like seriously, I don't get it :/ I'm always either good until it goes to having a relationship, or not an option at all... Am I ugly or something? I mean, I'm funny, i'm caring and smart and i could be a great housewife and i have multiple talents. i'm the kind of girl that gives you space and doesn't ask for stuff, like ever. All i ever want in a relationship is consistency. I wanna be able to talk to my guy every day, doesn't matter for how long, as long as i know he's okay and i get a good morning and a good night and i want trust and honesty. Once those things are there, I'm not gonna be bothering him too much, unless he wants me to. I'm up for anything and all about making my man happy and yet they don't like me? why? Is it commitment they're afraid of? they all like me for hanging out and being like "oh we should have more girls like you" but why am I not good enough? by the way, here's a pic of me.
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since I've noticed people think I'm talking about guys around my age, I have to clarify, I never date guys my age. I usually go for older guys, funny guys that are at least two years older than me. Sucks I'm actually just 18 cause all the guys that usually want commitment are older than 25.. Which would be fine by me, but I think no man would want a girlfriend this younger.
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Anyway, let's spice this post up. So there is this guy that I'm into currently. And he had told me he also liked me. However he specified we weren't gonna go on a relationship since we're so far away. Fine by me. He said we'd be on hold. Okay. But now, he's saying things that completely opposite to these? Maybe he's just jokingly teasing me like he will usually do? Or maybe he's not. All I know is he does't wanna have a serious conversation about our relationship.
You said you could be a great housewife and you have multiple talents.
It is 2020, what can and do you do?
What career are you going for? Do you want to be reliant on a man for your well being?
If housewife is your goal then you NEED a man.
You should provide for yourself and have your own life, then find a man who can compliment your life, not be responsible for it.
Now if you have your own career and purpose in life and them meet a guy who you fall in love with and you decide you want to stay at home and raise. the kids, then kudos to you. Live your. life how you want, but in my opinion living your life with the goal of being a housewife means you will always be co-dependent and will mean you always have to rely on someone else for your well being.
Some men want a woman that relies on them, but more often then not they want control and that may also lead to abuse.
I actually am going to a cooks' school in a few months. I could literally do anything if i wanted, as i've already mentioned, i AM multi-skilled. But that's what i decided on. Thanks, seriously, did youyou actually think that all i want is to be a house wife? Its not the '60s anymore, you know.
Well, I apologize if I didn't understand what you wrote.
However, you wrote something, I read it, then I interpreted into what I think you are asking.
The fact you wrote 'house wife' means that you it something you considered, OTHERWISE, you wouldn't have wrote it.
Regardless, I apologize. for making the assumption based off your words.
It is great to see you are putting your talents to good use, and it is exciting to hear someone say 'I could literally do anything if I wanted'. That is the perfect attitude for life and it WILL take you far of you remember it.
I believe, WE are responsible for limiting OURSELVES. You are removing that limit and will hopefully accomplish everything you want and more.
I want to end with that I am very much aware it is not the 60's and as I pointed out in my response that housewife makes you dependent and I suggested you get independent first.
Sounds like you have it under control however and I hope you do extremely well in school and end up making a world class chef.
You're asking for the type of relationship that isn't common at all at your age. Guys are looking for "play," not a girlfriend who requires attention (even just a good morning text), etc. As far as whether guys like you, or not, you're pretty enough to get a decent guy, but either the guys in your age group aren't looking for a girlfriend, or maybe you're setting your standards too high, and hoping to get the attention from guys who aren't interested in YOU (other than possibly a hookup). From your photo you're slightly better than average, but if you're going for the guys who are 8-10/10, they've got their pick of the litter, meaning they'll only be trying for the hottest girls (they can't see your personality).
I actually never date a guy that isn't at least two years older than me and obviously i can't date a guy older than 26 at the moment, it would be weird. But, yeah, I usually go for guys that aren't that good looking. I do need my guy to be funny, so usually they're nerdy, funny guys, that most people would call a 7/10 .. Being 18 and a virgin is annoying, cause most guys freak out.
If a guy freaks out at an 18 year old being a virgin then they have problems, that wouldn't bode well for a relationship. That'd be the only reason a normal guy over 22 would prefer to date a girl 18-21: they have less baggage, and fewer notches.
Girl you're beautiful! there is nothing wrong with you! any guy would be lucky to date you!. My friend explained this to me: boys want hookups, no commitment and men want relationships, commitment. The people you're going after are boys
It's ironic that you update the questions to guys over 25 want to date because men's brains develop slower and the prefrontal cortex doesn't develop for them until then
Well nothing wrong with your looks👌so maybe its just your choice of men or you end up being agressive? are you letting the relationship advance on its own weight with little nudge here and there or do you kinda push on?
@SatansLemon well I mean an extreme example is I matched this woman on tinder and we start chatting and before we even have our first date it seems she is trying to make me the stepfather of her children that kind of stuff like are you trying to make it into a serious relationship too early or something Ps. But what do i know my relationships are kinda nonexistant😂
Many guys don't want a relationship until they feel they have to settle, but you seem like a lovely young lady that I or any other guy would be lucky to have. As for the guy, what kinds of things is he saying now?
at first he said he'd wait for me to go there and i'd work for him and I could stay with him and such, but now he's kind of distant.. He says stuff he knows will make me angry just to have a laugh, cause apparently i am funny when I'm angry.. He acts as if he has forgotten all of the things he told me before and we agreed to.. i mean.. i love him, but, is he really worth my pain?
If a guy made a dating profile and wrote ''I'm funny, i'm caring and smart'' he'd get zero responses... what makes you think it would be any different for you?
Ok so I’m right. Your best option is to let him know what you THINK you will be like if he fucks you. Let him know how much he will want to keep fucking you, if you let him.
okay first of all, I'm not a slut. I've had chances to fuck guys, way too many times, but I like to keep my self-respect and wait for a serious realtionship. He wants to fuck me. but he's not willing to go into serious relationship right now. Fucking other guys is not an option.
You have nothing to worry about. Look at how young you are, with time you'll find your partner then you'll think all the worrying you had was for nothing. Live your life to the fullest and try your best to be happy until that point comes along.
he had relationships before.. why am I the problem? why do guys keep seeing me as a sex tool? l mean, I dont know what kind of sluts they dated before, but I'm not giving it so easily.
No wedding, i don't wanna get married. I just don't want to regret it. I wanna give it to a guy that will feel right, even if he's not the guy i end up with.
funny guys, that make me feel nice around them. looks do not matter at all. And apparently I have a type. They have all been gamers, brunets, not exactly hot guys, i'd say they're usually cute guys.. Something like that anyways
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