This is kind of hard to describe but I don't like girls who are already attractive or good looking as romantic options. To me, it just makes me think I don't really like them; I just want to sleep with them.
Ideally, if I were to seriously date or marry someone, I'd want that to be someone I can "grow to love." A woman who has undergone a transformation of sorts. Whether it be a girl I knew since we were both 12, who has grownup to be a sexy woman, or a woman who was once considered overweight and ugly, who has shed 100+ pounds and "turned" into someone conventionally beautiful. A woman who has undergone a transformation or "glow up" that I knew and liked far before that process. Does that make any sense?
A woman who's already just "hot" seems like she has nowhere else to go. Like it's just all downhill from here. Like I missed her greatest life moments and now she's at the "end" of her journey. That's lame to me.
I know women don't consider me attractive, or tall enough, or anything. And I'm not looking to date anyway. And I know women are the total opposite when it comes to this sort of thing (they just want men who are already "perfect" and at the Finish Line; not the guy who started from the bottom and worked his way up).
But if I was dating someone, I'd want a woman who started off "ugly and unlikeable" by the masses, and I stood by her side, and watched her transform along the way into the "nine" people later see her as. Not that it only has to be a physical transformation. I'll never have that so-called "glow up," but I do like girls more in their "Before" phase than the "After."
I dunno. Am I the only one who values and appreciates an "ugly duckling/beautiful swan" woman a lot more than a "prepackaged hottie"?
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