What’s the difference between confidence and cockiness?

[Anonymous]

Like whey you see women post pictures of themselves on social media using captions like
“Heavy on the pretty. With no filter.”
or “Prettier than your average girl.”
or “I look better than any girl who doesn’t like me.“

wouid you consider that confidence or cockiness?

[mamasan]

Confidence is quieter, more subtle. It's a way a person carries themself that just portrays a sense of self-worth and self-belief. It's believing that you're worthy of being treated right, you deserve to be respected at your job, you know what you bring to the table, but you don't have to brag about it.

Cockiness is making comments or acting like you are superior to other people. Ironically, cocky people usually aren't genuinely confident. They try to build themselves up because they feel the need to make others see their worth. The comments in your description would be considered cockiness in my opinion.

[bobalife]

the third line was cocky, but the first two is confidence.
Confidence is knowing your worth and sufficient yet staying humble. It is internally driven from your internal, outer, and adjacent beauty.
Cockiness is also knowing you are good enough, but it is driven externally by trying to put yourself above others, boastful, and feed off by envy.

[Bananaman177]

I consider all that really pathetic whether the girls are cocky or confident, ugly or gorgeous, that's just lame ass girl cringe nonsense. Like, "Ugh."

I don't care how beautiful you are, if you post fucking pictures of yourself and say, "yea, I'm fookin' hawt shit and don't I know it..." That's so cringe, I would never date that girl.

[Mark987]

The difference is that confidence you know that you're the best at it... no matter what challenge... Cockkness is someone that thinks he is the best with no results.. and an answer to your question: " whoever told you that is a moron" LOL... I can't stand men who act like that

[Quackthulu]

How frequently the talk about how awesome they are. A confidant person shuts up and just does it. a cocky person talks about how fucking cool they are before doing it.

In addition an arrogant person talks about how fucking cool they are without ever actually doing anything to support their claims.

Your example is none of the above, just kinda bitchy.

[Asker]

I guess I personally would consider my example as both being a little cocky and confident because to make captions like that you would have to have enough confidence to actually say it and post it and I only consider it just a little cocky because even if you are really pretty constantly reminding your followers of that will make you seem sort of self absorbed in other words cocky.

[Quackthulu]

That just makes you wrong. A statement that a person’s physical appearance is dependent on what they think of another person is just ridiculous.

[Hazelstar99]

I think insecure women/ girls tend to validate themselves by putting down other women. I don't understand why do girls tear each other down.

Confidence is when you don't care what anyone thinks about you but you know you're enough. The 1st statement seemed to be fine. The other 2 seemed very much an insecure women speaking. Why do you need a caption mentioning other women or people? That sounds cringy to me.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Confidence requires evidence, competency, and self-awareness. It's not something that depends on putting down or comparing with others - it's internally driven.

Cockiness lacks self-awareness, doesn't necessarily need competence, and often relies heavily on putting down others (e. g. "Not like those other girls" or "I'm just that alpha male, the rest are simps").

[Oboemaster27]

I'd say that it's cockiness because cockiness is when you think that your doing far better than everyone else and can't possibly believe otherwise. Confidence is more of a subtle way of expressing that you are comfortable and in touch with yourself. There also needs to be some background info because they could could be in a rough spot and need validation from whoever they can to get a boost in self esteem. It all depends on context.

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

Confidence exists as a self-sustaining entity, regardless of the influence of external forces.

Cockiness is the dollar-store version of confidence-- it has many of the external signs of a confident-looking person, but it can only be sustained through adoration and envy of the peer group, and therefore it's a slave to external forces.

Confidence is freedom, cockiness is slavery.

[JSmuve]

Confidence is actions. Cockiness are words. You're examples are examples of cockiness. If someone has to say they're something that isn't obvious through their actions in order to impress or put down someone else, then they're not the thing they claim they are and its just cockiness.

[0112358]

I just find bragging about anything awkwardly cringey. Best case scenario is that they’re coping with low self esteem with a little positive self talk. Like Jesus go ahead and show off a little but you don’t need to provide color commentary while you’re doing it.

[alice55]

This is cockiness
I would say cockiness is when you scream to the world you think you're pretty than average, better , etc... And confidence is when you don't feel insecurity and don't feel the need to scream it to the world you just keep it for you

[LEYvh]

Confidence is feeling comfortable with who you are and what you are working to improve, independent of other people’s opinion, without needing to prove anything. Whereas cockiness is feeling entitled to other people seeing you as a rare jewel that graces them with its presence.

[AlexanderAnttila]

Confidence is often silent and does not need to be boisterous our loud nor does it need to validate itself through actions. Confidence is displaying what you are capable of when necessary and not just to show off which is cockiness.

[anon1903]

I think cockiness is just overdose of confidence. It includes :

• Flirting with self
• Self promo
• Bragging without backup
• Assuming you're the most brilliant person in the room
• Putting people down (sometimes)
• God complex, basically

[DexWest]

humility. Confidence will also come with humility. Being able to admit when you're wrong, or that you made mistake. Cockiness will be the exact opposite. They will be very reluctant to admit that anything is their fault, and they will blame everything under the sun before admitting blame.

[DexWest]

Update: Furthermore, those who are cocky will shove it down your throat. They feel the need to have large groups watching them, and need a lot of validation. Those that just have straight confidence will show you without telling you. They let their actions speak for them.

[Posterboy56]

Confidence is what the girl regards the guy as having when she still likes him; cockiness is what she calls it when she decides that she doesn't like him.

As in, there is no difference. At all. HIS behavior is the same either way-- it's her perception of his behavior that changes. That's all.

[Flower7]

Cockiness involves putting other people down and acting superior over others. Confidence is when a person is truly happy with themself and doesn't need to resort to that type of behavior to prove themselves.

[triff]

I think cockiness is when your taking things for granted Not always preferable behavior Confidence is like walking up to. some stranger and asking them to hang with you Drinkig in the pub on your own etc

[username1580]

in my opinion they are similar

confidence: is when someone belive in himself and know what he can do and what no

cockiness: is the same but the person thinks he is better than others and thinks he can do everything with no limits

basically a confident person knows when to stop but a cocky one doesn't

[HowAwkwardToBeAlive]

Confidence is when you know you’re freaking awesome.

Cockiness is when you think that you’re better than everyone else.

We’re all equal, and we all have talents. As long as you understand that then there’s no problem at all.

[brennanhuff]

nobody is equal. Some are more talented than others and others aren't really talented so there is a difference. Everyone has the same worth, but others have gifts that others wish they could have, which makes unique compared to others. How does a person know they are awesome if they have no special qualities comparatively or competitively? Sure family and friends may feel that, but I'm sure billions of other families feel the same way for the billions of the plain individuals just like that person. So a person is living a lie if they think they are awesome just because. When they are basic in every way

[HowAwkwardToBeAlive]

@brennanhuff that’s not true. We are all talented and gifted in our own way, even that homeless man on the street may be good with survival skills. You never know. Some people can learn faster then others. Some people are funny. We all have things we are good at and we’re all different so you can’t compare. Instead you should accept that but still love yourself and your own talents without saying you’re not at good as someone else or someone’s not as good as you are.

[brennanhuff]

But you're not gifted though if it's par with most other people. Yes there are funny people. but that'a dime a dozen. You know how many funny people there are? lol. Only talent in funny is like robin williams, the success, movies, brilliant improv that most people can't do. You see how I point that out. What's talent to me is not what one is good at but that is unique because it's in an elite level of abilities. God given talent and one thats maybe honed to being great from hard work and drive to out perform others. Everybody has things they are good at but they don't seem to mean much. What's so great and special having a talent that may be "good" is it actually good if seemingly billions of others are just as good as you at it? What is great is having that elite talent, You know like top pro athletes or musicians or maybe something brilliant that most can't do. That's something to be proud of and feel good about. Otherwise people are just carbon copies lying to themselves that they are good when the reality is they are basically "average" all around. I'm telling you, if someone was looking at us statistically above earth, like a God. From a birds eye view, everyone would seem the same except for those brilliantly talented people that separate themselves from the rest. I can't help but to aspire to find a way to be successful and separate myself from the pack

[HowAwkwardToBeAlive]

@brennanhuff I don’t believe in average. If you say “I’m not funny because Eddie Murphy is funny” then you’re not making any sense. You guys have your own unique humor style. If you’re insecure then you’ll never be good at anything since you’re always doubting yourself. You don’t have to be famous to be talented. You don’t have to be the only one to do something in order to be talented. You don’t have be able to do something naturally in order to be talented. Talent doesn’t mean “I woke up with this gift” talented means “I can do this and I know that I can.” There’s a million singers but they’re all talented, not because they sound the same but because they sing in their own way. If you compare them then you’re just trying to find limits. No one is “normal” everyone is unique and finding their own path in their own way.

[brennanhuff]

you can say you're funny, but a top talented person is better at it. Unfortunately there very much is something such as average since we have tests and systems that rate people's performance and where people fall in the grades. If you're elite grade in some area, you have a great talent in it. There may be million of singers, but only a few are successful or better song writers than others able to make hit songs. And don't forget how many people which is much more than the singers who can't sing so lack that talent. This singers more gifted than many other people. There;s knowing you can do something like you said, but there's a limit in ability too. You can do something but how well? A pro athlete can do athletic things much much much better than your "average" person right, thus that are more athletically talented and gifted, so kind of special in that way which most aren't , I do appreciate your outlook though, mine is very analytical and like seeing people as like comparative numbers vs each other and seeing how most blend in. Then amongst the few there are the prodigies or special talents

[art_hoe]

Confidence is healthy and beneficial for you and its crucial if tou wanna do anything really (to some extent xd) but cockiness is just being rude and close minded not telling others opinions get though you even a little.

[lifelearner011]

Just my view, I think confidence is quieter, "humbler" and is best seen by actions. Cockiness is "loud", needs a lot of external validation, and goes the other way around.

[liburnia]

Confidence is knowing your value but let others praise and compliment you. Cockines is doing it by yourself (examples you listed in your question)