Why don't guys ever like me back?

[Anonymous]

Ever since high school no guy has ever liked me back. So far I've been rejected by like 7 or 8 guys. I'm 18 years old and still don't have a boyfriend and never been kissed. I started liking this new guy. In person he'd always stare at me and give me signs of a guy who likes me. Now that I'm not going to be able to see him in person anymore I decided to message him on aim and facebook. He either takes forever to reply, ends the conversation fast, or just never replies. I'm really hurt but it's like I saw it coming. In high school guys always thought I was weird and they made fun of me. Guys would always make fun of my voice. My sister is always getting all the guys. She has so many guys chasing after her. She's already been kissed and has had a boyfriend. So far I just see no point in liking any guy because I feel like I'm going to be rejected. I just want to give up. The only guys that go after me are the guys who try to get with every girl just for sex. Honestly, it hurts a lot because I have really low self esteem as it is.

[acka72]

Ummm... I am 25 and I am having my first relationship... but due to my experience of rejection... I can tell you that you are probably looking in the worng places and at that age the guys that do like you are probably too afraid to even talk to you let alone ask you out. So you should learn to keep your eyes peeled and choose the guys that like you from a start instead of chasing those guys that dont. With regards to your voice... who cares... we all have something we do not like about ourselves however if you keep a positive attitude about yourself you would be amazed to discover how many guys like you without being Angelina Jolie. Do not fret about age and boyfriend experience, when you do meet someone who genuinely loves you he will not give a crap and if you do not have any lousy love experiences you will be more apt to love him without fear.

PS: If your voice is as obnoxious as Fran Fine in the "Nanny" or anything nasal... I would recommend you to go to a nose doctor to clear or straighten the nose inside. Maybe you have an allergy or something... so check it out and maybe you will be able to breath through your nose and not through your mouth so looking like a doofus could be fixed as well.

[Asker]

Hahahahaha! My voice isn't that bad. I just feel hurt ever since this girl in high school said I sound like a man and this guy said I talk like an idiot. He said I mumble all the time and people can't understand a thing I say. Now I altered my voice so no problem.

[kaylayy]

hunny! honestly, don't worry about it... I totally agree with what the first guy commented, you should kinda back out of the dating game, and let the guys do the work. if he likes you, he'l message you. & if you message/text a guy, he'll ALWAYS answer you if he likes you! :) I'm almost 19, and I only just got my first kiss.. so just remember that you're not the only person out there going through this dilemma.. k? it'll happen eventually.. you just have to kinda go with the flow & let what happens happen..

also, when you're talking to a guy, don't let on that you're insanely in love with him or anything.. kindof play hard to get (dont be mean though), just don't let toooo much of your feelings show before you're sure that he feels the same way about you.. :)

trust me! you'll find you're guy, sometimes, you just have to wait a while..

[akire]

Believe me you should be happy you haven't been with a guy they just complicate things. Plus your so young to be even worried about "guys" plus all these guys are pigs. Let your sister have the attention psh you don't need or want it become successful go to school and believe me you will meet a guy do what you like and believe you ll find someone who shares the same interests as you you have so much ahead of you to learn love yourself exercise get in shape if already not learn something interesting so that when you do meet someone you can have something to offer good sense of humor you don't need a guy you want one that's what I say. Yes you may feel lonley but that's wht friends are for. Enjoy yourself the right guy will come along don't worry only time will tell. Don't ever look for anyone theyll find you and you'll know it, Goodluck

[uwbadgerguy]

just make yourself available and stay flirty with possible dates, stores, clubs, coffee shops, etc. always smile when making eye contact as that is sort of an invitation to come talk to you. it is unfortunately the guys job to start things up so just put yourself out there and wait for it to happen.

maybe ask your sister to evaluate your look? you are probably not naturally 'hot' (as a hot girl simply doesn't have these kinds of problems) so like the rest of us, make sure you are maximizing your appearance so as to entice guys to come over; that means hit the gym, watch your diet, clothes, hair, skin, makeup etc.

a lot of guys, especially at your age, are only after sex. while I don't necessarily condone it, maybe live a little and pound one of them, it might help your confidence?

[GingerRage]

Great advice/insight!

[Kyle66]

I think that you should just wait and see. the right guy will come around and you'll be happy. I wouldn't waste my time on some guy that won't take the time to speak to you. good luck.

[12elizabeth]

no you shouldn't feel like that there are many guys out there some are jerk faces some are gentleman and you should wait until you have a choice so take your pic. Pick one that values you for you not for someone you try to be or for someone your not.

[shyguy007]

I would take the time to know you and date you. You sound like a sweet enough girl :)

[bradd]

get out there and have fun. live it up, hang out with friends meet new people and live life, it will help make you more confidant by trying and doing new things, and this will help you attract better boyfriend material. god luck

[akkenny]

dont worry bout it I'm 19 and and can't even talk to girls. You should stop asking guys out. let them come to you its there job and relax