Many of the people who have betrayed me have apologized but I can’t let go because it happened far too often. One time would have been hard to deal with but something I could overcome. A few times hurts. But I can count on both hands the amount of times I have been betrayed and it starts to hurt at some point. The reason, as crazy as it sounds, has been explained to me to be jealousy in a lot of instances. The jealousy was hard for me to accept because even though I’m pretty a lot of people are. Being good looking isn’t some rare thing but I started to learn over the years that this is how life is gonna be. I started adjusting to the idea that I just simply couldn’t trust people. No matter how I used to think about people with trust issues as pessimist’s or people who lacked accountability I started to realize that even when I picked myself apart trying to understand why it happened so many times that my only sin was that I had the wrong company. But it was frequent enough that it scarred me and scared me away from truly trusting people. Now I don’t even feel surprised anymore when people hurt me. The only thing that surprises me is when people are genuine, and it’s crazy but that hasn’t been too common in my life. When I was younger I was an ugly duckling and the loss of my friends in middle school was hard but I was able to understand that part of the reason why I lost those friends was because I didn’t try to fit in. I embraced being the weird kid which was a big mistake. And when I lost all my friends because of it I realized that I had to make an effort to be better and more likeable. But In high school and beyond the fact that people liked me caused me to get a lot of haters, many of whom were my own friends. It’s like I couldn’t win. I got a bit of popularity but oddly I haven’t made any close friends in years. Just people saying I’m pretty, likeable or asking to be friends. Being betrayed by my recent friends hurt too much to make new friends.
How to carry on after constant betrayal? Can anyone relate?
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The real key is to be able to spot the type of person who would do that.
People think it's hard, but it's really not. Maybe it depends on your judgment of character, but I've never been betrayed by a girl, ever. That's because I saw the signs in the ones who I knew would, and wasn't blinded by lust and infatuation, and I didn't let it get serious
Genuine people have a certain way about them, and a certain aura that's easy to spot if you're in touch with that kind of stuff.
It might not be 100% accurate, but so far it has been for me
I've been betrayed by friends, but that's mainly because I didn't really give a shit about them anyway
One trick you can do right now is wait a little longer before someone does earn your trust. Not avoid it completely, but don't give it up at the first sign of love.
I know you're just here to vent, so you're probably not even reading this, but maybe it'll help someone else
This is called life experience and don't let it affect u for having bad friends in the past instead leaen from it and keep distance, know when to open ur heart for someone and try to give some trust
learn to trust again?