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Her book (1971) argues that men, not women, are actually the ones oppressed through courtship, marriage, and cultural expectations. She compares marriage to slavery, saying men give up independence to provide for women and children in exchange for affection. It’s been called misogynistic, but also brutally honest and thought-provoking.
What do you think—truth or outdated generalization?

📚 The Manipulated Man by Esther Villar (1971) (title changed to “The Tamed Man” for modern audience) remains one of the most controversial books on gender roles.

Villar argues men are not oppressors but the opposite: women use courtship, marriage, and social expectations to make men providers and protectors. Men give up freedom, risk their lives, and work for women and children in exchange for brief affection.

She compares marriage to slavery — the wedding as the day a man loses independence, entering a Sisyphean struggle enforced by culture and government. She also describes “female rivalry,” where women compete to control men, using sex and pressure to keep them loyal.

Other writers, like Chinweizu (The Anatomy of Female Power) and Warren Farrell (The Myth of Male Power), echo the claim that society is more matriarchal than acknowledged.

Condemned as misogynistic but praised as brutally honest, the book challenges us to rethink who truly holds power in relationships.

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To clarify the choices:

Yes, men still had chores in traditional gender roles, but they were typically different from women's household duties. The division of labor depended on the time period, culture, and class, but in general:

Men’s Traditional Chores:

Providing & Finances – The primary responsibility was earning money to support the family.

Heavy Labor & Maintenance:
-Chopping wood
-Fixing things around the house (plumbing, carpentry, electrical work)
Maintaining the roof, fences, and other structures

Yard Work & Farming:
-Mowing the lawn
-Tending to crops (if they had a farm or garden)
-Taking care of large livestock (horses, cattle, etc.)

Home Protection & Security:
-Ensuring the home was safe from intruders
-Handling firearms, if applicable
-Resolving disputes or external threats
Seasonal Responsibilities:
-Clearing snow in winter
-Harvesting crops in fall
-Preparing firewood for the colder months

Transportation & Errands:

-Driving the family where they needed to go

-Taking care of the car (oil changes, repairs, etc.)

Disciplinary Role – In some households, the father was seen as the authority figure for disciplining children.

Women’s Traditional Chores for Comparison:
-Cooking and preparing meals
-Cleaning the house
-Doing laundry
-Taking care of children and elderly family members
-Sewing and mending clothes
-Grocery shopping (sometimes)
-Handling social obligations and hospitality

Even in traditional gender roles, men weren’t completely free from household tasks. It's just that their work was often more physically demanding and focused outside the house, while women handled more of the day-to-day upkeep inside.

Thanks to the MGTOW, Red Pill and Manosphere movements in general, many young men have learned to live in peace with themselves without feeling the need to conform to gender standards or roles, and we live happy lives without spending our money and time on women.

However, big changes always generate resistance, there are always reactionary people who do not want society to progress, in this case, many femcels and feminists are bothered by the fact that men are happy and free without spending their money and time on women, and they start spreading hatred against men on the Internet and attempting to take their lives.

The government should implement policies to protect men and boys from this wave of misandry, which seeks to bring back to society the dark ages, when men were neither happy nor free as we young people are today.

Some people argue against marriage for a variety of personal, social, and financial reasons. Here are a few commonly cited reasons why some men choose not to get married:

1. **Legal and Financial Risks**: Divorce can be financially devastating due to alimony, child support, and division of assets. Some men feel that the legal structure of marriage disproportionately affects them in cases of separation.

2. **Loss of Personal Freedom**: Marriage can require compromises on independence, personal time, and decision-making, which some men might be unwilling to sacrifice.

3. **Changing Social Norms**: With the rise of cohabitation, long-term relationships without marriage, and acceptance of various family structures, some men feel less social pressure to marry.

4. **Fear of Divorce**: Given that divorce rates can be significant in some countries, some men avoid marriage to prevent emotional pain, financial loss, and the stress of a potentially complicated breakup.

5. **Negative Experiences**: Some men may have seen unhappy marriages in their families or among friends, which influences them to avoid marriage altogether.

6. **Prioritization of Career or Personal Goals**: Some men may choose to focus on their careers, personal growth, or hobbies, feeling that marriage could interfere with their aspirations.

7. **Perception of Modern Marriage Dynamics**: Some men believe that the traditional benefits of marriage no longer apply due to evolving gender roles and societal changes, making it less attractive.

These perspectives don't apply universally, and many men still see great value in marriage depending on personal, cultural, and relational factors.

I ask because I know that the 1960s and early 1970s were pivotal times in the USA and Europe. I will even go as far as to say that Europe is even further away with gender roles than the USA in some ways, but when did this shift happen?

Each generation is clearly more and more equal than the previous... I ask because this is a very progressive time we have lived in over the years and so much has changed; even dating is so different from how it was in our parents generation. (Now everything is more 50/50; the woman pays her half on dates or they take turns every other time paying for each other; women ask men out now, etc., etc.)

Years ago, women were not allowed to work, not allowed to date or have sex before marriage (they were expected to be virgins on their wedding night; imagine marrying someone you are not even sexually compatible with; that must have been torture and felt like a trap), not allowed to vote, not allowed to wear denim jeans, not allowed to wear sneakers, not allowed to have short hair, and not allowed to do anything without her husband's permission first. Some women were not even allowed to have friends; it was so bad! Clearly, things have changed. In many homes, the mother is the only parent raising the kids and working, or she earns more than her husband. You very rarely see a housewife. There are a few reasons for this.

* Women were very unhappy about not being able to work, earn their own money, and have the freedom to use the money they earned.
* Many women felt they missed out on life and spent their adult lives in the house, only raising kids.
* It is simply too expensive for only one spouse to work now.

Imagine how bad things used to be for women. None of that happens today.

I know that in some countries, gender roles are still not as advanced, sadly.

But when did this really start to be noticeable?

There's ideas out there to support "diversity" in hollywood, that is characters can change sex or race.

Article supporting such idea

https://www.foxnews.com/media/star-wars-actor-defends-race-swapping-characters-inclusive-people-get-butthurt

Would you support this "actor" playing the role of Jesse Owens in his 1930's Olympics success. We don't have enough "caucasian, southern, redneck, males" in hollywood right now... they need work too.

The real Jesse Owens, in case you didn't know it was a highly acclaimed athelete in the 1930's that won Gold medals in Track and Field.

Don't ask why, it's for the purposes of "diversity" and "inclusion" to meet the appropriate standards and such. And they're cheaper to boot...