How are you supposed to deal with someone you've known your entire life just being gone?

[Anonymous]

Not that we have any other choice but to "deal with it"... but I don't know how any decent human being deals with this. I had plenty of problems as it was before this, and now I think about how my grandmother will never come over again, never be with us on a holiday again, I'll never get to talk to her again. Almost 21 months later, and it still makes me horribly sad every day. It wasn't fair what happened to her. Actual bad people have lived longer and still had their minds their entire lives. You realize someone won't be there forever, but I don't know where all the years went, and I hate what happened and I hate the way it makes me feel. I'll never "accept" it, regardless of what the stupidest stages of grief say. Not something I will ever find acceptable. This crappy world is full of people who mostly don't care at ALL about you. Then one isn't in it anymore and it gets even worse.

[Beckybooboo]

I have a friend that recently lost his dad and he told me that it's an emptiness he carries with him every day but as time goes by, he does feel the pain slowly subsiding. As others have said, life really does go on and your mind slowly realizes that. I do understand some aren't as fortunate as others, because he has a family of his own and occupies his time with work, while others may not have that to preoccupy their minds. Everyone is different but as time goes by, it gets better.

[Anonymous]

Almost at the two year mark here , you don’t ever get over it , you just learn to cope with reality

[Asker]

what happened to you?

[Opinion Owner]

My grandpa died of cancer

[Asker]

sorry to hear that. How old was he and what kind? They couldn’t do anything?

[Opinion Owner]

He had liver cancer and nope that stage of liver cancer is basically untreatable , you don’t know you have liver cancer until it’s too late cuz it doesn’t hurt until the liver starts failing or if they do blood work and you liver function is off

[Opinion Owner]

thanks for mho

[slatyb]

You miss them for quite a while, but life goes on. Everyone deals with this in their own way.

[jahaims]

Learn how to process grief. You were lucky to have grandparents especially at your age.

[Nikki1989]

Life goes on.

[Anonymous]

What happened?