Just like the saying ''once a cheater, always a cheater'', does the same applies to bullies? They never sincerely change don't they? I'll tell you a brief real experience.
In both 7th and 8th grade, I used to get obstracized by classmates and picked on for being somewhat overweight, wearing glasses and had facial acne issues. In other words, I was the ugly girl at school. My emotional/verbal bully (lets call him James) made my school years miserable, humiliating in front of the class many times. Every day after school, I felt horrible about myself.
Over the years I've worked on myself and grew out of the ugly duckling stage. Just 3 months ago, I get a Fb message and invitation from none other than James. He started complimenting on my change and how he's sorry for before. I wasn't convinced but wanted to test him if he had really changed. I let him pay all the dates. On the 4th date, something was funny to him. I asked him what it was and he secretly pointed out to an elder woman (she was apparently suffering from obesity issue and spots in her face) that was having a hard time sitting on a bench alone. That's when he told me ''Look at her, she looks like Porky's girlfriend, see those legs and she looks like a melted cheese. LMAO''. He excused that since it's in private and he's only saying it to me, it's no big deal.
I got upset and told him that was he was same superficial jerk from our school years, the same 13-14 year-old bully that all he cares is about appearances and not a person's values, left and blocked him. We're now 24 year-olds already. He hasn't changed. Are bullies generally like that?
He reminds me of the bullies that are only sorry if they find out you've become their manager or you are happily married and processed in life but would still hate you if you were poor and working at a fast food restaurant. Once a bully always a bully?
