Girls, why don’t many women show compassion for shy or anxious men?

[Anonymous]

Not all guys are going to have confidence or always feel good about themselves, especially if they don't fit the conventional standards of attractiveness and all of that stuff, but even if they aren't bad looking or whatever, some men still have social anxiety, some men still fear rejection, some men may still have some shyness, but it doesn't make them bad people and it doesn't mean that they can't be good partners, so why don't some women have more compassion for men like that and have more understanding and see it not as that it makes a man ugly or something, but maybe could even see it as flattering that a guy may find them so attractive, or whatever that he may be a little uncomfortable around them, but if she showed him that she was safe and wasn't too judged mental and was a kind person, maybe he would loosen up and feel more comfortable around her eventually.

[Anonymous]

Showing compassion or understanding doesn’t mean date them. Dating isn’t charity. People date people they’reninterested in and attracted to. The vast majority of women just aren’t attracted to shy insecure men. It’s just the reality of things. It’s not masculine, it’s not cute, it’s not interesting, it’s not attractive. It has no sex appeal. It doesn’t stir attraction, if anything it can make her pity you or make her feel maternal like you need to be helped and protected like a child or like you’re her little brother - not the strong, stable man that makes her feel safe, cared for and protected. No matter what you think about that, that’s reality. That’s human nature. It won’t change. You’re the one who have to change or find the exception to the rule because of course among billions of women there are some who’re into very shy insecure men with social anxiety.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Maybe women would have more compassion for you if you stopped trying to define what a woman should be. I don’t think you realize this but what you’re doing is a form of objectification

[Agape93]

Why should I? I don't care if you're shy or anxious

[Abbycado]

Why should I? Anxiety is a you problem.