I know I messed up bad, but do I deserve to be punished like this by her?

[Anonymous]

I was physically abusive toward my ex girlfriend/woman carrying my child while she was six months pregnant and she left me. I did go too far and I hate to even go into detail to what I did and said. I could have killed her and our unborn child, but I regret it. Yet, she still doesn’t want me there when the baby is born, she doesn’t want him to have my last name and she doesn’t want me on the birth certificate. She claims she fears for our child’s life/safety if he were to ever be around me. She’s basically trying to take my child away from me as if she’s perfect. I have rights as his father.

[SnowedIn]

You do have some rights. Not many, but you have rights. You need an attorney and a very huge humbleness to approach this. But, yes, you deserve this. You did something bad -- horrific -- and I cannot see any woman wanting you in their life or wanting your name for the baby. (By the way, names are not one of your rights. Depending on the state if you're in American, your name may or may not be on the birth certificate.) I'd fear for my life too. Your best course of action would be to work with an attorney not to force something with her or with the child but to offer to provide support for the baby. At that point, leave them be.

[Guy13]

Sounds like a legal aid/attorney visit required?

[LazerBean]

You admitted to putting your child at danger, so yes you deserve this and much more.

[DiegoO]

First, man up, assume your decision; your entire fault. She never did or said something that made you do that—no woman will ever say or do something that will make you *do that*.

You don't need a girlfriend or a woman in your life, you need a lot of therapy, related to your violent outburst. Unfortunately, she'll need therapy also. More importantly, keep far from you and people like you.

[boggboss]

All u can do is get some level of custody through the courts but if u was physically abusive her fears are warranted