How do you deal with the death of a loved one?

[ellefia]

I found out a few hours ago that my grandfather died and I still can't believe it.

How do you deal with the death of a loved one?

[DJB72]

The only way is to take each day as it comes. I wish I could tell you there's a shortcut through the pain. Unfortunately there's no quick path.

I lost my brother when I was 13, my grandfather at 16, grandmother at 20, my other grandparents at 22 & 24 and my dad at 27. Each loss hurt in a different way and each was unique. The only way I got through was to start one day, or even one minute at a time.

Eventually it gets easier, but you always feel the absence.

I'm really sorry for your loss.

[ellefia]

thank you

[LiamS95]

Time is the only way to heal the hurt but your memory of him will keep him alive in your heart.

[LiamS95]

If you need someone to talk to you can dm me anytime, I've hone through what you are with both of my parents.

[ellefia]

Thanks , u are so kind, also rip 🙏
I hope ur parents are in a better place

[sheikalana]

Awww I'm really sorry for you dear. I know that feeling very well it's a weird feeling. When my grandpa died nearly ten years ago I didn't really react the moment I found out I only started processing what was going on a few hours later and then I couldn't stop crying. All those memories with him growing up crossed my mind. I think about him almost everyday and I believe is going to be that way for the rest of my life. Be there for your family and stay united as you'll need each other in this sad moment.

[ellefia]

I'm experiencing the same thing right now, thank you for your nice comment🥲🥹

[dustybiker2]

I'm sorry for your loss.
To heal you must feel each emotion as it hits you. Just let it run its course. Bottling up will only cause delay. I have been through a lot of loss. I will purposely look at image albums and encourage it all to come out in times alone so that there is less chance of a spontaneous emotional moment in front of say a bank teller.. happened. It was embarrassing but well received. Bless that woman.

[TommyMountainFigure]

>:D< Special hug for you DB.

[dustybiker2]

@TommyMountainFigure •and one back•

[ellefia]

Thank you I do what you say, I really don't hide my feelings, I went through a lot of albums at home for 2 days and looked at the pictures with my grandfather, I cried.. @dustybiker2 do u know,

He always wanted me to be good, always. My mother and father went to work, so I grew up with my grandmother and grandfather, so he had a special place in my life, he was very special to me.

[dustybiker2]

Sounds like you were fortunate to have a loving family and lots of memories to help you along.
I wish I had known my grandparents. I had older parents and only met my father's mother, I barely remember her as I was young. She was Scottish and didn't like my mother which is strange as everyone loved my mum. lol She was a rough old bird, but good to her son.
Point is keep thinking of them and speak too if it makes your feel good. They will stay with you this way.

[TommyMountainFigure]

There really is no easy way of dealing with it. I am so sorry for your loss.

When my Dad died, it felt like the end of the world for a very long time. I spent most of the time comforting my Mum who was (and still is) devastated.. Calling her and checking in with her, Driving round there every week.

5 1/2 years later, I still do all of those things and I still think about him every day.

[dustybiker2]

Been there. So true.

[ellefia]

My condolences to you, I hope they are in a good place now.

I am preparing for an important exam, the university entrance exam, and the exam is 7 days later, I was devastated by the news of my grandfather's death, I wanted to see him in the morgue today, I insisted on seeing him and I don't know, I wish I didn't want to see him, it wasn't like he was my grandfather, my grandfather was never this sick and his face was pale. It wouldn't appear. I feel bad and I really don't know how to deal with it, I just sleep and when I wake up I cry, he was someone very important to me..

[TommyMountainFigure]

Thank you.
You know, you can call the exam board and ask for a referral on compassionate grounds owing to the loss of of grandfather. It will give you the time you need to grieve properly!

[bannacookies]

I've had friends and family who have died because of cancers, illnesses and even a few overdoses. Hearing that you just found out about your grandfather & you still can't believe it, that makes sense since it's only been a few hours. Sometimes it takes weeks for it to set in. And some people are in denial, pretending they're still alive. I guess it makes them feel like they can deal with it better by not accepting that they passed. I deal with lost by moving on. I know that sounds mean, but you, or at least I have to, have to keep a regular routine, and I know my loved ones would want me to do that too. Wallowing in sadness doesn't help anybody and I know they would not want me to move on and be happy, so just keeping a regular routine I think is good.

[Sasquach]

My condolences. Consider taking bereavement leave to recall memories of them and reconcile your emotions, perhaps even light some incense.

Once the leave is over, honor them by working to become a better version of yourself by whatever metric you self identify as an issue or build on a skill they were an expert in

[ellefia]

Even though my grandfather was 83 years old, he was very careful to be healthy. I had a weight problem and he always supported me while I was on a diet. He always wanted me to be fit and healthy, so I'm thinking of starting sports in a week or two.

[Paris13]

I am So Sorry, dear. I have Lost m any in my Own Family. Never Cry. Be Strong. Think of the Good Times and The memories. It Helps. xxoo

[TommyMountainFigure]

>:D< << Hug for ya Paris

[ellefia]

I'm trying to be strong, thank you 🥹💕

[Paris13]

Huggs sweetheart, I feel You. xxoo

[AviatorTom]

After each of my parents died, separately, I thought about what they would want me to do if they were still alive. Simply put, they would want me to move on, and that's exactly what a did. A reasonable time of mourning, then on with my life.

Our family also decided to celebrate their birthday, not their death day,; many people remember the day they died.\.

Be positive. Remember them but don't dwell on the fact that they are no longer here.

[exitseven]

Sorry for your loss. I try and think of the good times I had with that person and what they meant to me. My father died suddenly while I was in graduate school. IT was during mid terms in fact and I was struggling with my courses as it was and losing him like that just made things worse.
I sat and thought about how he would be telling me not to be a pushy and study my butr of ans pass the damn courses. So that is exactly what I did

[lisaleib]

Sorry for your loss. It helps to think that he would want you to live a good and full and meaningful life and maybe you will be luck to live as long as he did !

[ellefia]

He wanted me to be well, when I saw him before he died he said to me: I'm sick but never mind me, how are your exams going, you will be successful in your exams

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry and I understand you well, since my grandpa died almost a year ago. Get some time to remember about him. Keep in mind that you can't do nothing to change this. If he was proud of you of something, do that thing. My grandpa has been into sports and exercise all his life and he always encouraged me to exercise more. Now I think about him while I'm at the gym and while I'm running. Sometimes I run to his grave and pray.

[kellytheman]

Well when my mom and grandmother died a year apart it was pretty I was sad but didn’t really cry. I was able to accept pretty quickly going through all phases of grieving for a loved ones death. I took me about 6 months for my grandma but a year for my mom.

[lightbulb27]

Be thankful for the time you had, accept it. go to place where you spent time with them and talk it out with them and god and let go, face reality. support others, say your goodbyes.

time...

[BarryLiverstone]

Sorry, that’s horrible.


When my grandfathers died I felt shocked and sad. I prayed and asked God why. I attended their funerals and didn’t feel comfortable. I missed them and I still do

[ellefia]

Thank you I feel the same, and I still can't believe he's dead...
I thought they were making fun of me until I saw the death certificate, I couldn't believe it

I'm crying so much

[BarryLiverstone]

I wasn’t able to cry :( I thought that’s what people did but I couldn’t. Time should make it hurt less but it does hurt and we can’t fake how we feel

[ellefia]

🥲🥲🥲🥲

[BarryLiverstone]

Sorry it hurts. It will get better. You have family and friends to support you rn?

[ellefia]

Yes, but frankly, the house is very crowded, people come to visit all the time, and to be honest, my grandmother, my mother, and my aunt were so bad that they cried so much that I didn't cry in front of them, especially to avoid upsetting my mother.

[BarryLiverstone]

That sucks :(. I don’t think your mom would be mad at you if you cried and let it out. So instead you are holding it in and trying to be strong. With a crowded house you aren’t getting any peace :(

Are you able to go out and do something active with friends?

[MicahRaine]

@0isabella1 hit it spot on. Allow yourself to grieve. Also, doing things that you can still enjoy like reading a book or something that requires focus but isn't too socially active can be helpful.

[Ironco]

Support the ones who are still alive, and just be there for them. Sorry for your loss.

[ellefia]

Thanks

[Basement-Bum]

I think public hysteria of death contributes more to feeling grief than the death itself.

[Staximus]

There's no way to really deal with it. You just try to live a good happy life. If they loved you then that's probably what they would want you to do

[Anonymous]

Sorry to hear that. You'll be in shock and there are defined stages of grief although it's different for everyone.
More than anything, it just takes time.

[Mysel]

Maybe try to think about the fact that, probably, he wouldn't want you to be sad, of course you can't just not think about it, but try to not lose yourself in this pain, because he probably wouldn't want it. Or I don't know, sorry

[Bklynbadboy12]

You don't all you can do is keep living cause life goes on. I still haven't dealt with my mom passing away. I will tell you this. The pain never goes away you just find better ways to cope with it

[Firestar01]

Time will heal all pain. It's an inevitability of life.

[AngryCarl]

I'm sorry for your loss. Unfortunately you can't skip the grieving process, and it's tough.

[sheenagwapa]

may God just take me than take anyone of my family.

[0isabella1]

Allow Yourself to Grieve

[ellefia]

You are right.

[antalian]

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[ellefia]

Why this question M

[antalian]

Sordum

[ellefia]

Yes I am!

[antalian]

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