Why don't women around my age seem to like me?

[Coloradodude32]

I've seen this question hashed out before but wanted my personal touch to it. Ok I'm almost 32. Divorced and haven't dated since 2017. Now I'm back in the dating scene and I've had a couple of dates here and there. Now I'm not a super shallow person but I believe in having some attraction naturally. Half of my dates end up being women who used strong editing and carry themselves as low value... ( No ambition, no hope, tons of problems). And then I have a couple that seemed nice and ghost. But I do seem to get a lot of likes from much much older women like in their 50s. I'm sorry but that's too much of a gap. But as much as I hate the dating apps, I swipe on so many great looking profiles (physical looks as well as just a good seeming person) and nothing...

I have some decent high quality photos and do all the outdoor and fun stuff people typically do. I feel I have a lot to offer as a potential boyfriend. ( Good secure job. Nice house (not that the material things should matter but it shows I'm not a bum or a slob) activity equipment like a UTV to go out with... Bla bla bla. ) I was pretty overweight but have lost a considerable amount which boosted my confidence. But when I go in public places it's like I'm invisible. No profile likes either.

The ballsiest thing I did ( In my opinion... ) was this summer on vacation in Mexico I approached two of the hottest women at the resort. I wasn't hitting on them but I had a short friendly convo before so I had a slight thing already... So I went up again and basically said this stuff I just said. Their response was very nice and friendly but generic. "Oh just keep trying your great... If I wasn't in a relationship I'd go out with you... " And it was an incredible boost but it's worn off and I just don't know why I'm such a turnoff. I'm hoping it's not just looks or something... I've had several women tell me that I'm "totally attractive" but I get everyone has their tastes.

[Anonymous]

This is common man. The same thing happened to me when I was younger. Most of these women won't even consider you for about 10 to 15 years. Then like a switch a lot of them will start contacting you. Not all, but enough of them to be clearly noticeable.

It's not that these women wouldn't date you now it's that not only are you not thier first choice, you're not thier top 50 choices even. Basically all those guys would have to be killed off by bears or something to consider you. But essentially that happens when a woman turns 40. No guy is calling her anymore (unless the guy has labeled her as an easy lay, and I do mean EASY. She ain't worth the effort after 40). From this point a woman does one of two things. She either accepts her new station in dating and now she'll talk to you. Or she won't except her new station and she'll just get bitter.

By the way as I said before. These women when they're your age right now might not even consider you. But don't take that personal (don't forget it either. Forgive if you wish). Don't take it personal because a woman's judgement of a man SELDOM follows any logical pattern. There's nothing wrong with you. She simply too stupid to see your worth.

[Coloradodude32]

Thank you for your nice input

[Opinion Owner]

Np man. I hate seeing guys doubt themselves with no reason to. Every guy has a power in them whether they choose to unlock it or not. But just because he chooses to unlock it does not guarantee a woman will always be smart enough to see it.👍
It works the opposite way as well to. a lot of young guys view a woman primarily on looks alone. The best woman is seldom the beauty queen.

[In_Trance]

The problem is you're desperate and there is no worse smell than the reek of desperation.
People pick up on that miles away and it's an instant turnoff

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Women your age don’t like you because you’re materialistic and dull. Sorry for the blunt language.

[Coloradodude32]

No need to apologize, but I will say there's obviously a lot more too any person than what can fit in the message box. So specially how did I come across boring? I understand where you would derive the materialistic thing because I used some material qualifiers but I was just trying to do that to show that I won't be relying on them to provide for me it's something.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Your self-described “ballsiest” move was approaching two strangers to ask them out.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Also, your interests sound like obligations, as if you’re trying to fit all the local social ideas of what a “person” is without actually thinking about what it means.

[Coloradodude32]

I won't argue any further, as I appreciate the feedback but this i specifically said I didn't approach them to ask them out. And ya a lot of guys are terrified of approaches not to mention two that might be supermodels. But again I appreciate the feedback. Nice soft answers don't solve problems.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Do you want me to offer you a solution?

[Anonymous]

Bruh, look to the divorce to find your problem.

[AI Opinion]

Navigating the dating world can be tricky, especially when you're looking for genuine connections. It's great that you've made positive changes and boosted your confidence! Sometimes, it's not just about looks but finding the right vibe with someone. Keep being authentically you, and focus on showing your personality and passions, like your interests and hobbies. You may want to consider joining communities or groups that align with your interests. This can naturally bring you closer to people who share your passions, making connections more organic. Keep going, and the right person will come along! 😊

[Coloradodude32]

Thank you for your nice input.

[beefcakebradybatson]

You may have to go somewhere the women aren't as unrealistic about men and you should have little trouble in those places.

[Anonymous]

Are you under 6ft?

[strateguy632]

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