My boyfriend broke up with me because I earn a higher salary than him. Is this normal, and does it make sense as a reason for a breakup?

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My boyfriend and I had been together for a year and a half, and we usually split the bill when we went out to eat. Two days ago, he told me, “You’re constantly shopping, how do you make ends meet?” and warned me to be careful. I told him that my salary is enough. Then he compared our salaries and said, “Let’s break up.” His salary is minimum wage while mine is about three times higher; it was not a problem for me. But he took it as a matter of pride and broke up with me, saying he couldn’t be with a woman who earns more than him.

rachel776 · Accepted Answer

i had a version of this, i travel all the time and guys i went out with would say “ohh it's ok, baby baby baby baby i'll wait for you,” and then like clockwork around 3 or 4 weeks later (i wasn't gone that entire time, though i am now sometimes), they'd storm off in a huff because i was never around

i avoided busy guys because i thought 2 busy people would clash even worse, and then when i ended up with a guy as busy as i am and who also travels all the time it actually worked out much better because he completely understood the situation (and was in it himself), and now we're getting married

much of the time we see each other as we cross paths on the road more than at home, and only in the past 9 months has it been particularly difficult for us because by chance we haven't been in as many nearby cities as we had done before that

rosemilk · Accepted Answer

lol this little boy couldn't handle you making more money than him. he felt threatened, so to assert his dominance, he broke up with you. jokes on him

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Poor guy. he must hate being him. Ok first things first this is a man you don't want to be with he will make you miserable unhappy because he has to be better than everybody it doesn't just happen you have to earn it you have to make it happen and if he's so petty he's never going to do that it just means that you are destined for somebody who understands life and respect you and all your accomplishments

AviatorTom · Accepted Answer

Some guys can't take a woman who makes more than them. They view it as a sign of weakness, which they cannot accept. Move on. You're better off without him.

There are plenty other guys out there who don't care about how much you make, or make more than you.

OneViewpoint · Answer

ROFL, minimum wage boy is going to have a lot of problems finding good women who will tolerate his inferiority complex.

Rather than focusing on doing something with his life or high fiving you, he runs away from his own humiliating situation. That's not a man. That's a child.

Be happy he exited the relationship and will be screwing up some other unfortunate woman's life in the near future.

Johnnyjay · Answer

He's a little man. His ego can't take you making more than him. That's kind of sad. It's also kind of weird because he makes minimum wage so I can't see how he thinks he should make more than you. He wants you down at minimum wage with him? It probably won't work out if he can flake so easily.

Vegasrunner · Answer

Sounds made up. He probably broke up w/ you for a logically sound reason, and you're using the salaries as a flex. Its simply an opportunity for people to claim he's "insecure" and can't handle you, when in reality he probably just used this as a chance to upgrade to a more attractive woman.

Taranis_Thunor · Answer

Try and get back with him. The reason he broke up is because when men don't earn the same as their girl they feel like they're not proper men. Maybe he's worried you'll end up cheating as you don't see him as a proper man anymore.

But if you're asking this question on G@G, I think he still has a good chance with you.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

And that's your story, i'd like to hear his story 😏

You will never understand why a man considers it a pride because you're a woman!

I only blame him for being a whole year with you while knowing that you earn mire than he does, so it's his fault not yours!

Lliam · Answer

You're better off finding someone who will be proud of you and not casually toss you away.
This guy had low self-esteem and a fragile ego. He wants to be with someone who is a bigger loser like himself with no prospect for improvement.

Anonymous · Answer

He's a fucking idiot an immature fucking idiot and it's his loss not yours he did you a favor by leaving you his ass was to immature insecure and childish to handle a grown ass woman like yourself. All he did was show his insecurity and childish behavior. You're better off without him. He has a lot of growing up to do

spartan55 · Answer

You're better off without him then. I'm referring to his attitude, not what he earns. Moving forward I would not disclose what you make to your SO.

bowenw · Answer

He was being unreasonable to tell you how to spend your money and apparently realized he saw no future in a relationship where he wouldn't be able to control you.

exitseven · Answer

Maybe instead of breaking up with you, the mature thing would be to try and get some job with a future.

MariaEve · Answer

Normal for insecure guys, and your boyfriend is one of them.

WhitneySnow · Answer

He’s an idiot and you’re better off rid of him

Staximus · Answer

Sounds like the trash took itself out, consider yourself lucky

Smileygirl2000 · Answer

What a jerk, wow. You can do better. He's insecure and shallow

genericname85 · Answer

sounds like he left you cause you're a reckless spender. not cause you earn more than him.

LC75LC71 · Answer

Assuming this is actually true.. Why stay around his broke ass? and if he was smarter he could have got you to spend more money on him.

DishLady · Answer

He's a jerk. Move on. Next...

Anonymous · Answer

Sounds like you've had a very lucky escape from an extremely insecure lowlife.

AngryCarl3 · Answer

No, that's not normal. However if that's the reason he's giving I would accept it.

Ariesman81Nshiiit · Answer

Dude's just being proactive. Probably the right move.

noohair · Answer

Sounds like he did you a favor. Good luck with finding a man instead of a boy.

Anonymous · Answer

well he can provide for u , pay the rent , groceries and living expenses

Mysterious2346 · Answer

Your ex is a loser, I think you should be happy that you're gone.

robocop666 · Answer

he's a fucking moron and your better off without him

objective_calendar · Answer

Waste of a perfect sugar mommy

Just_Ken · Answer

Well he's a fool.

abc3643 · Answer

His problem. Consider this a blessing in disguise.

MissSunshine2 · Answer

It sounds like he’s using it as an excuse.

lilBigPotato · Answer

Insecure and a waste of your time.

slatyb · Answer

He's going to be a lonely boy.

MrChinaski · Answer

His loss, your gain.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

He was ashamed so he gave up

dudeinohio · Answer

Not normal and a senseless reason.

Anonymous · Answer

Very common.

kinks1951 · Answer

Hurt his self-esteem

Pterodon · Answer

Very immature

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