Search Results: time to let go

What has she thrown away?

I am a good guy, sensitive and I don’t drink/club/smoke. We got on and had chemistry. I am a guy who ticked all her boxes on paper, same culture and religion. In the same top career like her, I’m from a really good family that is very wealthy. Her parents liked me. I’m tall, good looking and in shape. It’s like I’ve got every gift out there and still wasn’t enough :(

In the end I was fighting for her which is kind of crazy because she should be fighting for a guy like me too.

In the end I didn’t do anything fundamentally wrong I was a good boyfriend. Her reasons were just a bit retarded thinking I’m a player, it could get messy, didn’t make her feel special.

We all make small mistakes, but I tried to be a good boyfriend and invested a lot of my time and energy and was committed. I don’t think I will ever understand how she just let me go. Very painful.

To me, I call that "underemployment." Sure, a job is a job, but if you have specialized training and/or a degree in something and most of the added jobs out there are assembly line workers and menial labor roles, I don't see those as being job market successes.

Imagine being a seasoned software engineer or an attorney to then have to go work on a hot factory floor behind an assembly line or nailing frames together on a building. Let's say $18/hr vs $55/hr... that's a huge difference.

Yes, those jobs are more suitable for some, and there isn't anything necessarily bad about them, but for those who put the extra time and efforts to educate themselves further, that's a huge slap in the face.

Lets say you’re dating a guy and go to his place for the first time. He seems nice and the place is neat but it smells like a floral scent basically. Would that turn you off?

Apparently, I'm talking to this girl who recently gotten out of a courtship that went wrong. It appears she's healing from it and needs some time to get her emotions together.

I was just curious. I was thinking of talking to her once a week for a month to see if I could conjour anything and give her some time to heal, but also not stay in it if she's on some forever friend ish.

Was just curious on this perspective. Should I move on, continue pursuing, or a little bit in between. Thank you.

I wanted to call her but she said she wanted to get to know me first. Eventually she opened up a bit as we got to know each other and managed a call. It went pretty well. Maybe she's a bit hesitant cause she doesn't want to get hurt again. It's a bit of a confusing situation but just let me know.