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I agree because have you noticed a lot of the women here post things about sleeping with men on the first date, strange men they met online, exchanging nudes with strangers, and constantly say things that are sexualy for male attention?

Why is she a red flag:

1. She is being manipulative. Dont trust the "sure I'm down for friends with benefits." It's a lie. She likes you and feels if she does this, you will EVENTUALLY like her back. When you don't, she will get angry.

2. Sometimes, women have sex with you immediately because we don't like you , lol. Yes, it's true. You're sexually attractive, but we don't see you as a long-term partner, so we have sex with you to get you out of hair.

3. She's having sex with you to trap you. She thinks sex with you will make you stick around because she knows sex is hard to come by for a man. Men are constantly rejecting or fear rejection, so they won't bother approaching a woman. Instead, a man will pay for sexual services before he is faced with rejection. It's a blow to the ego.

4. If she's this easy with you, she's easy with everyone else. She's not a woman who has a back bone, she's a doormat, has low self-esteem, self-worth, and weak genetics that can get passed on to your child. Let's face it, this is a survival of the fittest world. You want a woman who will reject other men when not in your presence. Not one who gets weak at the knees for everyone, man, that gives he 1 strand of attention.

5. Last but not least.. Are you ready.. Studies have confirmed that ugly women are more likely to be cheaters than beautiful women. Beautiful women have high self esteem, self worth, and are used to being hit on by men, so rejecting men who are not of quality comes easy to a beautiful woman. Yet beautiful women get a bad rep from men and accused of cheating because men often throw themselves at her.

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30f and I really can’t tell if I’m inevitably single because I don’t want a relationship or it’s a case of self sabotage. Within the past few years, the only attention I’ve gotten from attractive guys were on dating apps. But that should be taken with a grain of salt, I feel like compared to the average woman, I don’t get attention from quality guys in person. I’m pretty shy and tend to speak when spoken to, on top of bad anxiety, I’ll say I question if women can relate to my lack of sex drive. I haven’t had sex since my early twenties/don’t masturbate and couldn’t care less if I died a virgin, will feel some kind of way if I’ve never found love though.

It’s as if I want the reassurance I’m desirable (from what seems like decent men) vs actually going out on dates, I’m insecure but wouldn’t just go for anyone that gives me the time of day. I just don’t get why it can’t ever go my way w/ the OLD apps, it’s likely bad luck but a pattern of: ghosting, fizzling out, the convo not flowing to my expectations & I dip out, just lack of interest (can go both ways) etc. I’m attracted to men, I really don’t think id date a woman but something about men at the same time turns me off (physically & personality wise). Like almost every woman I've known has been boy crazy since they were pre-teens and I never got it, I thought they were exaggerating or I was a late bloomer. Well here I am 2 decades later, my closest thing to boy crazy were celebrity crushes.

Am I looking for excuses to justify being single? Is it simply a case of being unlucky? Is there more to unpack here? Or is the right guy all it takes for it to fall into place?

We’re currently in a dating app era & the idea behind dating apps seems practical yet you hear more bad than good things about them. Almost 30 & I’ve never been in a LTR, I have accomplished everything I currently want out of life but been able to find a quality guy. I’ve owned a condo & strive to eventually own a home in a few years, are dating apps to blame behind being single or is there more to it (aka am I the issue)? I’ve been told I’m attractive by all kinds of people for a good chunk of my life but I’ve never been approached in person by a guy I’d like to date (getting checked out doesn’t count).
The only times guys I find attractive have acknowledged me were on dating apps, it’s just there’s times where maybe I feel burnt out & can’t be bothered to end up meeting that guy in person.

Or when I feel like I have *options*/ I’m in a mood where I just don’t want to put in the effort. And when the app outlook looks dismal at a given moment (like now), I consider deleting & reinstalling at a later time. I get bored after communicating too long etc, it may seem like self sabotage topped with my terrible anxiety but I’ve never felt SO unsure about something in my life & that *something* is dating. Unsure if my lack of libido/lack of interest in being sexual might play a part (no health issues). There’s always that voice in the back of my mind that makes me think the right guy will change all of that but who really knows. I’m worried I’ll be shriveled up & when I finally have that drive, it’ll be too late to find a match. I heard an influencer say the other day that there shouldn’t be pressure or a rush to date, it’s an opportunity that’ll always be available.

TL; DR: Is dating hard for most? And is my case bad luck or someone unsure of what she wants?