Guys when you see your ex and she looks better than ever, do you have a hard time not thinking about her?

[Anonymous]

Just wondering I finally gave in and met my ex for coffee after 8 months of no contact (my decision). I had dropped 56 lbs since the last time he saw me. I know he did the full body scan 3 times min (it was almost awkwardly obvious). When we sat down he told himself the entire time on the drive to see me he told him self he wasn't going to compliment me but he had to say that I looked really good. Would you guys regret ending things with a girl if this were the case and would it be hard to not think about her after that?

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+1 y

yeah he repeatedly was getting ahold of me trying to see me / talking to me. He does have another girl friend now ... I don't know how you would even compare her to me considering she is short brunette with no chest. I am a tall blond with D's and now a nice behind lol (I hate squats but they are so worth it)

[Tamikaze]

If relationships were built or ended based only on T&A, then I could see why you are asking this question, but a true relationship is about an emotional connection and it would be hard to see how you losing weight would cause him to suddenly feel emotionally connected to you.

As far as him thinking of you sexually, sure that could be a possibility.

I used to be so under the impression that if I just looked hotter, had bigger this or smaller that, it would solve my relationship problems. It doesn't. However, I do agree that looking great is the best revenge. Enjoy how good you look, forget about the ex, and look for someone else that not only is physically attracted to you but who is your emotional match. Good luck!

[Asker]

I completely agree wth what you said... we only dated for 2 months and he was going through a divorce so he wasn't ready to emotionally open himself to me. So it ended pretty quick... but I take it as a great sign he regreted his decision because he repeatedly tried to get hold of me. But it was sweet sweet revenge to shove in his face how fantastic I look and feel :)

[Tamikaze]

Yes, that is sweet revenge as long as you never go back to dating him. A guy like this who lusts for your bod but did not connect with you before, well he's a prime candidate for treating you badly again and just using you for sex. Who needs that headache.

[sammey]

This might sound rude, but I keep trying to lose weight but I just give up after a while. Now that my boyfriend broke up with me I am using that as an excuse and motivation to lose the weight so I can make him regret breaking up with me. I see him every summer because his family has a summer cabin next to ours. so he will be seeing me in my bathing suit swimming in the lake. Sucks for him. I still love him, and if he asked me out again.. id probably give him a second chance. idk.

[Asker]

yeah I used our break up as my motivation for the next time I would see him to make him kick himself... and then after a while it wasn't so much about that as it was about getting myself healthy... message me if you want any tips I have a whole bunch you will find helpful! Good luck

[sammey]

lol! how can I message you if you are anonymous?

[Asker]

ha ha ha I will request you as a friend!

[DocClassic]

it would depend on my situation, like if I was seeing another girl and she was hotter and nicer, then I probably wouldn't care much. but if my life was in shambles after the break up, ya it would kill to see here like that. but either way, congrats on losing 56lbs, that's really good

[Asker]

thank you I don't know how you would compare his current girlfriend with me ... she is short (5'4") built like a twig with no chest and a brunette she is built like audrina partridge. I am 5'11" with D's, long legs, blond hair and a now nice booty (thanks to squats lol) I am definitely skinny just built more like like rebecca romaine

[DocClassic]

haha ya two very different ends of the spectrum, but its really just down to preference. I personally think that they are both really hot

[EttieBetty]

Maybe its your incredible ego and fixation with your own boots that he broke up with. Maybe his new girlfriend is... Nice!!@?

[jyoung20]

Yea, it'd definitely make me want her more, which recently my ex got even hotter and I tell you it's tough to see her and not be able to rip her clothes off and do her right there. :D

[Keyspirits]

Ohh nice! A cutie who have da D. That's awesome to know 👌

[Patricule]

yep, you'll be like I've made a bad decision, but you broke up with her for a reason in the first place.

[Anonymous]

Tall blond with Ds sounds awesome! Congrats!