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Hello all 😊

I know this question probably seems odd, but I don’t have a lot of experience with men and I’m quite crap at reading signals. I also have no confidence because my first crush humiliated me. I’ve been seeing this guy at work and he caught my eye. He doesn’t work in my department. The interactions started with him smiling at me with prolonged eye contact (I have never really seen him talking to girls outside of his department except for one who works in the canteen)

It was always him who smiled first and it was me who looked away first

I eventually said hi to him and we have little conversations now and then

After I first said hi to him, he went though a phase of ignoring me and looking away from me when we were in the same area

When we talk, he stands quite close to me and his pupils are very dilated

When we are talking, his eyes are fixated on mine and he will glance at my lips quickly before going back to my eyes

He seems somewhat fidgety when we talk
Yesterday, he smiled and we said hi, and then when I started chatting to him properly, he smiled even more

I was walking to the canteen and my (prettier) friend was walking in front. He was walking towards us but he was fixated on me and didn’t even look at her

My friends say they have seen the way he looks at me, and to quote, “they would be upset if their boyfriend looked at another girl the same way”
I’ve noticed that when we are in the same vicinity, he will tidy his hair and check it in his phone camera

Sometimes we won’t have any interaction, just a few glances and that’s it

It’s just baby steps at the moment, but do you think he may find me attractive?

Are you the type of woman that doesn't see the big deal with Brad Pitt or Channing Tatum? -- or a man who could pass on Scarlett Johansson or Eva Longoria? Do you find that you are pulled toward people that really aren't known for being conventionally good looking, but are because they have a je ne sais quoi about them? Like intelligence, humour, or some defining trait that makes them unique?

Years ago, one of my best friends told me she decided that Louis CK was sexy. She said, "I know it doesn't make sense. A balding ginger. No one gets that." But she said his confidence, humour, and the way he delivered his comedy was so appealing to her. It got me thinking, how many others truly do see beyond the traditional, wild good looks and see a sex appeal underneath what would be either average looks, or unconventional good looks.

And quality ones, not just settling. 28F, I’m told I’m attractive but I’ve never had it easy dating. I’ve only ever used dating apps & while they’re trash to me, lots of people had success with them. I’ll add that im very reserved, seems like most good looking women can just go about their day & run into their next SO with no effort. I never get approached, can say I’ve never gotten approached by a man I’d actually want to date. On the dating apps getting matches were never the issue, it’s more fizzling out/ghosting/ the issues you deal with on the apps usually. It makes me question my attractiveness, over the years I’ve said eff it & have gotten better at dealing with it, I’ll never let a man question my confidence like that again bc I know there’s nothing wrong with me. Am I right or are good looking women actually putting in effort?