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One person may go from ugly duckling to swan while another may peak early and it's all downhill from there.

Are you aging like a fine wine, or do you feel as if your looks have gotten worse with age?

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I'm hoping to get some outside perspective on a situation with a guy I used to work with, as I feel I might be overthinking things. There's been a spark between us, but I'm unsure if it's mutual. Here are some details:

1. **Post-Work Interactions**: We often spent time together after everyone else had left, and he would walk me home, lingering a bit.

2. **Attention to Details**: He remembered small details about me, but I wonder if this is just part of his intelligent and observant personality.

3. **Eye Contact and Body Language**: He often gave prolonged eye contact, making me feel drawn in. He also mirrored my posture at the table.

4. **Subtle Physical Contact**: When sitting close, our knees would touch, and he wouldn’t move away. His body would be angled towards me, though he never sat extremely close.

5. **Mixed Messages**: He mentioned going on dates with others, walks at my pace, and has never inquired about my dating life. His messages are usually short, and we mostly meet in group settings.

6. **Personal Insecurities**: I’ve often felt like the 'ugly duckling' or second choice, so I’m unsure if I’m misinterpreting his friendliness as interest.

7. **Shared Interests**: We have a lot in common, and I've tried initiating light physical touches, which he responds to with laughter, but he doesn’t initiate similar actions.’

Im seeking your kind and considerate advice to help interpret these signs. Do you think there might be a romantic interest on his part, or am I reading too much into these interactions? Any insights or similar experiences would be greatly appreciated. we

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Just like the saying ''once a cheater, always a cheater'', does the same applies to bullies? They never sincerely change don't they? I'll tell you a brief real experience.

In both 7th and 8th grade, I used to get obstracized by classmates and picked on for being somewhat overweight, wearing glasses and had facial acne issues. In other words, I was the ugly girl at school. My emotional/verbal bully (lets call him James) made my school years miserable, humiliating in front of the class many times. Every day after school, I felt horrible about myself.

Over the years I've worked on myself and grew out of the ugly duckling stage. Just 3 months ago, I get a Fb message and invitation from none other than James. He started complimenting on my change and how he's sorry for before. I wasn't convinced but wanted to test him if he had really changed. I let him pay all the dates. On the 4th date, something was funny to him. I asked him what it was and he secretly pointed out to an elder woman (she was apparently suffering from obesity issue and spots in her face) that was having a hard time sitting on a bench alone. That's when he told me ''Look at her, she looks like Porky's girlfriend, see those legs and she looks like a melted cheese. LMAO''. He excused that since it's in private and he's only saying it to me, it's no big deal.

I got upset and told him that was he was same superficial jerk from our school years, the same 13-14 year-old bully that all he cares is about appearances and not a person's values, left and blocked him. We're now 24 year-olds already. He hasn't changed. Are bullies generally like that?