How do you get over the death of a close family member?

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serious · Accepted Answer

There is no well defined of getting over the death of anyone, be it friends, family members etc etc.

One has to understand that death is a certainty and it is inevitable and moreover one must have the attitude and mindset to know that those are dead are dead and they must now only care about people, family members who are still alive and show their love, affection towards them. Give importance to people who are alive.

If they have this attitude then it will become lot easier to get over death of anyone close to them.

MotorcycleMan · Accepted Answer

You don't get over it, but with time you can come to accept the reality of it and move on with your own life with them beside you in your heart.
Those strong feelings that you have show how much you love and care for them. It's an honor to have had someone in your life that can cause such strong emotions, so this pain can be seen as a good thing, as an indicator of the love that you shared.
As one human who has felt this pain to another, I'm sending you virtual hugs. Take some time. It will be OK.

user1516 · Accepted Answer

Cry. Let it out. Talk about it with a friend or family member and remember the good times you and that deceased family member had. Take a a month if you need to or more. When you feel like you’ve gained a bit of energy start doing some relaxing activities like painting or walking and getting some fresh air to clear your mind… things like that. I’m so sorry for you loss 💔

Paris13 · Accepted Answer

I lost Both of my Parents Within a Few years if Each Other, Jessie. Smoking did it. my sister had a problem the Most Because She lived the Closest and had to care for Dad when Mom Died. You don't LET IT get to You. Once you Cry----You can't stop... xx

Anonymous · Answer

I personally accept it as a part of life... cannot do anything about it.. it really is closure. It is tough at first, but after some time, when thinking and feeling it all through and through, the sadness is buried somewhere, a place I can find again when thinking about how I wish they were still here.. like now when considering this question. I love and miss them so <3
But mostly I think and talk about the good memories, and share with other family members how we know the deceased would have acted in current situations xD kinda makes our connection alive :)

Oigit · Answer

In a way I was forced to do so. My grandmother has terminal cancer and she elected to do hospice care at home. I was with here a several family members in her final days. I went from not wanting her to go to wishing she would pass. Simply because of how fast she was getting worse. I do miss her sometimes. I think the amount of suffering she was enduring made letting her go much easier.

DaveToo · Answer

You don't entirely. The pain is intense at first, but as the years pass that pain subsides to the point that you're no longer obsessed with it. My dad, my grandfather, and my president all died within a month of each other in 1963. My middle child died not long after birth, my wife died in 1988. Yet I continue to live my life as you will continue to live yours.

exitseven · Answer

When my father died I was getting ready to have mid term exams in my Master's degree program. He died very suddenly and I was pretty devastated. I just kept thinking how he would be telling me to stop the pity party and pass the goddam exams. I concentrated on that and studied hard and passed all my courses and eventually graduated. I like to think that he would have been proud of me.

Shiver · Answer

I don't know, just accept and move on I guess. I lost my grandmother a few weeks ago, so I guess I'm dealing with it again right now. Close family members of mine just pass every now and then and I've been able to move on pretty easily in all cases. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

DJB72 · Answer

In short, you don't.

The place that person takes in your heart will always be there and you will always have that gap but over time you learn to live around the hurt and it becomes your new "normal".

As well as being a therapist I lost my brother aged 14

Nightroads · Answer

Many don't want to get over it, it makes them feel like they are letting their loved one slip from the physical realm where they still feel emotion enlisted by the loved one. I always believed that you have to find your own way to mourn, grieve and move on with life.

SaoirseS · Answer

What was the relationship and how old was your relative?

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

You redirect the feelings onto something you have more control over. Doesn't bring anyone back, but it does alleviate the pain of helplessness. I couldn't save Merre. Instead, I made her a mascot in a video game. Immortalized her as game code.

aquamarine321 · Answer

I’m not even sure the last person who died as a family member was in 2005 or 2004 when I was a child but I had a step sister who died when I was very younger her death Touch me but not to tears because I was very young but I remembered it like it was yesterday I missed her she was the only sister I never had

Twalli · Answer

The way I see it is that the reason the death hurts as much as it does is because you have so many good memories with that person. I think people are focusing too much on what can't happen. Focus in the good memories you have with them. If I die I want my friends and loved ones to honor me by reliving the good memories with me.

elizamichale1 · Answer

oh gosh its soooo very much hard tbh n i myself almost got crazy as everyone started to think i may not become normal again coz it hit me so hard n my brain was like blown by it

abcdef-z · Answer

Feel it to heal it. If you feel sad, just let it out. I used to write letters to the loved one who passed away, telling them my feelings. When we are honest with our feelings, we can make peace with ourself much quicker

dustybiker · Answer

Everyone is different. It’s said 2-4 months is average to reach and settle into a new “normal” life adjustment. It can take longer. Took me 8 months of my biggest loss to reach that stage, and still adjusting.

electromagnetic · Answer

You don’t. You just learn to adjust with the fact that they aren’t there anymore. Sometimes you get into a situation that reminds you of them and you sit and reflect. But ultimately, you never truly get over it.

Drag254 · Answer

I don't know, I was a kid when loosed someone special.
But IG if we concentrate on the good around us support and promote other to leave the past behind nd keep there memories while looking forward for joy.
IG this is the best way to overcome the grief in u

readyplayer001 · Answer

i lost so many and last my parents back to back you never fully will ever get over it. you will juts learn to cope with the fact they are gone, with each passing day

Hyped_up_on_coffee · Answer

Its always going to hurt, time lessens the pain , but I’f you are having a difficult time processing a loss it’s perfectly ok to go seek a grief counselor

Vanilla_taste_nice · Answer

it's so painful to lost a close relation but all I do is to summon courage and try letting the memory of the dead fade away and keep living my life till the day I will also die, because death is a depth that we all must pay at the last day.😪

t-8900 · Answer

I've come to terms with and accepted it. But to say I ever got over it would be a lie. When I love someone I'm always with them and then with me. When someone I love dies a piece of me dies as well

Deserter · Answer

I don't know if you believe in God, but I do. If you believe in God just think of death as a long nap, you'll see them again

Jaximus-Lion · Answer

You don't, you can't. Grief instead until you accept that part of your life is gone.

Pyrofox · Answer

For me I took time off to focus on my hobbies for a few days. And do some self evaluation of where I was at the time of losing that family member.

Lliam · Answer

You never get over the loss but the pain fades over time. You will always miss them but your memories are treasures.

Anonymous · Answer

With time and gradual separation of emotions to be able to carry on doesn't mean forgetting but to not feel bad. You know. Life has to go on for the living still left here so you know. Time. With time.

Den1971 · Answer

Time that's all. Think good thoughts of when they were here.. always know they will be with you. Whatever happened to them, they are much better off than us here on earth. Believe that

Kenzy009 · Answer

If I died, I would want my family to move on with thier lives and imody the values and things I did in my life. After they have respectfullly morned and said their goodbyes. Thats how my legacy will live on..

Fireguy17 · Answer

It takes time, you never forget them, nor really get over them. You can look and see the steps in the grieving process.

nonratracereality · Answer

If you're real then it will automatically be absorbed into your being.

Anon621 · Answer

I've never had a close family member die as of this moment so I can't speak from experience

TrueConfection · Answer

You don't. You learn to live with the loss, first from moment to moment, then day to day. That's it.

DWornock · Answer

People in their 90s are going to die within a few years. Therefore, when they die of old age, it was expected so it is no big deal. You have a funeral the living continues what they were doing.

Mark987 · Answer

You don't you learn to deal with it. It has been 2 years for me on Sept 22, and it doesn't get easier you learn to live with it. Music does help with easing the pain

JosyJosy · Answer

They'd want us to keep going. Hold on to the good times.

JennBITx · Answer

It takes time, but I still have issues on the anniversary of their passing

MrJMM · Answer

By not caring. I mean I personally never lost anyone but the rest of my family lost a lot of people due to cancer. I am like... Ok, whatever I don't what to do.

mrkdvsn · Answer

So far, my dad and mom and older sister have died, but their deaths never affected me that much. If my WIFE died, that would be a pretty big deal however

humpbackjack · Answer

I don’t know that we do I still shed a tear anytime I think of my dad we always want more time

clampfan101 · Answer

I try to focus on the fact that I will see them again in Heaven.

Fearlessegale · Answer

How I get over a loved one's death is remember the good times me and that person had together and cherish those moments.

Chris_68 · Answer

I believe in reincarnation. The body is just the vessel of the immortal soul.

bolverk · Answer

Slowly, grieving is a process and it takes time, and is different for each person.

Charliefretz329 · Answer

Time, remember the positive times. Honor their investment in your life by being happy and successful.

2ndTryatThis · Answer

I’m currently trying. It’s good to focus on the good memories and try to let go of the bad. I think about the things they enjoyed that were cute to me

lorenzomichael · Answer

You never get over it if you really loved them and you had a close relationship with them.

BillyBalls · Answer

You never "get over it". You accept it. It does get easier over time.

EaterPeter · Answer

By mourning the loss properly 😢 there are phases you may go through

David_Bayer · Answer

Mourning and reliving memories helps slowly over time.

Luckycharms12 · Answer

Don't think you ever get over it tbh just learn to live with it

TheAfrikan · Answer

That is the hardest shit for sure. But with time you can cope up by involving in adrenaline activating hobbies..

Tabasco25 · Answer

You never really do , the pain just dulls after awhile. Sometimes it will spike up again in certain memories, scenses , places , people, things.

Zoi420 · Answer

Friends, and family who be their for you so your not alone.

Minny97 · Answer

I don't think it's possible to get over it you just get used to the pain and sadness

Anonymous · Answer

I block it out and let the pain seep out slowly during movies or long drives alone

Toldol2 · Answer

Lots of prayers and a realistic vision about life

Subarugirl · Answer

You don’t really… just hurts less as time goes on

Slotbot · Answer

Look up the poem ‘death is just an open door’

Pj1981 · Answer

Time unfortunately if your lucky

ChiPaPa · Answer

You take it one day at a time.

lonelyguyintheworld · Answer

Lots of booze and lots of crying

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