When you're interacting with men, do you think it's harder to be an average looking woman vs. an ugly or pretty woman?

[Anonymous]

I feel like I'm average and being in the middle, you never know what kind of day you'll have. If they're not attracted to me, they either treat me like I don't exist or bully me. However if they find me attractive they'll stalk me, create negative situations, and step over their boundaries. Mentally, I think it's draining. You see stories on the internet and your mom tells you stories when you're young to protect you, but when things happens, how does a young girl cope? Then she's expected to give guys a chance. There are signs for certain men, but during adulthood most of the crazy men were in a button down shirt, a tesla, in college, or at a library , older men, men who had a good job. What qualities should I be searching for off the bat then? How am I suppose to be trusting, kind and respectful when the presentable standard "good man" scars me instead. Then they say you need therapy like someone else won't put you in a similar situation and all those memories start flooding back.
Like in high-school I got stalked and groped for 3 years. I dealt with the stigma behind it. Then the last year, I got bullied by 3 boys and had to change my life to even make it to graduation. Then I went to college and was handling my past well. A little older guy walks up to me in the library and asked for my number.
We had a library date, we studied , Great!
We're texting and he's still pretty new to me. I tell him I'm going to a football game, he didn't ask to go with me, he didn't tell me he was going but GameDay he found me in a crowd of people. I told him I just wanted to be with my friends, he didn't leave us alone so we left the game. He starts waiting in front of the library for me, I started avoiding him and one day I'm walking to my friends and he's there trying to talk to them and asked me to introduce him. Or, when I'm trying to be independent, men take stuff away from me, but when I ask for help & some men would watch me struggle. It's hot and cold behavior

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10 mo

I don't think it's a normal experience to catch a ride home early in the morning, have an older man as your driver, start off having a good conversation, then he switches it to marriage, you say no thank you , I'm working on myself, He insist and through the car's Bluetooth, speed dials his nephew at work Saying he found a good girl for him and that we should be together I want majority hot or cold behavior This back and forth will soon drive me insane. I want to avoid it all.

[Hardon-Collider]

The problem isn't the men, it's you. You're trying to be a target instead of a fortress. Instead of looking at them, look at yourself. Develop an inner life so strong and interesting that you don't need their attention to feel whole. When you do that, their hot and cold behavior will just become neutral. You won't need a 'good man' because you'll be the source of your own strength. Stop looking for a solution outside of yourself and start building one inside.

[Asker]

Are you serious right now?

[genericname85]

being an ugly woman is pretty much as bad as being an above average looking man. so it is never too bad as a woman xD

like even the ugliest girl i ever dated once out of boredom and i had nothing else to do that day had 3 guys just waiting for booty call from her. so being a woman can't be that bad in this regard :D

[Mariogirl09]

No your hot and cold. Why did you run cold at the game?

[Asker]

I didn't. if he wanted to come to the game with me, he could have asked
He had ample time
I said I'm with my friends and I wanted to be with them alone.
That's not running cold, I wanted space, and he refused to give us space
My friends don't know him
I barely knew him
He should have moved somewhere else

[Mariogirl09]

You should tell him that but i don't think he's a bad guy. A guy who studies... dont miss out

[Asker]

I did and he didn't leave then he stalked me
And when he saw my friend again harassed them

[Anonymous]

Now do men get to whine as well on this question about what it's like for them interacting with women? Or is this question just a women whining zone?😆

This is the problem you broads never consider. It ain't just hard for you. I'll tell you how to avoid creeps (of course you won't listen because you won't like it) if you tell us how to get women to stop using and manipulating men.

[Asker]

Sure, go ahead, but the how to avoid creeps has to be physically and space oriented
Because again, most of the crazy were in casual business attire and at good "safe places" like educational establishments