What's the difference between not having confidence and just being realistic?

[Anonymous]

For example a man sees a woman who he finds attractive but doesn't approach her because he knows he has no shot. Is this due to low confidence or just being realistic in the dating world

[Anonymous]

A lot of women will tell you he lacks confidence but the reality is that is probably just her ego talking.

Take it from a guy who's almost 50 now. I do not fear ANY woman. But that doesn't stop women from still trying to break my confidence by trying gaslight into believing I lack confidence. To most women, guys exist to feed thier ego. Some women are worth the effort, some are not. As a guy you have to develop who you are. Some guys figure that out early some guys it takes a little longer. But once you have don't ever allow anyone (any woman) to try to tell you who you are.

The answer to your question is simple. Do you like who you are? I didn't ask if you wished you could change some things. We ALL can improve. I asked, do you like who you are? If the answer is no then you lack confidence.

[Nikki1989]

Some men focus on self-doubt, negative self-talk, and a belief that you're incapable or worthy. It is about as unrealistic as it can get. Some men use that as a coping mechanism.

[Asker]

Im all for having confidence but reality still has to be there

[Abbycado]

I would say that is more low confidence. Just because someone perceives to not have a "realistic" chance doesn't make it true.

[Asker]

Sometimes you just know. Its instinct

[Abbycado]

Then why ask if you already have your mind made up?

[Asker]

I didn't before asking this question but my friend told me that