Why is it that women overlook shy guys who treat them right in favor of bad boys who treat them like garbage?

[princeofromance]

[Anonymous]

Women are attracted to confidence. To an extent guys tell women that the women are attracted to him. If he has to ask her if she is attracted to him. Or expects her to tell him she's attracted to him then he's already lost most likely.

I'm not saying that a woman can't, or won't make the first move. I'm simply saying most won't. And if they do, it's only because he's demonstrated personality or confidence in some way that drew her attention.

Shy or not, comfortable or not. The single best thing a guy can do for himself when it comes to attracting women is make himself as visible as possible with women. Most guys do not get noticed by women because they don't do anything to distinguish themselves. I'm not saying you have to peacock per se. But a shy guy is going to be largely invisible.

[jahaims]

Because a healthy secure woman doesn't want that kind of guy when they qualify for better. Immature women don't want a put together guy. They want ones that trigger coping mechanism from their last trauma

[WhitneySnow]

We don’t all do that. And some guys are both. Or neither. It’s not binary.

[Anonymous]

Because shy guys are boring and therefore deserve to be ignored.

[beefcakebradybatson]

Many women are socialized to believe men are the aggressors, especially in relationships, and bashful boys aren't truly dudes.

[Nikki1989]

Ugh, another one for the “things that rarely happen” file.

[FunkyMonkee]

They like abuse.

[WonderingManII]

Because they make bad choices.

[RedInnocent69]

It’s complicated