What to think if my ex mentions how her rebound had a tiny dick?

[Anonymous]

She also mentioned some otherstuff about how he was obsessed and insecure about me. With stalking my social media, accusing her of still loving me. And vented a lot about how he was shit to her and borderline abusive. Granted she legitimately did it to work through stuff.

But one other thing stood out about what she was saying. Something that she definitely didn't have to mention. Her words were effectively this.

"When we would have sex, I never thought about him. I always thought about other stuff **Pauses** and other people" (Obviously referencing me)

[UniquelyBasic]

Its up to you. I can't think for you. What can you do about it though? Seems pointless and I dont know what the point of her telling you about her rebound does for you or her.

[Asker]

I mean, I love her. And we already did agree that we both want to be together, but that she needs time to heal.

And her tell me about him is so she can work through the breakup as its still pretty recent. During it, she always thought of me, worried about me, and would check on me from afar. Just like I've done with her. Plus we just seem to have a connection where no matter what we always cheer the other up.

But I do feel like the comment about his dick and that shed think of me during sex is a bit much, cause it seems like its not helping her and is only showing she preferes me in that way too.

[UniquelyBasic]

I mean she's an ex for a reason and I think it was wrong of her to use someone else as a rebound knowing she wasn't over you. Its up to both of you if you want to work it out and get back together.

[Asker]

I mean, I think we both know deep down that we wanna get back as we admitted as much and that we both regret not trying to work through our issues.

The breakup was on her, and partially stress related from work and scummy friends that she cut contact with on her own. The rebound was probably to fill the void left by me but instead it was bell for her, making her suicidal and hate herself. But she left and is chalking it up as a learning experience

[UniquelyBasic]

Yeah, a relationship is the last thing she needs right now at least until she works on herself mentally.

[Asker]

Yea, definitely. So we agreed that it’s a future thing for us. But that we’ll still be there for eachother and to be friends otherwise. A lot of the issues stem from her stress from work and that fuck head. But he’s in her past now, and she’s starting a new job soon. Plus is trying to go sober, so I think she’s taking her issues seriously

But I feel like it will be alright in the end for us