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As someone who been into the arts for a very long time, watching art sites that are still active, and looking at art trend, from 90s to today, I notice a slow shift toward diverse representation of what is beautiful, and appealing. Previously, there were idea that really thin ladies are attractive, but now that's not as popular as women who are of normal weight. For most of 90s and 2000s, what is dominant is the representation of white women to symbolize beauty, but that's changing toward more inclusive and diverse representation as in non-white people are beautiful, and even men's bodies are more out there too. So, I can see 2030s and beyond becoming the era of diversity in arts after a massive cultural shift happens.

Personally, I find every demographics beautiful, in and out visually, and I'm an asexual heteroromantic man. But, I do wonder how far are we when it comes to appreciation of beauty in both men and women, and in ethnicity. I don't think appreciation of beauty in bodies (clothed or not) has to do with either romanticism or sexuality, and that's not the case with me.

Initially I ticked all her boxes that she was looking for in a guy. She recognised I’m a nice guy, kind, sensitive and gentle. We had a good connection. I was consistent and attentive towards her, emotionally available. Made tule to see her a couple times a week.

I am also a rare find and from a very good background

Reasons she left:

She thought I was a player and cagey with my phone and untrustworthy. I was cagey as it is personal, but always reassured her and I think I showed her my phone/messages like 3 times.

I didn’t make her feel special - because I did 50/50 when I earn more than her and come from money. I have only been working for a year. I didn’t buy her flowers, I did for Valentine’s Day and bought her a plant in the early stages.

Didn’t like how I was consulting family members at the end about the relationship

I didn’t lead sometimes and did make her switch her brain off. She has a point when we went on a weekend she planned it. But she also tells me she’s not a passive person as she’s a professional.

I feel hurt. It was my first relationship. If I could go back there’s not a lot I would change just cherish her more? I didn’t make any fundamental errors, obviously times where I could’ve been nicer. There was on time I shut her down a bit because she didn’t want to move in with my family.

I was thinking the other day about how modern rap has lost its identity because most artists today sound exactly the same. Whether it is female rappers like GloRilla, Megan Thee Stallion, Latto, and Cardi B, or the mainstream male rappers, everyone is using the same repetitive beats and formulas. The content feels so shallow now, mostly focusing on money, jewelry, body parts, and sexual themes, which leaves these newer artists with zero longevity.

I really miss the old-school era where artists were true lyricists and ultimate entertainers. In the 90s and early 2000s, you had heavy hitters like Nas, Tupac, and DMX alongside incredible women like Queen Latifah, MC Lyte, little Kim, and Lady of Rage. They brought high energy, exciting penmanship, clever wordplay, and deep lyricism. Beyond having that hardcore edge, they were multidimensional, highly talented, and had a powerful image. Most importantly, old-school artists had undeniable stage presence and actually knew how to perform and command a crowd live. Every single artist back then had a completely different sound, unique style, and distinct look.

That raw individuality and performance standard are exactly what is missing across the entire industry today. Just look at Queen Latifah hosting the American Music Awards last night—that is the exact level of legend status and ultimate crossover success I want to develop them to achieve.

Do you think that 90s style of music, star power, and performance could actually dominate the charts if it came back right now, or has the music industry changed too much for listeners to appreciate real talent?