Why Women Love The Alpha Male

[coachTanthony]

The idea that women are universally attracted to "Alpha Males" is a stereotype and doesn't accurately represent the complexities of human attraction. However, there are some theories that attempt to explain why certain individuals may be drawn to what is commonly perceived as "Alpha Male" behavior. Here are some of those theories. This MyTake is for entertainment purposes only. Don't believe everything you read on the internet. Do your own research. Wink!

Novelty and Excitement: Some people are attracted to individuals who embody excitement and risk-taking behaviors. "Alpha Males" may exude a sense of adventure and unpredictability that some find intriguing. They provide the rollercoaster effect of emotions going up and down which to some is very addictive that a normal average Joe cannot provide.

Confidence and Assertiveness: "Alpha Males" often exhibit confidence and assertiveness, which can be attractive qualities to some people. Women say they love quiet introverted guys but that is to only try and break them out of their shell. It's simply a deep seeded conquest that they themselves might not know they are doing. They appreciate how the introverted guy looks on the outside but will seek to change them much like a "build a bear" in the mall.

Rebellion and Nonconformity: Some individuals are drawn to the rebellious nature of "Alpha Males" seeing them as independent and nonconformist. This is why many women wait years for their Alpha Male to get out of jail and may even help plot his next bank robbery.

Charm and Charisma: "Alpha Males" may possess charm and charisma, making them adept at capturing attention and creating strong initial connections. Where the average Joe can barely squeak out a hello the Alpha Male can pour it on strong from the beginning. The Alpha Male can oooze charisma with a simple stare into the woman's soul.

Perceived Masculinity: In societies where traditional masculinity is highly valued, some individuals may be attracted to men who embody stereotypical masculine traits, including dominance and toughness. Tattoos and scars on a man will give women an emotional jolt of ecstasy in attractiveness toward them. It's a biological reaction of protection which is highly attractive.

Let's face it attraction is highly subjective and influenced by a myriad of factors, including personal experiences, cultural norms, and individual preferences. Not all women are attracted to "Alpha Males," and it's essential to avoid generalizations when discussing attraction and relationships. Let's not put everyone in a box okay? Let me do it for you! Thanks for reading leave a comment below. ~Coach T Anthony

[dustybiker2]

You are right it was an entertaining myTake.


I see this whole "alpha male" term and have to smile. I'm not attracted to the idea. The idea repulses me frankly. I say idea because they do not exist.
One example. Recently I found HeavyDSparks youtube channel. I wanted something on in the background during a crippling migraine. The universe presented him and I clicked.
At first I had to roll my eyes as I allowed myself to criticize him (out of my norm, blame my weakened state) as I laid down and braced for the raging pain of the evening.
First impressions.. I casually classified him as the over-muscled, under high-chub, American redneck man.
He was surrounded by his adoring, male, drooling-for-adventure fan club. The guy has money to make big things happen. And they all want in.
He had clearly learned how to be loud and flashy and sharing, this behavior caught him attention, which he was soaking it up. Good for him. Work youtube. All for it.
As the hours rolled by, 19 of them. I changed my mind. In several places he actually dropped the act completely and mouthed he had no idea what he was saying or doing, but he was going with it. The genuine disclosure was like the clouds parting and the sun shining through. First time I saw glimpses of the real man in the costume.
But that is life, no? Being an adult? We all find our groove and work it. Pretend we know what the heck we are doing.
Self-proclaimed alphas are just working their groove under this "label".
p. s. I don't like labels anymore than criticizing others, unless I can help it.

[Siri137]

Mr Tanthony, you DO realise, don't you, that even the guy who came up with the 'alpha male wolf' concept, later on regretted and renounced it, don't you? Here, read these, because your questions are just cluttering up GAG like dog poop on an otherwise clean and tidy lawn.

https://www.sciencenorway.no/ulv/wolf-packs-dont-actually-have-alpha-males-and-alpha-females-the-idea-is-based-on-a-misunderstanding/1850514

https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/is-the-alpha-wolf-idea-a-myth/

[coachTanthony]

testing.

[coachTanthony]

Oh hey you unblocked me lol

[coachTanthony]

ooooops sorry wasn't you... must of been the butt hurt guy you commented on that blocked me

[Siri137]

Yes, I never blocked you. If I did then I'd miss out on all this fun! :D

[coachTanthony]

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[Phoenix98]

There's no such thing.

There are boys and there are men and that's that.

Alpha Male is just a term some dude created after watching wolves in the wild in early 90s to describe manly men. The whole thing is ridiculous to be honest.

[coachTanthony]

🤣🤣🤣

[Phoenix98]

*shrugs*

[Siri137]

He's actually correct "coach", so why are you laughing like a deranged drongo?

[Siri137]

It was actually the early 1970's, but yes, even the guy who came up with the idea later on said the whole thing was a mistake, and based upon a misunderstanding of wolves in the wild.

[Phoenix98]

@Siri137 Yeah your right the early 90s was when it started to see widespread use because of the media but the term itself was the 70s.

Anyway yeah the whole thing is ridiculous but if coach wants to buy into the whole thing it's his life I guess.

[coachTanthony]

@siri137 Don't make me google Drongo lol

[Siri137]

It's an Australian slang term, and since Google is owned by the Yanks (and they're very insular and ignorant) it might not even come up.

[Phoenix98]

@Siri137 Hey now we didn't do anything /=. And yes actually it does come up, I looked it up both the insult and the actual bird appear.

[RingOfFire]

That's odd. Where are all the pissed off feminists on this one? Not a single comment from a female? or wait... what do you have to call females again now? Non-quadradic hormone neutral land dwelling beings or something?

[coachTanthony]

I think they read it and said oh shit that is me I better be quiet ha ha ha

[RingOfFire]

Looks like they read my post and sent out the artillery battalion! 😵

[AviatorTom]

I must admit... I don't even know what an Alpha male is. And none of the women I've known are that shallow to prefer one type of man over another. Women are selective, yet we guys can never figure out what is on the woman's menu this time.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

The problem to me is that we have horrible choices today.

You got the Andrew Tate type of "alpha male" who is the most selfish type of leader possible concerned with power and status and wants asskissing women who make promote his sense of power and status.

And then you have the timid and submissive type who follows a woman around and wants to split the bill and says, "Please, your majesty, wear my jacket, it's cold!" while considering himself a gentleman when he's just acting like the gentle doormat.

We don't have good leaders these days in my opinion: the true gentlemen, the serving leaders who prioritize the well-being of their followers above themselves, and so we're forced to pick between bullshit and something even worse.

But people will grow out of this at some point as soon as the metaphorical tribe elects Andrew Tate to be a leader and realize he has no real skills beyond MMA at diplomacy, conflict resolution of a kind that doesn't settle into something he doesn't think is 100% his way, beyond power, material, status.

This so-called "alpha male" is a very successful bullshit at the beginning of the day, for sure, but it's still going to be realized for what it is at the end of the day: bullshit, because ethics is a long-term thing, and we're obsessed with the short-term nowadays. Every man is going to grow old, weak, and if we truly thought the "alphas" and best leaders for us were 22-year olds with 8-packs sleeping with as many women as they can, we would have started electing them presidents for our countries long before not to mention the chieftains of our tribes way, way before.

[Peter_Penetrator]

Not all Alpha Males are assholes. But an asshole trying to be alpha is just that. An asshole.


Then you have good men that pretend to be alpha just so people will leave them alone. They are beta on the inside and while growing up, things would happen to them and this person learned to act tough as a defense mechanism.
They also have watched too much tv and want to personify the outlaws other actors play on tv.


But those closest to this person, know they are just posturing and other betas follow them also posturing.

[Sabretooth]

they are uncompromising. that fact alone makes them poor leaders. when I think about Alpha Males -- I think about Kratos -- he fits the definition... which left him with nothing.

[DishLady]

There are aspects of the whole Alpha thing that are... "traditionally endearing" let's say. But honestly, I truly believe that no one is 100% one thing. Most people are ~60/40 either way. Alphas with a good heart can make their person feel really protected and safe, but the flip side (or those who are not well-intentioned) is a possessiveness and jealousy that can be... unpleasant and stifling. I think folks are really looking for the 40-60% Alpha partner (where the 40% is a little less alpha, but not necessarily a wimp either... and the 60% is the max tolerable Alpha).

[theungirl]

I think women want the ""alpha male"" the same way Men want the fem fatal or bimbo. Its a fun trope to fantasize about and write fiction of, but in real life most people learn that those types of people are unhealthy, and will eventually ditch them for someone more honest, reliable and selfless.

The alpha male is for erotic fiction and dramatic romance films, not for the real life.

[kuzgunsteele]

Women's tendency to prefer "alpha males" may be based on many factors. Alpha males are generally perceived as self-confident, leadership-oriented, determined and strong. These features can create a sense of confidence and a desire for protection in women. Additionally, alpha males may be attracted to their social status and achievements. However, every woman's preferences are different, and men who do not have these characteristics can also be attractive. The important thing is that there is mutual respect, understanding and harmony in a healthy relationship.

[RavVid]

I think a lot of women do like arrogant assholes. I've seen a girl lighting a cigarette in a shop and ashing very deliberately on the floor. She was really getting off on being able to get away with that because she was with a thug who was transparently carrying a box cutter with the blade out.

Nobody wanted to die over a cigarette on a Saturday morning with a full To Do list on their plate for the afternoon.

I wouldn't agree the thug was an alpha, I think the thug was just a thug. But women like thugs just as much as alphas.

[LadyKitty]

I don't believe in 'alpha' or 'beta' nonsense.

[coachTanthony]

Just replace the word with bad boys, assholes, etc etc

[LadyKitty]

No I find terms like alpha, beta, omega, gamma etc along with other personality things like mbti to be fake. If people likes to throw it around for entertainment go for it but its all just man made labels in the end.

[coachTanthony]

lol so is the term BAD BOY but that has been around for like 80 years

[LadyKitty]

Yea there was similiar terms that would be considered archaic today lol

[coachTanthony]

Birthing People is a term on the rise is that fake as well?

[LadyKitty]

The majority of people are not using that term, That is a strange way to describe females/women.

[coachTanthony]

Exactly not yet but when they do will that be fake as well? lol

[LadyKitty]

Terms change all the time but the majority of people will not use birthing persons will still not be using it and I understand why hospitals in certain places are being forced to use it due to gender identity. So Its not a fake term its just a result of gender identity politics.

[coachTanthony]

How about Alpha Birthing Person... that has a nice ring to it?

[LadyKitty]

That sounds like the title to a hentai game aimed at people with a pregnant fetish

[liggang]

Just go to any exclusively feminist space and read how these women retell their stories.

A VERY common story is that of the "bad boys" and how these women were rampagingly attracted to those bad boys.

How. these feminists struggled to get off the bad boy train and basically force themselves to deviate from their sexual needs in order to actually find decent worthwhile relationships.

Just go browse on your own. There's plenty of evidence of what I'm saying.

Women love bad boys. There is no denying it if you ask me.

[Anonymous]

Plenty of us girls like guys like this. Are they alpha too?

[molonski2]

Brilliant take Coach , your favorite topic right now , well done !

[coachTanthony]

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[Confucious900]

Not all alpha males are the same, and woman are drawn to different traits of the alpha males and different behavioural factors. Most are into the badadd dont give a s... t alpha males

[genericname85]

women like men who are dependable and copetent. not men who use labels to make themself feel better. tho young girls may, cause women naturally gotta learn the difference between arrogance and competence. it's not an easy thing to learn.

[JayBones2469]

Women are stupid. They like trash. That's why they are so unhappy

[coachTanthony]

lol.

[jack1924]

Can’t you ask other questions? WTF
You are so obsessed with this alpha thing

[coachTanthony]

The people ask for it I shall deliver.

[jack1924]

Who ask for it and how?

[coachTanthony]

Everyone who complains is how is secretly asking for it. So thank you.

[jack1924]

Hmmm 🤔

[lightbulb27]

they feel good... resonate with their woman vibes.

[garykingg]

Women only like good looking men, the rest are invisible.

Alpha or not, if you are good looking you can get women.

The rest can't.

Confidence is a lie.

Get over it.

[Starrrboy]

First realistic and non stupid mytake about this matter in a looong time lol... and I can confirm your take about the quiet and introverted men is just super on point 👌👌..

[TheRealPepperPotts]

Replace the word "Alpha" with "Narcissist" and I could see that. I spent a lot of time trying to figure out why these nice, kind women (like my mother) ended up with these arrogant, self-involved guys. It's the enabler/narcissist combo, from what I can see.

[JHAYES317]

Because they like excitement…and nice guys can be a bit bland…

[Anonymous]

I think that low intelligence, low education, and/or low self-esteem women are attracted to them the most. Highly educated women who come off as very confident are probably attracted to them because of childhood/Daddy issues. I know many women who love being the Sub in BDSM circles... who are very successful and highly educated women...