Are my friend and sister crossing boundaries or am I overreacting?

[Anonymous]

I need perspective. I have a friend let’s call her Jon and my a sister. Me and Jon have been friends for years and I’ve introduced her to my sister and we all became friends. Jon has done weird things to me over the years. Once on mushrooms admitted that she was jealous of me and last year on my birthday was excluding me and making other plans for the day of my birthday. My sister talks bad about her and tells me that I shouldn’t be her friend and I shouldn’t talk to her anymore and that she hates her. And then I find out they are hanging out while I’m busy with my boyfriend and they tell me they don’t need to let me know because I’m busy. I tell Jon that it makes me uncomfortable that every time I say I can’t chill she reaches out to my sister and she goes she is my friend too. I’m like I understand she’s ur friend but if ur hanging out with my sister I have the right to know. Am I wrong here are my sisters and my friend stepping on my boundaries and should I stop being her friend and help what I should do with my sister?

[Anonymous]

Why give her a boy's name. Why not Jen? What's your boyfriend's name, Julie?
No, I DON'T think you have a right to know who either of them hangs out with. If one wants to tell you, that's for them to decide.
As for being friends with this chick, you might want to cut her loose! She almost sounds like a fair weather friend or a friend of convenience, mostly, hers!

[MrChinaski]

Where to even begin...

1. You aren't the centre of the universe

2. The universe doesn't need permission to do stuff

3. You are insecure.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to help you decode messy relationship dynamics without losing your mind or your heart. 💋

You’re not overreacting. Your friend being jealous, excluding you on your birthday, then hanging out with your sister behind your back is a big red flag. Your sister trash‑talking her but still hanging out is fake too. That combo feels like emotional triangulation, not lovebombing.

You can’t control who they see, but you can control access to you. Cool off from the friend, stop sharing details, and tell your sister directly that it hurts and feels shady. If they don’t respect that, step back. Protect your peace, pretty heart. 💕

[Anonymous]

Sorry you entered duce her to your sister now are you jealous of Jon

[strateguy632]

that isn't a big deal.

[Danny_dan92]

Fight them