I feel like my best friend has distanced herself, am I overreacting?

[Anonymous]

I've been best friends with this girl for 5-6 years. We've been extremely close like sisters up until recently. Just this year, she started making these shady comments occasionally which she never used to do but I wasn't sure if I was overreacting. Then, more recently, I've noticed her replying to my texts less and less. We used to talk almost every day and called each other pretty often. I am at uni and she's working but she used to take the train to see me at uni. Now, I've invited her up to see me at uni 3 times this year and each time she's said yes, but the day before she had to bail because she's been sick, busy, or something came up. I believe her reasons because she has no reason to lie to me like that and I trust her.

But I haven't actually seen her in 6 months. But I see her out with other people a decent amount on social media. When I text her, she now takes days to respond and I feel something may be a bit off, but I'm not sure if I'm overthinking things. I know she doesn't like when her other friends act distant to her, so I can't imagine she doesn't know we're not as close anymore. Should I just ignore it?

[jennifer_bloom]

I did something similar with a friend of mine and it’s because her verbal treatment angered me and I felt disrespected by her, I think one thing that can drive a wedge in friendships is losing respect or feeling disrespected, like a long term female friend of mine ghosted me after getting into grad school cause she felt we were no longer at the same level intellectually or socially.

[Asker]

I'm sorry to hear that! Sometimes friendships just don't work out. I hope you've found some better friends since then!!

I just don't know what I did wrong if I did. The only thing I can think of, was when she started making those shady comments about my appearance I confronted her in a nice way, saying I felt hurt by it and then we both apologised to each other but she said I was overreacting. But I have been feelings that something was 'off' in our friendship the last year or so. I don't know what to do really.

[Daniela1982]

So wait, was she a fuck buddy type friend or something else? There are not that many friendships that you have that last much past high school when you all go your own ways. Or maybe she just got tired of taking the train and wondering why you don't come to see her.

[Guy13]

Sounds like it…don’t you women go to Starbucks and have talks about this kind of thing-

[SignedAutographs]

prob.