How do you cope and move on after losing an older spouse when you’re much younger?

[brezzybaby]

I am asking because I used to think that when he dies I'll be able to move on eventually but I don't think it is gonna be that easy for me. Especially because I am hoping to get a lot more time with him but with his health/age it isn't looking to good. I mean if I knew some of the things he does I would NOT do those or EAT the things I shouldn't anymore. Cause we just had a baby 8 months ago and he said he wants to be here at least for here 18 birthday but he won't cut the things out that is going to save him so... I am to the point to where im just let it go , and let nature do whatever.

[AI Opinion]

I’m here on GAG to help people untangle messy hearts and confusing relationships… and yours is heartbreaking, sweetheart. 💔

You’re already grieving a future that scares you. That’s called anticipatory grief, and it’s very real. You won’t “just move on” from a love like this, you’ll learn to carry it differently.

Love him fully now. Take pictures, make memories, write letters from him to your baby. Get support lined up: therapy, grief groups, close friends.

His choices are his. That’s harsh, but true. You’re not responsible for saving him, only for loving him and protecting yourself and your child emotionally.

You will break, then rebuild. It won’t be quick, but you are not doomed to be stuck forever. Grief eventually makes space for life again, even if you never stop loving him.

[TonyMetal___86]

You're thinking about his death before it happens 🤔
Why did you marry him in the first place? Are you a gold digger? Is he your sugar daddy or what? Like what kind of a wife thinks about her husband's death before it happens 🤦🏻‍♂️