He broke up with me, now he wants to talk?

[Anonymous]

Since the break up I cut all the contact so I can move on, now he messaged me: “I need to talk to you” but I ignored it... why he stills contacted me if he dumped me?

[Anonymous]

Two things... Either he didn't find anyone or Sex. I don't mean to be rude but it's the sad truth. People only want things that they don't access to. He will meet you, he will say that he misses you... and you gonna feel like he is the one... you will date him... he will leave you again... and back to where you started... i know everyone deserves a second chance but if there's no trust there's no place for anything... as they say once a thread is broken... even if you try to join it... There will always a knot. Apart from it you are mature... final decision is yours to make.. I wish you all the best

[Asker]

Yes, I don’t trust him even though he didn’t cheat on me, but the moment he told me that long ago he didn’t have feelings for me... was the moment the thread broke

[Sadly_It_Fell_Off]

Expertly put !

[2opaz]

he realised he made a mistake leaving behind a wonderful girl like you

i think you should hear him out on what he has to say at least and then decide from there

[Asker]

Yes I will take your advice, Just I don’t want to be hurt again, maybe his message was just a mere reaction driven by a moment, that’s why I don’t feel like answering, if he really have something important to tell he would make an effort to reach out, wouldn’t he? I guess time will tell

[2opaz]

hmmm since you ignored his message, he might have taken a hit to eff off. I doubt he'll make another attempt to reach out so that he doesn't possibly make you angry. I think he figures "maybe she'll come back around and talk when she's ready"

Honestly i think you should message him back and ask him what he wanted to talk about.

[Asker]

It’s the third time I ignore him, the first message he was angry and complain about me, at that time we had weeks of no contact. The next one he was kind of sorry about how he reacted and wanted to be in good terms with me ( asking to be his friend). I think he needs to make up his mind first.

[2opaz]

he had an emotional outburst, it's completely understandable.

he then came to his senses after cooling down a realized he messed up and wants to apologize. Or at least be on good term with you

why did you 2 break up?

[Asker]

He told me he didn’t feel the spark and that he had plans for a future (clearly I wasn’t part of it). Deep inside me something tell me that he wasn’t sure about his life, and that I became some kind of routine. also he was dealing with many personal issues. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not the kind that excuses this behavior and will accept him back with my arms wide open, but something tells me that we needed this break up in order to evaluate our relationship and ourselves, we didn’t value the things we had until their aren’t in our life

[Asker]

I think his crisis can happen to anyone... they are pretty normal, sometimes we need to breath and realize what we want to do with our life of be in a small break from everything. This experience has help me to invest some time on my on, to grow and to keep going

[2opaz]

May the universe bless you 2 with a peace of mind so you both can proceed with your lives on clear footing.

I do hope it works out for the best for both of you. :)

[Asker]

Thank you! 😊 thank you for your advise and your point of view!

[Anonymous]

He has to be prepared to have a straight talk with you, you'll be able to tell from that. And if he won't, well there's your answer, don't waste your time.

[islagrl_81]

He doesn't know what he wants. You're better off keeping the train moving to something new or doing you

[Asker]

Yeah! I want someone that doesn’t “change his mind” about wanting or not wanting...

[ShyGuy30]

I’ve Been in this situation before, my ex broke up with me. For months after she would get in touch with me and say she wanted to talk etc and because I wanted to get back together I met up with her. It was just a massive game she was playing because she was unsure of her feelings so played with my feelings and it was an awful situation for me. Block his number, delete him off social media and avoid him in public it may be hard now but you’ll be ten times better off for it!

[VeryConfused987]

He might regret his decision. But if he says this is it, if he hints he wants you back, make damn sure he does. I. e. don't automatically trust him. Cuz he might just be leading you on for ego or because he wants to Ralph to someone he knows will care, even if he doesn't care back

[RubenFilipe]

Just boys being boys , he broke up feels free and radiant. 2 weeks later starts to miss u. After that one day loses is mind and send a message. But don't answer , after a while it will end the same way that both of u are now

[Asker]

Yeah, maybe he just feels that way right now and days laters he change his mind

[RubenFilipe]

I felt the same way when I broke up with my ex , and I miss her for real sometimes , but missing is not enough.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I would say keep moving on cause he will continue
doing the same thing over again.

[WhiteKnight2]

this could mean a lot of things, not necessarily that was wants to get back together.

[rickbrown6032]

If he dump you and your over him don't respond never go backwards it prove your weak if you do and he win

[girlwithmusic]

Remember that the heart can only be broken once. The rest are just scratches.

[yug143]

Move on. Change your mind. Set your aim and go for it... You have another chance for love.

[doobedoo22]

If it's something important to really talk about then it's ok but if it's about y'all's relationship then it's a big no no

[justasimpleusername]

Exes always come back if they were the ones to leave

[Xeon_Xenon]

Because he really loves you.
If not then
he doesn't have any other place to fuck around.

[Missterio]

maybe he wants to get back together with you

[Missterio]

which isn't necessarily a bad thing

if he realised he was wrong.

[Asker]

Who knows, I really took very serious the break up, I’m trying to not fall in a game, I worked so hard to move on.. that I don’t want to be hurt again, I love myself too much to let me fall again, he isn’t a bad person but I don’t believe him anymore...

[Missterio]

depends on why you guys broke up

[Chanel1981]

Why did you break up?

[Cursewords]

Because he's retarded.

[es20490446e]

Why wouldn't you like to talk with him?

[Asker]

I don’t want to be a part of a “game”, he wasn’t clear what he wanted in that message, for me It could mean anything, he miss me, he just wants to feel worthy again.. or play with me.. who knows... I worked hard to move on, I don’t want to be bothered by small things, if it was really important he should called me or come to my house. Maybe I’m afraid to let my cold heart get feelings again..

[es20490446e]

I would tell him that if he breaks with you again, you won't be returning back. Without exceptions.

[OpenWine]

doesn't matter, does it?

[Asker]

Yeah, I don’t want to be part of anyone game!

[OpenWine]

then forget about it haha. do whatever you like and let the past be the past.

if he comes pissing u off tell him to fuck of

[shubhammantri25]

He must be unable to find another like u

[vaibhavsngh]

Just listen the reason then do what you want to do

[321rose]

Fuck himmmmm!!! Lol

[false]

it doesn't matter.
just keep moving on