunner]

Men w/out a doubt. A fat women is still going to get make attention and have people telling here to lover her curves, etc.

[love_conquers_lust]

Your update leads me to believe you’re just an anonymous dude being a prick.

[SolitarySolace]

Men. Women get the whole "You're beautiful regardless" treatment while men don't.

[Pohjolan]

I'd say males but females are more sensitive to it.

Especially nowadays with the whole fat positivity movement.

[SmokinAces2000]

Men easily. A 400 pound woman can find a guy to date them but it’s very unlikely a 400 pound dude could find a woman

[grega239]

Men.

Because if you mention a womans weight, its considered a hate crime

[josepppiiii]

Definitely female I've even noticed other females are very concerned with a fellow females belly fat. Where as a guy can be fat and hot

[Anonymous]

In the past I would've said women. But with equality women have become equally as shallow as men in this dept.

[beefcakebradybatson]

Females.(WHITE females;BLACK women are scorned if they aren't at least two fitty !!!)

[Anonymous]

From a dating aspect, women. From a cultural aspect, men.

[Garud]

both receive the same treatment

[EmmaMary]

Definitely Women.

[Avicenna]

Men. Overweight women still get plenty of dick.

[FunkyMonkee]

Women, of course! No rocket science there!

[Emmytexrex]

I think both but women more

[debtfree_oneyear]

I would date the woman in green!

[RageBabe]

Women.

[petitedollbabee]

Women.

[DrPepper12]

Women of course!

[Likes2drive]

Usually women

[Jackblue]

women

[animesenpai]

Americans 🤣

[LiamJHayden]

Women

[RedInnocent69]

Girls, obviously

[Mia2004]

I say women.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Equal but different

[Aiko_E_Lara]

We lose weight faster because of the kind of workout men tend to do. And if we don't burden ourselves and not make use of our testosterone, we suffer a bigger consequence than women who don't work out at all.

[msc545]

MEN...

[noohair]

Women...

[shortster]

Women

[Slim57]

Women